Just graduated college and nothing’s really worked out how I hoped. High School especially, but also college to some degree, were rough for me socially. Barely got attention from guys most of my life. Started getting some over the past year, but it's mostly been disasters. One dude was a Letterboxd freak who tried to touch me, stood me up, and publicly wrote weird, angry stuff about me on his account. Tried Hinge—been on multiple dates recently and they’ve all been awful. One guy got mad at me for not thinking Jojo’s Bizarre Adventure is deep art and “representative of the human condition” and then started playing alone on a playground mid-date.
I’ve moved back to my hometown and have been doing a 9 to 5 ever since graduation. I tried auditioning for a band and signing up for an art class to make life feel less mind numbing, but the band rejected me and the class guy never replied. I've tried using bumble bff but I don't have much time to text so most people lose interest quickly. I live with an alcoholic dad who screams at me and puts me down, and the house is literally full of black mold. I kind of had a couple of friends in college (none that really returned my efforts fully), but here, I have pretty much nobody except for one person who I rarely ever see. I had to break up with my ex of a few months before leaving my college town, partially because of the move. He was really the only guy I’ve ever gone out with who I felt was decent and with who there was a mutual effort involved at the very least. I tried messaging him recently and it wasn’t a bad conversation but it felt very sterile—almost like he never actually cared in the first place.
Just feel like I’m rotting in a cubicle for 8 hours a day, living in a horrible house, with no hope of ever having a proper boyfriend or even my own apartment (with the rent prices around where I live). I know this sounds dramatic but I seriously don’t know what I’m doing. I feel completely cooked.

>>33316407 (OP)
What is the advice you want to receive?
This board is for advising anons

>>33316439
Idk. I wanted to be more clear about the questions but the character limit got in the way. What should I even do about the situation with the weird men? Should I just take a break? Do I just need to try harder? Is hinge just bad and I should try something else? I've tried so hard already-- is it time to just accept that maybe it's not meant for me for some reason? Should I just get up one day and move out of my house on savings with a temporary job even though I may not be able to return home to my father after that? Is there a reason why this could all be happening to me specifically, or is this just a normal thing to be experiencing at 22? Could someone even go out with you for two months and be baking for you, tell you things like "it would be worth it for you" and "i'll wait for you and stand by you", be paying significant money for all your stuff, and sleeping in bed with you, night after night, but not actually care?

>>33316484
Okay this makes much more sense now. Let me try and help.

First off you need a friend (like a close one) someone who you can share these feelings with. I realize it is easier said then done but unfortunately it can't be pushed to the side.

>What should I even do about the situation with the weird men?
Do what most women do, block and realize most men are weird (don't worry we think women are weird as well)
Should I just take a break? Do I just need to try harder? Is hinge just bad and I should try something else?
You should look after your mental health. You aren't in a good headspace. I realize the other two attempts to get out of the house and try new stuff failed. It doesn't mean stop trying. You need something to take your mind off this stuff. Yourself First, Dating Second
>Should I just get up one day and move out of my house
You should look into roommates in the area via Facebook. There are usually some groups that help people. Also /soc/ has the whole /ann/ thread if you want to go that route.
>Could someone even go out with you for two months and be baking for you, tell you things like "it would be worth it for you" and "i'll wait for you and stand by you", be paying significant money for all your stuff, and sleeping in bed with you, night after night, but not actually care?
What do you mean not actually care? Like they are just lying to you about standing by you and waiting? Yes of course, men are bastards. You have to find the right one.

Listen I know your life sucks but its okay. It will get better. don't' be too hard on yourself and remember I'm rooting for you to get better anon.

>>33316569
Idk. Like, I can't say I've heard many really great stories from any other girls I've talked to about the men that THEY'VE gone out with, but I do feel like the men I see are usually particularly strange in a very specific way... But maybe it's just because I tend to like nerdier guys.

And I don't use 4chan often-- what is /ann/ and how do I access it, just out of curiosity? The fact that it's on /soc/ scares me a bit tho LOL

>>33316608
Yeah, I understand. But what do you mean in a specific way.

Also /Ann/ is a thread called adopt a neet. Also you are right to be scared lol. Its trying to match providers with neets. There are definitely some weirdos on there.

Also you don't mind me asking what do you normally use?

>>33316637
Like, I've talked to people who have gone out with guys they're not attracted to, or that string them along for months but see other girls and don't want to commit to them, ghost them, cheat on them, call them names, use them for sex, etc.

The guys I go out with just seem to be like, greasy chronically online people. Which isn't a dealbreaker on its own because I used to be a bit chronically online myself, but sometimes they have problems with hygiene and whatnot, or are just horrible to be around (like the Jojo's Bizarre Adventure guy...) or turn out to be assholes. It's probably partially my fault tho-- I kinda tend to like guys who are sorta pathetic. It's probably a mix of a daddy issues thing, a self-esteem thing, and just that I tend to identify with those sorts of people sometimes. Like, there's literally a 40 year old, formerly overweight, depressed looking and slightly incompetent lawyer at my job who wears suits that are now too big for him, talks like a cartoon nerd, and drives a car that looks like it belongs to a drug dealer that I've found myself looking at lately. I used to have an obsession with a nasty Russian waiter of a similar age at a restaurant I went to often. There's something wrong with me LMAO

I don't post much. I usually just yap with chat.gpt or character.ai. Once in a while I use duolicious to yap to randos.

And how do I like, look up a board tho? I tried to look it up on both google and on /soc/ and nothing came up :(

>>33316739
My apologies its /aan/ I can be a little dyslexic sometimes lol, here is a link to the thread.>>>/soc/33917738

Also maybe not the best to just be talking to chatgpt. I know it glazes and usually makes you feel better. However, people are usually better cause they will (if you are close enough) tell you when you are going over a line or not making sense.

With that other paragraph, listen girl it isn't sounding too good for your love life lol. I mean that in the nicest way possible. I will re-iterate just getting friends and working on yourself for a while (building up your confidence) is probably your best way forward. If not I'm sure I'll see you back on here soon enough.

Good luck anon, I'm sure you'll find the man of your dreams.

I rmbr ur thread/s

Looks like it's taken a more sombre note, with the added contextual details of your family and life circumstances

You seem to have matured or grown more self aware and generally aware, more down to earth and able to see the circumstances for what it is

I think some of the steps you should take are pretty obvious

Considering you likely just want to achieve the normie standardised pipeline of marriage kids

Keep going through the dice roll of human beings until you find ones that can help you realise your goals. Relocation maybe, a new job, a plan, etc

Gluck, I enjoyed reading some of your descriptions and characterisations of humans and yourself

>>33317835
Which threads? Lol

>>33316407 (OP)
Welcome to life, sweetheart. Now remember this: you have it set to easy mode. Just find some poor miserable fuck who is lonely and desperate enough to put up with your bullshit, and lay on your back for him just long enough to hit the minimum requirements to rob him in divorce court or a common law spouse suit.

>>33320740
girl, what

>>33320740
You seriously need one of those swirly lolipops and a propellor hat. Geez. Divorce got you down?