Title. Ever since me and my ex broke up, I’ve been feeling extremely lonely. I’ve been on one date since then, and she basically ghosted me after. The loneliness I’ve been feeling has been affecting my motivation to work towards my future. I’m in school for fire fighting but I’ve been completely slacking off on my studies because I just feel like there’s no point in working towards a future I’m going to be lonely in. I’m 26 and have only had one girlfriend my entire life, and she ended up cheating on me. I hardly ever get matches on dating apps, and even when I do there’s like a 5% chance it even results in a date.

I just feel extremely depressed and alone, to the point where I’m considering just quitting my job because I have zero drive or motivation to do anything. Does anyone have any advice for me? I really need it

There is nothing stopping you into being in more dates.

>>33325929
I disagree. I very rarely if ever get a chance to even go on a date with a girl. Even when I do, I either do something autistic that I don’t realize or I’m absolutely fucking ugly. Girls just don’t like me. I’ve tried to cope and find a way to deal with the loneliness but I yearn for a loyal girlfriend to call mine. Idk what’s wrong with me man

your situation is completely 1:1 with me except I am going to leather school. The dates just to get ghosted are so sad that I think I will be giving up apps entirely. Evidently I am not attractive enough to warrant anything more than food and drinks.
Where are you from buddy?

Get a hobby that isn't video games or TV. Something that involves other people would obviously be ideal, but just getting out of your house will help your mental health.

>>33325831 (OP)
sure, don't quit your job because choosing to become a poorfag with no gf is not going to help anything

>>33326265
I’m from East Coast USA
>>33326384
I work out, write, and make instrumentals/beats in my free time
>>33326399
How do I not quit when I have absolutely no motivation to work anymore? It’s just so tiring seeing couples at my job 24/7 when I’m alone

>>33326432
You’re being such a pussy dude. You’re going to be fine. I wish I had your life after i’ve been through.

>>33326436
*after what I’ve been through

>>33325831 (OP)
Stop using dating apps and meet girls in person. The dating apps put a wall and a rating system between you and the girl that is stupid and unnatural and gives them a pedastal.

>>33325831 (OP)
Don't quit your job, and focus on your studies. Get a dog - dogs are good company and they teach you how to care for another living thing.

You are going to be a fireman, many women love blue collar guys, especially those in uniform. Nurses cream their pants for firemen. Go get your penis inspected or something at the hospital and spit some game at nurses in the cafeteria.

>>33326432
A lot of places have groups for aspiring writers. Check your local library. Also check out organized sports or running clubs

>>33326476
>>33326488
I’m awful at flirting with someone I don’t know in person. I tried approaching some girls in public but I don’t have the balls to do it.
>>33326436
I mean you’re right I am being a pussy but I can’t help it. I work in a restaurant and seeing couples and families constantly as well as coworkers flirting with each other just makes me feel like shit. I just feel like I’m not good enough and seeing all these people in relationships or showing interest in each other really bums me out

>>33326541
Yes you do. Don’t approach. Befriend women at your job or flirt with customers where you have an excuse to talk to them.

Your brain is lying to you about not being good enough. Trust me. I’d kill to be 26 again.

Bump

>>33326016
That's all in your head. You're just feeling that way because you got dumped. I was cheated on by my first gf who became my wife. That shit hurt, but I'm back, and you will be too. Just keep doing it, and learn to trust the process.

Bump

>>33325831 (OP)
Don't mean to disrupt your thread, what does being lonely feel like?

>>33325831 (OP)
Dude do you really think you're done and that's it? Get your shit together. You're going to be a fire fighter, that's fucking awesome. Get back to your studies and get that dream job. Right now you feel like shit, so you look like shit. But think about how fulfilling that job will be. Your happiness isn't dependant in being in a relationship. You need to find your own happiness. Then, people will be way more attracted to you. No one will be attracted to some sad man that has the confidence of a wipe. After you figure things out with yourself, try dating again and again and again. You'll find the right person. Every break up just means it wasn't meant to last that long anyway.
So get your motivation and hopes up. Think about how fucking amazing it'll be to both have an awesome job that makes you happy, then find the love of your life and somehow be more happy. You can do it anon. Don't give up on yourself. If you don't have your own back, no one will have your back. So get up and sort out your life. I believe in you.

>>33325831 (OP)
It is difficult to understate just how much psychological damage occurs in the young mind in never experiencing love when it was supposed to. It creates invisible but ever present and outwardly manifesting psychological wounds that may heal over time, but never disappear. It is a lifelong crippling of the mind, affecting things like confidence, self-esteem, healthy thought processes, and inability to cope with the difficulties in life in a healthy way. It breeds attitudes of perpetual envy and anger and depression. Especially when said individuals are constantly bombarded by images and media of people having lived their best life while they missed out and can never experience, ever. Because time is only linearly forward.

A means to try and "heal the mind" which has already happened for many who have resigned themselves to apathy and quiet resentment, but it doesn't remove the scar. The scar is always there. Always present. And it will always serve as a reminder, and always influence future thoughts and decisions and actions.

>>33332863
Should I just kms

>>33332814
>your happiness isn’t dependent on you being in a relationship

For me it is. I don’t even care about def that much, I just miss having a girl I can be myself with, someone I can be proud to call my girlfriend, someone who I spend quality time together with and go on dates and do fun stuff with. What else is there to even do? Play video games? Study? Work? Gym? I do all of that and it’s all extremely unfulfilling. People who say you need to be happy with yourself before you get into a relationship are the same kinds of people who never have any trouble getting a girlfriend, so they don’t know what it feels like to be lonely and depressed. It’s literally the equivalent of telling a homeless person “oh bro don’t worry you’ll be able to eat a great five course meal one day”. It’s someone who has an entirely different and better life giving “advice” to someone who isn’t nearly as fortunate as them.

And yeah fire fighting is cool and all but it’s a lot of studying and work, and I barely have any motivation to even get out of bed anymore. And I’m not even that hung up on my ex anymore. I legitimately don’t think I’ll ever be able to find another girlfriend. I’m literally autistic and ugly, and my first and only girlfriend was sheer luck and right place/right time.

I think I’m just going to give up and start drinking and doing hard drugs or just kill myself at this point. The future is so bleak. People have zero trouble getting a girlfriend. I see girls on social media simping for guys they like at work or at school all the time and I would do anything to have a fraction of that feeling of being wanted.