What's the most polite, understanding, and empathetic way to tell somebody that it's okay to tell me "nah man, I don't feel it" or "I can't today, another time" instead of leaving me on read and ignoring me when I propose to do something together?

My friends and younger brother keep doing this shit to me but I know I'll sound like an annoying and needy sad fuck if I call them out for it.

>>33320142 (OP)
Are you a woman? Jw

Just say "it's fine to tell me you're busy. Actually I'd prefer it because XYZ"

>>33320211
This.
>>33320142 (OP)

What's the politest kindest most empathetic way to tell someone "you dont need people to teach you how to have basic conversations. Say what you mean. No one's going to die of being offended, and its their problem if they are."

my experience is that no matter how polite you are about it, people will always fall back to their natural state.
not everyone has high conscientiousness, and at some point you just accept that if they don't answer you quickly (in an age where everyone is glued to their phones) that you are just not high on the priority list of their lives and that they are too cowardly to tell you outright.

>>33320211
Nope, I'm a man.

I forgot to mention that I have called them out on it in the past, but every time they swear they didn't see my message, even if they're on their PCs/phones all day every day. The annoying part is that when saying "didn't read your text" they reply the next day if I propose something for that evening, and reply next week if I suggest something for the weekend.
Sometimes I write and they instantly go invisible on whatsapp, discord, and Steam as soon as I click "send".

But I know that they can counter this by saying "are you lonely or something? why are you so entitled?"

>>33320276
You cant control others. Theyre rude little shits. Social consequences are what work here. And that gens pretty much eliminated social consequences.

Stop proposing to hang out then, obviously, if they don't have the courtesy to even give you a response.

>>33320276
Just be direct and say how you objectively feel.

Then again, gen Z have some serious indirect communication issues. You can only do so much without the other end of the relationship trying. I feel for ya.