Why do men always flip out when you tell them that a woman isn't interested?

Had this happen last night. Some dude was "concerned" about a female "friend" who started ghosting everybody since dating this one guy, and that no one has heard from her since, so I had to inform him to take the hint that she isn't interested, and this was her signaling that she doesn't want a relationship with him, and the results were pretty much how you expected.

Except I was accused (not just by him, but some others as well--including women) of not understanding male-female friendships, not knowing what I was talking about, and not taking his "friend's" situation seriously, or that I was pulling details "out of [my] ass". And when I tried to reiterate that I do know what I'm talking about, since I'm the same gender as her, and that I know a man who can't handle rejection well when I see one, I was then asked to "prove" it by providing his "friend's" name, which I obviously couldn't do, but I don't think that matters, as he needs to learn when somebody isn't interested and to be left alone.

This then somehow led to a diatribe about me "not understanding" male-female friendships (again), and how this "wouldn't happen" if he was talking about one of his guy friends instead. I was then accused of being an "incel" because of this, even though I'm not the right gender for one, and being mansplained all this shit, and how I don't "understand" when somebody might be "in a serious situation".

It was such a demoralizing experience. Even my brother, who normally defends me in these situations, didn't this time, and said I was in the wrong.

>>33325205 (OP)
The guy was worried she was being abused. People who enter abusive controlling relationships tend to immediately self isolate and cut themselves off from friends and family, usually pressured by their abusive partner or their toxic relationship eats at their entire focus to the point they stay away from their friends and family.

The guy was probably wondering that.

He's clearly concerned about a friend (not a crush) who sounds like she's an abusive relationship, asshole

>>33325205 (OP)
you seem autistic because you couldn't read the room. Yes, you could be correct, but at the same time it could also be something different and he could also actually be concerned, outside of keeping up the chance to fuck her. It's also not a gender specific behaviour, it just seems from your pov.

if she is friends with other people and also ghosting them, then i'd say his concern is valid (even if he secretly is into her and just worming to get a response).

regarding your main thesis, and im just 1 man, but the uncertainty is what gets us. us men are very a+b=c, so unless we are directly told "yo im not interested" we will try to rationalize some reason why a girl isn't talking to us beyond not being interested (and perhaps that's what that dude was doing). remember, it takes no effort to respond to a text.
i personally wish women were more direct when making it clear where they stand because we do get obsessive. i do also understand some men never seem to take no for an answer even if told so, and thus also get obsessive. it's all case by case.

>>33325205 (OP)
Not reading your wall of text but
>Why do men always flip out when you tell them that a woman isn't interested?
Those aren't men honey, those are boys. Men shrug, say "oh well", and roll on to what's next.

>>33325254
If a woman tells me that another woman isn't interested I'd tell her to mind her own business. I can do the "oh well" approach if the woman I desire directly tells me no thanks. But if some BFF or female dog comes in to bark on her behalf she can fuck off.

>>33325254
>I'm not reading most of it, but here's my shitty hot take
fag alert

>>33325254
>Not reading your wall of text
tl;dr: op tries to explain to a guy that a girl isn't interested in him, but he was actually talking about a (female) friend who started ghosting everybody (not just him) since dating her boyfriend, and then op gets lambasted for making false assumptions

>>33325240
>>33325243
Boy does it smell like fucking reddit in here
It's normal for both sides of a new couple to drop off from the social calendar for a few months while they honeymoon and fuck like rabbits. In the last relationship I was I would take days or weeks to even reply to messages.

>>33325263
Yeah bro but if she's fucking someone else in the meantime I think it wouldn't matter what any bestie has to say, the answer is as obvious as the fact you had no strong father figure and failed to become your own.
>>33325268
>replying to me anyway
Huge, incredible fag alert
>>33325277
Given this story is (allegedly) being told by a female, I would assume "everyone" is just "all the high status members of my social circle who are the only people I consider human" and we're maybe looking at a week of timeframe tops

>>33325291
>It's normal for both sides of a new couple to drop off from the social calendar for a few months while they honeymoon and fuck like rabbits
Most people still keep in touch, even if the frequency changes, not stop communicating entirely

I would like to remind all the BOYS in this thread that if you get hung up on a particular piece of pussy it means you are unable to attract it consistently, and the "guy friend" is definitely hung up.

NO male has 100% honest intentions with any woman except maybe his mother. NOT A ONE. As much as OP was out of line (and OP you were fucking out of line), the "guy friend" in this story is a fucking beta loser who is just crying because his oneitis is getting her guts rearranged by someone who had an iota of masculinity.

>>33325311
Again, you're not reading with the context of female melodrama. "Ghosting everyone" probably means "she didn't reply for a week."

>>33325316
>Again, you're not reading with the context of female melodrama.
That would further imply an abusive situation, while
>"Ghosting everyone" probably means "she didn't reply for a week."
is more of a male perspective than female

>>33325205 (OP)
>I was then accused of being an "incel" because of this, even though I'm not the right gender for one
"Incel" is a philosophical axiom that encompasses a broad range of misogynistic interpretations and mindsets, and assuming (or in your case, insisting) that somebody concerned about a friend's safety has more motives behind it just because they're both opposite sexes of each other would at least fall under the "incel" category. Would you have the same reaction if he was talking about a man instead?

>>33325354
>words words words
OP was right the first time, women can't be incels
A rare moment of female self-awareness but I doubt it was intentional

>>33325473
>>33325473
>words words words
Learn, learn English
>women can't be incels
There's plenty of female and non-binary incels much like there are black white supremacists exist (yes, they exist)
>A rare moment of female self-awareness
Okay, incel

>>33325240
>>33325243
Fucking this. If a friend of mine sudden cut us off, especially of because of a partner, I would be immediately concerned, and probably snap at anybody who tries to downplay it. Fuck you, that's insulting my friend, dipshit

>>33325205 (OP)
Ah so you're bond of those fat friends who makes it her mission to cockblock every stacy in the group because you're mad no guys at the bar even approach you, so you developed the bucket crab mentality

>>33325499
STFU tranny

>>33325205 (OP)
You completely misread the situation
He was describing a potential domestic situation happening to somebody he evidently has no interest in beyond a friendship
Of course people are going to snap at you, you're shitting on a dangerous situation happening to someone they care about