1/2 I had a call with a guy ive known for a while. He said I'm fat. I got sad. Then he told me not to be sad, that he likes me because he knows that. Like, that's part of why he likes me(ew.) then today, he said my current weight (163lbs/74kg) at 5 '5"/165 cm is fat. like, obviously I know that. but earlier this year, i was 47lbs/21kg heavier, so im actually okay with where i am. I know I still have weight to lose, but comments like that bother me less now. then he said i should be 120lbs /54.4 kg.then changed it to “actually, at your height, even that's too much. You should strive for 100lbs /45.4 kg.” that sounded insane to me. After struggling with my weight for so long, just getting to 140–150lbs/63.5 -- 68 kg already felt like a reasonable goal. By BMI standards it's even healthy. Then somehow my boobs came up, and he said even if I lost all that weight, I'd have saggy boobs and it wouldn't look good, that even with surgery etc id still be ruined. but it wouldn't matter because I have a good personality and a cute face. Like that makes it okay? Also, for about a month I've been stuck at 165–167lbs /75–76 kg. not gaining, not losing. but recently I've been dropping again. So maybe that’s why this hurt. It's not like I've been lazy. I've been trying. I just haven't told him every update. doesn't mean he gets to say stuff like that. It felt cruel. Am I dumb for being upset? should i just suck it up? is he out of line? be honest. Dont know if this context is relevant but ill give it anyways. He’s m20 diagnosed with ASPD, 6'5"/196 cm and under 110 lbs/50 kg. I told him that’s underweight, and he said “I'm neither skinny nor fat.” like ok… (probably why he has this mentality). I'm F18 . I think I might have BPD but dont trust my own diagnosis.

>>33324732 (OP)
2/2 ive known him since nov 2023 we were friends at first because we both disliked this guy we know and bonded over that. He would have me send nudes and he didn't care if it looked bad or not. At the time he was 18 I was 16. He made comments sometimes that when I'm 18 he'll have me on camera. I would tell him he's crazy, since i dont even facetime people I know irl. The next couple of months I would learn that he has more information about me than he led on, doesn't matter how he got it, it's not important to this rant. He knows literally everything about me and my life. logged into my apple id, forced me on cam fully nude, sexually humiliating me etc. the weight part still eats at me because i remember him saying "i wouldnt talk to you if i didnt like fat girls" so that made me think he obviously likes me right? definitely not. At one point he had control of my pc and saved every single thing i had, read messages with ppl etc. there are few things i could hide from him at the height of this. Now he spends more time on irl things. which is fine. but the bastard has ruined my fucking brain and extended time without him makes me fucking freak out. I switch on him so much and he does the same to me. I know he most likely doesn't give a shit about me but he says simple nice things to me whenever i bring up my doubt. I'm not sure if this rant is that clear. I'm willing to clear things up if anyone cares to read all of this. I know by posting on 4chan it's like “asking” for hatred but if i could get some normal ppl feedback thatd be nice..

>>33324732 (OP)
>He’s m20 diagnosed with ASPD, 6'5"/196 cm and under 110 lbs/50 kg
That can't possibly be right. He'd be in hospital if he were that thin. That's hard-core anorexia level.

Anyway, you need to cut this guy out of your life entirely. He's pure toxicity.