I'm 27, single, and was living with my parents while working a decent job making $60k after taxes. I only spend around $20k a year and save the rest.

A few months ago, my parents told me to find my own place because they wanted to move closer to my siblings, who live three hours away. So I started looking and found a $200k house—two stories, three bedrooms, big kitchen, two bathrooms, basement, and a backyard. It’s about 45 minutes from my job.

I had $120k saved and took out a loan for the rest. I bought the house, did some minor repairs, furnished it, and only told my parents after everything was done.

They got mad, called me an idiot, and said I should’ve just rented an apartment closer to work. I don’t get it. They’re the ones who told me to move out, the house is nice, and I have a car.

Did I actually mess up or are they just being weird?

No I don't think you messed up

>>33320384 (OP)
>three bedrooms, two bathrooms for 200k
The fuck? Where do you live? Like such a house would cost a minimum of 400k where I live.

>>33320414
That’s what I think too. Why waste a shit ton on rent when I can pay a little more and actually own a big house with a garden? I don’t really care about the 45-minute drive, seems like a fair trade to me.
>>33320417
Arkansas

>>33320428
>why should I have to pay taxes on this money I would have made if I had a job, which I don't, so I don't actually have to pay taxes, but if I did I would be mad.
good point.

>>33320428
Wtf are prices that cheap there?

>>33320480
You are now aware all the zoomers screeching about housing prices is because they want to buy a house in LA or NYC that's comparable to their parents' home in bumfuck nowheresville.

>>33320526
I work from home and have a decent amount saved up. Honestly thinking of moving somewhere with cheap housing like OP did. I didn’t realize how much lower prices can be if you’re not dead set on living in some overpriced city.

>>33320384 (OP)
How much are you monthly payments? Maybe it's because of that?

Your parents are stupid as shit.

>Be a good little goy and spend your shekels on a little rat box little goyim!

A house is an investment. I'm 26 and single and I have a $300k house here in South Texas. When you are ready to start a family you'll have the money and resources to do it once you find the right women to have a family with. My parents were happy for me. I don't know why the fuck your parents would want you to be in a shitbox apartment.

>>33320608
I took out a $90k loan at 7.5% interest with a 10 year term, so my monthly payment comes out to $1,069.

>>33320384 (OP)
were do you live and what do you do for work?

I need to leave the coasts...

>>33320668
I live in Arkansas and work as an accountant. Honestly love it here.

>>33320656
Honestly, I felt the same. I wasn’t even thinking about the investment side. I just saw the house and thought, why waste money renting a tiny apartment when I could actually live in a big place?

And yeah, when I start a family, I’ll already have a home ready for us. I really thought my parents would be happy, but for some reason they’re acting like I messed up.

The house is in a good area with decent schools.

>>33320656
I’m 28, and when I bought my house last year for about $270k in North Louisiana, my parents were pretty upset about it. I was already engaged to my now-wife and wanted a big house for our future kids, but they were pissed that I bought a house 40 minutes away from them instead of just looking for an apartment closer to the city.

>>33320384 (OP)
Being able to buy a first house at all is a huge win, anon. You did the right thing: now you have an asset instead of something that will just milk you forever.

>>33320384 (OP)
Your parents are evil children.
You will eventually cut them off.

>>33320991
Thanks, I agree, it’s definitely a win to own instead of renting forever. My parents aren’t bad people, just made me start paying rent as soon as I got a job, which was tough but fair. Honestly, I’m only paying about $270 more than when I lived with them. Hopefully things get better with time.

>>33321043
Opps i forgot to add
>>33320980

>>33321043
You where paying them how much?
They are mad you escaped them without thier consent.

>>33321054
I was paying $800 a month and also helping out with other expenses—like repairs or picking up groceries now and then. But honestly, they were the ones who told me to find my own place. They’d already put the house up for sale and were finalizing everything for their move.

I don't see anything wrong with this. They should be proud of you for owning a home, especially if you're able to repay your loan. It's not like you have to live there forever, either. It's an investment, you can always sell it.

>>33320384 (OP)
You make $60k a year and your loan is around $80k. That’s not too bad for your first house. I think you did okay.

Regardless, it’s not their house so it seems weird that they would be angry. Maybe they are just overprotective. In the long run, owning property is definitely better than renting.

Maybe there is something wrong with the property itself or the location and that’s what they are upset about. You did mention anything about what they said in your post.

>>33320384 (OP)
You did the right thing. Rent is like sending money into the void.

>>33320526
Its bad in most places, not just nyc and la. Texas and florida have gotten very expensive for instance.

>>33321089
>They’d already put the house up for sale and were finalizing everything for their move
Should've insisted on right of first refusal as a tenant.

45 minute commute would be very frustrating for me, but i hate driving. I live in a nyc suburb, got an apartment literally across the street from my office, 5 minute walk to the grocery store, and 15 minute walk to the train station into the city.

>>33320384 (OP)
Are the stockmaxxed or something? Renting and investing in the stock market can be more profitable than buying long term, but it's ultimately about personal priorities, nothing wrong with buying a house in a low cost of living area you love.

>>33321501
>>33322003
No, they just think it was dumb to buy such a big house when I’m living alone and that it’s too far from work. They say it would’ve made more sense to rent a small apartment, save more, and buy a house later with a girlfriend or wife.

My brother and sister saw the house at the housewarming and loved it. The only thing my parents might be right about is that I paid a bit above average, but it has a fully insulated basement I could easily turn into extra rooms if I wanted.

>>33320384 (OP)
They want to control your life. You gotta be a man. Live on your own for a year because getting off Mommy's teat is hard. Then start a family. Acquire a wife and raise kids.

>>33320656
His parents are like mine. They just want to express disappointment at anything because they want to be relevant. Its a control thing.

>>33321054
This. They wanted to make it out like he was using them when it was the reverse.

>>33321614
Any place that isn't full of liberals is expensive. Its that hard to escape them.

>>33321635
The liberals, rich liberals, ghetto people, and especially foreigners make it not worth it no matter how convenient.

>>33322780
Pretty much, that’s what it sounds like. His parents are mad because they can’t control him or keep him as a son still living at home in his late 20s. They wanted him to rent a tiny apartment so they could feel superior, like, “Look at him struggling without us.”

My parents were the same way. After a month in an apartment, I bought a $170k house, two bedrooms, one bathroom, just to have my place. Went full no contact after that.

>>33322784
Jard to believe that some parents are like that. Like I have a 2 year old daughter and if she bought her own house I would be the happiest man alive.

>>33320384 (OP)
If your parents showed you the original Star Wars trilogy and the shining they may have been trying to tell you something about themselves

>>33320384 (OP)
You did fine. Sometimes mama and papa DON'T know best

>>33320656
My parents were the same. They kept telling me to move out, so I started looking for apartments. After doing the math, I realized buying a house 40 minutes from work was actually cheaper than renting. I bought one for $180k half savings, half loan.
They were pissed I bought a house instead of renting or just paying them more to stay.

>>33322766
> rent a small apartment, save more

Unless your credit history is a wreck, I would think you would save less in most areas by renting rather than paying a mortgage. I still think you did alright as long as you don’t mind the longer commute.

Then again, you always have the option of selling in a few years. In the long run, property values will always go up. You could move closer to work then if you needed to. That’s what I did and it’s pretty awesome.

>>33320384 (OP)
they're retarded boomers. you did the right thing

dumb parents houses only cost more money over time

>>33320384 (OP)
no. they are just boomer screeching. you made the right moves.

>>33325957
Yeah, that was pretty much my thinking too. The average rent for a one-bedroom was around $800, with the cheaper ones going for about $600, so renting wouldn’t have saved me that much anyway. Plus, I had a good credit score since I always used my credit card whenever I could to keep building it up.

>>33322766
Why are you focusing on the negative? Most boomers are narcissists to some degree. If you don't think exactly what they think and do exactly what they think you should do they flip the fuck out. Worst case scenario you sell for a profit or break even in a few years.
This question is fake though. How do you go through the whole process of buying, repairing, and furnishing a house and never mention it to your parents? If someone did that it's because they know their parents are idiots or control freaks. So there would be no point in asking the main question.

I feel like there is some parts to the story you are deliberately leaving out.

>>33327829
No, I wanted to surprise them. I didn’t do much in terms of repairs, just changed the locks and cleaned the pipes, nothing major. Furniture-wise, I only bought the bare minimum since some furniture was already there from the previous owners.
When they asked me if I’d found a place, I told them I was still looking. Then, once everything was ready, I drove them to the house and told them I bought it.
The most baffling thing is that it’s been two weeks since then, and they’re still pissed and giving me shit while I’m moving the last of my stuff into the new place.”

Let me know if you want it to sound more formal, funnier, or more emotional.
You said:
Make it fit as a reply to this:Why are you focusing on the negative? Most boomers are narcissists to some degree. If you don't think exactly what they think and do exactly what they think you should do they flip the fuck out. Worst case scenario you sell for a profit or break even in a few years.
This question is fake though. How do you go through the whole process of buying, repairing, and furnishing a house and never mention it to your Honestly, you pretty much nailed it. I knew they’d flip no matter what I did, so I didn’t tell them anything. I didn’t even do much to the place, just changed the locks, cleaned the pipes, and bought the bare minimum furniture since some stuff was already there from the previous owners.
When they asked if I’d found a place yet, I just said I was still looking. Once everything was sorted, I drove them over and told them I bought it.
The funniest part is it’s been two weeks, and they’re still pissed, giving me shit every time I go back to grab the last of my stuff. I figured they’d calm down by now, but I guess not.

>>33327849
lmfao
fuck off moronGPT

>>33327849
Pretending this is real. The thing about boomers you have to realize is it is all about them, they are in their own world. Don't take anything they say personally. Learn to take pleasure in annoying them. Don't second guess yourself based on anything they say. I grew up with illiterate illegal-immigrant parents so at least I figured out its best to form my own opinions independent from them from a very young age. Also, getting older, I realize when you get older young people just annoy you all the time even when they aren't doing anything wrong. Most boomers lack the ability to separate their feels from reals so they invent criticism and judgement for you youngins.

>>33320384 (OP)
They are weird. You did the right thing
They are mad because they feel entitled to tell you what to do in life and you having a mind and doing your own thing pisses them off

>>33320384 (OP)
>leave the house !
>noooo, not like that !
kek. taking a loan is retarded, but maybe it was all good in the end

>>33322790
liberal ideas have always been popular with the upper middle class (both economical and intellectual) in the more developed societies, which tend to be big cities
if there's a considerable amount of people with liberal views in your city/town that means it's a good and prosperous place to live in