>>33327048 (OP)Years ago, my wife was potentially going to die at any moment from an unknown illness. I occasionally had the thought of her dying and was immediately saddened by it.
One tine, just once, my first reaction wasn't to be saddened. My first thought was "Well, if she dies at least I can start having sex again." My second thought was to be horrified by my first thought. And my third thought was to be saddened.
I followed up by trying to resolve my emotional issues regarding our lack of sex. I didn't let it go.
>I don’t know why this happensIt strongly depends on if:
A. They're quick intrusive thoughts or slower ideas.
B. How the thoughts make you feel immediately and how they make you feel after you've thought about it.
Examples include that one anon who was struggling with intrusive sexual thoughts about his very, very young niece. They would pop in his head and instantly repulse him but he couldn't stop having them. I suspect it was about her being a sweet, loving, and vulnerable female in his life for the first time and his brain glitching the association.
Another example would be a kink I don't think about because there's no point as it could only result in the unintentional death of my partner so it's best left ignored. It's just a mix of appealing ideas that would actually be horrible.
Another example would be the murder that I plotted as a form of coping, using the target as an emotional scapegoat. It was intrusive at first but it felt good to think about and even as I actively worked on my issues in order to no longer need the distraction.
Then there's rage or power fantasies more like what you mentioned. They pop in and feel good in the moment, but the reality if the consequences make them unpleasant ideas.