Boyfriend:
>"I want you to be healthier and exercise more, altough I like your body. I'd still like you if you lost weight."
>Says "good job" when I go to the gym and seema excited.

Also boyfriend and what I've seen:
>Doesn't mind me being chubby
>His past crushes, who I despise, have been chubby
>Has stated he loves my body
>Ran across a greentext video of people straight up praising chubby girls and that they are the best.
>The renaissance paintings had bodies similar to mine and it seems men as a collective liked it.

I am afraid of my body not looking good if I lose weight, what do I do? He said he'd still like me but he also says he wouldn't like underweight. He admitted he liked my chubby body a lot but he still wants me to lose some weight. I see him in August because we are LDR and idk if I should lose weight, gain more weight or remain like this.

Lose weight if you want to, and stop letting some LDR man police your body. He's not seeing it for months on end anyway

>>33320407
I wanna please him in regards to my looks, we're basically like husband and wife at this point and I do love him. I just don't know what to do because it's very conflicting.

>>33320407
Why are you trying to police a larp? Doesn't seem very smart of you.

>>33320423
I ain't larping lmao, this is serious.

>>33320423
It's sensible advice, even if it seems so obvious that it's almost bait.

>>33320489
If it wasn't a larp that isn't sensible advice. Ignoring what your partner wants makes the relationship redundant. Sensible advice would be to break up because ldr are a meme.

First, who cares?

Second, if (You) actually care, lose weight but build muscle. Build your glutes, quads, and hamstrings, but resistance training in general is good for you. I don't know what your body looks like, but if you have any hips whatsoever he's not going to care that you're X pounds lighter.

>>33320501
That's better advice. Break up

>>33320523
Is strength training good even if I wanna have some fat in my body?

>>33320584
Why does it happen that every small misunderstanding and setback that someone asks advice on always start with "break up"?

If you like your body as it is now then don't change anything, just because he'd like you to lose a "little" bit of weight doesn't mean you should. Unless you're practically obese it doesn't seem okay to tell someone that lose some weight and I'd like you better even though you don't want to change how your body is, and since it's LDR it seems even weirder since he hasn't even seen you irl.

>>33320619
1. We've seen each other irl plenty of times, all meetings have been for almost a month.
2. I think it's ok for him to do since I want him to be attracted to me.

>>33320599
Yes. For whatever reason, women are extremely paranoid about resistance training. It's good for you. Again, I don't know what your body or fat distribution is like, but the fat around your waist and upper legs is more difficult to lose, and losing fat and building muscle isn't something that happens in a short period of time. Women seem to think that if they do a single squat they turn into roided-out Amazonians.

Anyways, you seem insecure and you should just trust that your e-boyfriend actually likes you for who you are.

>>33320650
Thank you anon, he does, he doesn't let go of me at all when we are with each other irl so that's good.

Going to the gym with my brother, I always see men doing resistance training and not the women, how do you think I should start?

>>33320737
I'm not familiar with programming for women and I barely program for myself, but
1. Diet is more important than exercise for losing weight, you cannot out-train a bad diet. Eat satiating foods, get enough protein, get enough fiber, avoid simple carbohydrates, added sugars, and alcohol.
2. For resistance training, do your own research to determine what exercises you like and program around them. For lower body, you'll be looking at things like squats (bodyweight, dumbbell, barbell, find variations you like), lunges, reverse lunges, leg and hip extensions (cables, machine), and presses (machine). Find a split that works for you depending on how often you go to the gym.
3. Compound barbell lifts (barbell squat, deadlift, overhead press, bent row, etc.) are good to learn in the long-term, but as a woman you may want to start with variations that use dumbbells or an EZ curl bar instead of starting with the 45 lb. Olympic bar. You can also just stick to cables and dumbbells for upper body if you feel like it.
4. Cardio is good, but I swear all the women I see in the gym are retarded despite putting in more time than the average man. Incline treadmill, rucking, StairMaster. Anything that isn't just walking on a flat fucking surface with no actual exertion for an hour.
5. Good form (look it up) but not obsessively strict, 20-80% of your 1 rep maximum, minimal reps in reserve (look it up), progressive overload (look it up). Everything else is voodoo bullshit.

If you're going with your brother, he can help you out with everything. Going to the gym is fun, and actually knowing what you're doing makes it more fun, easier to do, and easier to get good results out of.

>>33320845
Thanks a lot anon, I'll apply this from now on. Health should be my top priority and reading this has made me realise that.

I hope things are fine.

>>33320613
R/Relationship_Advice leaking on 4chan I guess.

>>33320613
Breaking up is usually the best course of action