Should I tell my buddy the real reason I'm not coming to his 4th of July party or come up with a different lie? Truth of the matter is I drink too much and I'm on a sobriety break. It's really fucking hard for me. I don't know if I can sit around for 6+ hours with everyone drinking and not drink myself.

I don't know if he's going to be sympathetic to that. I feel like he'll either tell me "one day won't hurt you, just go back to sobriety tomorrow" or "just come over and don't drink." He's a very pushy type of person, and definitely the type to get offended when you don't show to something he invited you to.

Honestly I'm going to have to learn to go to things sober eventually if I'm gonna sustain this, but I feel like today probably is too early in my sobriety to go raw dog it for hours and hours on end. What should I say?

>>33315236 (OP)
What's the plan? You always have to drink with them, or just today? Can you not stop once you start drinking?

>>33315236 (OP)
Normally, I'd say tell the truth because you have a perfectly good reason to not good, but that depends on your friend being a reasonable person. It sounds like he isn't so yeah definitely lie to him and consider finding other friends that care more about your wellbeing

>>33315248
I'd say when we hang out there's almost always booze & weed. But if it's a shorter hang out or focused on something else besides drinking, I could probably manage. Today is like an all-day/night drinking session where everyone will be getting slammed, playing drinking games, eating a bunch of food... I'm currently on a diet too, trying to get back to my weight before a really bad injury happened to me.

I tend to not stop drinking once I start, yeah. I don't really get sloppy or embarrass myself, it's just that I'll knock back 1500 calories of booze like it's nothing, and when not sober I drink at home alone a lot. Like, easily 10+ beers or hard seltzers a day. I'm already down 11 lbs since I stopped drinking, 22 for the year with a previous booze break. I don't want to break my progress and open up the floodgates of drinking and eating like shit today. I was planning on going but I didn't realize how much I would crave getting slammed and eating like shit until I watched the hot dog contest a minute ago.

>>33315273
I might be overthinking his reaction to be honest. He already lectured me this week when I told him not to account for me in the booze or food headcount for the party, saying I should have healthier long term habits so I don't have to miss out on special events... but he might just shrug his shoulders and forget I'm not coming once he's busy with hosting more people. I'm just one guy.

>>33315287
It's probably not the best friend group. But why not just stick to weed, or does that make you too hungry? Today I'd just give an excuse, like idk, your dog is sick or something else.

>>33315295
You know him better than we do OP. He's right that you should get healthier overall so this situation doesn't come up, but in the short-term the choice to lie or not is really down to whether or not you think this guy will pressure you into coming

>>33315341
They're fine, I'd say as a whole they don't pressure anyone to drink/smoke if they don't want to, need to drive, whatever. I'd say as a whole they probably smoke a bit more than drink (and it's legal here so nbd). They're a fun group of good people. But for me, I can't smoke and socialize. I just laugh for a few minutes, overeat, and then pass out or at least zone out. I've tried different strains and that's how it always hits me. I can't even play video games at home when I get high. It's just like a movie or TV show in bed for me, haha.

>>33315351
Yeah for sure, I'm just trying to get some generalized opinions. The party doesn't even start for another 4.5 hours and I wouldn't get there until an hour after it opens up even if I decided to go and just get hammered and eat.