Am I a dick if I hate my friends? They all treat me like shit, like I'm still the same kid they knew in HS, but we're all in our 20s now. I don't want to be 30 years old still being treated like a little dog by my peers. To make matters worse they'll make me feel like an asshole if I just dip, but fuck it I'd rather have no friends then have zero self respect.
yeah man who cares, you should be making new friends every few years anyways
>>33320136 (OP)I say don't burn bridges about but explore other options
>>33320136 (OP)Give yourself a makeover. Train in MMA. Beat up one of your "friends."
>>33320136 (OP)Talk to them. If you can't come to an understanding or if nothing changes then yeah get rid of them.
40yo Oldfag here.
Every single friend you have in your twenties will get married have kids and drift away one by one. You will no longer talk to any of these people more than a few times a year if at all, if you choose to continue to be friends with them. They legitimately do not matter to your future self at all. With that said if they treat you like shit you should be cutting them off anyway.
>>33322407This. I would add to this and say that if they're not obnoxious/disrespectful to you in a 1 to 1 setting and have a decent job then just limit your interactions with them in groups and only hit them up for job referrals. Otherwise if they're just there for good times/can't help you advance in life financially and they disrespect you then you are way better of cutting them off and finding new people. The world is huge and you can easily make new friends at any time. I recently cut off a friend of 15 years because she recently started treating me like shit in group settings, meanwhile she's a NEET and we've been friends only through hobbies and past experiences. Sharing a lot of time together is not worth being put down over.
>>33320136 (OP)My advice wouldn't be to go cold turkey on them. Like the oldfag said (
>>33322407), most everyone will slowly fade one way or the other. You have to leverage the existing social capital to get some fresh blood. Meet new people. Creating a new social life from scratch is very, very hard.
>>33320136 (OP)Yes. I did it. I'd rather be alone for the same reason. But you're gonna have to replace them. Its work. Humans need friends.
Narrow down your entire list of friends to the only worthy ones. If that narrows down to nothing, then so be it. If one of your friends is actually an important connection, then swallow your pride and keep him. Otherwise, fuck 'em.
>>33320136 (OP)something about this episode triggered something in people and then the world went to shit
>>33322407this anon is right. i moved out of my area to live somewhere new nearly ten years ago and kept my online contacts open and phone number available. out of everyone that contacts me out of the blue just to see how things are going is a grand total of 2, one of them being my brother. thats it. i would have done the usual shit at christmas phoning people to wish them a happy one but the gesture has never been returned after all this time so at least i feel no guilt not staying in touch and concentrating on myself now,
