I'm looking for advice on YouTube and honestly, the more I watch these grifters making money off their "personality disorder", the more I learn how disinformational it really is.

I'm watching this video explaining what happens when you "expose" a narcissist: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/uUAUoDEtQhs
The answer is "they might become vindictive, want revenge, make up stuff about you, maybe even become dangerous."

On the surface, we can all go wow, "exposing a narcissist must be detrimental."
But what is he actually saying?

>If you deconstruct the identity of the person you love, they might become upset with you.

How is that a uniquely narcissistic thing? People are saying I'm a narcissist, so if someone "exposes me" as in deconstructs the version of me that I claim that I am, such as good in school, a good guy, bla bla. If someone "exposes me" by revealing that I might not actually be such a nice guy because I was mean to them, or that I am only trying to be good in school because my parents are forcing me to and that I actually hate it, how does that make ME the bad guy?

Literally the person in that video is saying if YOU "EXPOSE" A NARCISSIST, THEY MIGHT BECOME UPSET, and they are all "blaming the narcissist", never once reflecting that they were attracted to that "fantasy" to begin with, so what does it say about them?

I've realized this NPD-lexicon is one giant grift and the rabbit hole will turn you into an imbecille. Idk where to find advice anymore.

>>33324426 (OP)
It's because disorders like NPD, BPD, and even ASPD have always been romanticised to shit. Look no further than Hollywood, or any crime-drama thriller that makes ASPDs seem like ultra-dimensional masterminds or some form of dark savant with peculiar obsessions and almost refined barbed intellect. All bullshit.
So when pop-culture explains NPD and BPD it's the same bloated bullshit.

It's even debatable if there's even a point to define being an immature emotionally stunted lying asshole as a 'disorder'. It's just psychiatric diarrhea, their lukewarm attempt to define evil without using the word 'evil'. They had to replace the word with something. First they used 'psychopath' then 'sociopath', then those words stopped being used as a diagnostic term because of how vague it was and then they broke it down into a cluster of traits. Cluster B. And from that they try to pick out definable disorders, like NPD.

It's no different to finding constellations among stars. They just find a group of traits and make up a disorder to explain it.

Anyway what narcissist's are, is they're just people with a false-ego. That's all that is. There's an ego, then there's a false ego. A healthy ego is defined by actions. Actual realistic and measurable merit, defined by accomplishments or failures often both.

Then the false ego is made up of thoughts, referencing thoughts. Thinking about thinking about thinking. Constant rumination until a fake internal identity it made. Made up of nothing but thoughts. Just ideals, nothing real. It's a bit like a mask except it's worn under the face. Still a mask though. Just self-deceit but bloated. Narcissist's get offended if you challenge it because it's all they have. Without it they got no idea who they are. That's why disagreement or perceived sleights come off as threatening to them, they feel it's as threatening as an attack on their life. Cuz that false ego is their whole life.

>>33324448
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Which is all done btw. We all had false ego phases. Everyone does. It's a temporary template we try to wear while finding out who we are. Finding out who we are takes time. Time and growth. Experience and if we are lucky a good upbringing.

Teenage years is a very narcissistic time for us all. False egos are the big thing among teens. Problem with narcissistic types is they are stuck in that phase, they never made it out. This is why the word immature is apt. Or psychfags call it "arrested development". It just means emotionally they got stunted, something or someone crippled their growth and they are stuck in a repeating behavioural cycle like a broken record. So they never shed the false ego, not in their 20s or their 30s or their 40s. Maybe by 50 or 60 it starts to fizzle out naturally.

It can happen quicker and they can put narcissism into remission. Good luck getting a narcissist to admit vulnerability or being wrong though lmao.

>>33324448
Awesome. Thank you for simplifying it to that degree. Indeed, it comes down to true/false ego but basically, there's a word for that already: a liar.

Narcissists are essentially liars. The disorder becomes redundant. It doesn't explain why they lie, it just boxes them in a new category

>>33324470
Which is all fine btw*

>>33324471
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Narcissists are essentially liars. The disorder becomes redundant. It doesn't explain why they lie, it just boxes them in a new category.

Yep, tells us nothing at all. But if you're perceptive you don't need a shrink to tell you. It becomes kinda clear if you encounter narcissistic types. Doesn't have to be full blown NPD, both cases have the same stupid backstory: They couldn't win the approval or get the approval of their same-sex role model. That's all it is usually. If it's a female narcissist, you can bet your ass they hate their mom or vice versa. If it's a male narcissist, their father didn't give enough of a shit about them to properly ingratiate them into their manhood.

Every narcissist I've ever met in my observation always had that issue. They are at odds with their role model, and they then had something to prove to themselves because no one proved their value to them as kids. So they try to prove it all on their own and take themselves too seriously lol.