Alright, so I’ve been messaging this girl I’ve met off this site for the last couple weeks now (/tv/) and I’m fairly confident she likes me, but ultimately not sure if I’m just in the friendzone. I want to find out if she feels the same way, as she might get bored of our platonic relationship soon, but I’m also worried everything will get completely awkward and we won’t have the same conversations we had. We’ve already had a few phone calls, that somehow last like 2 and a half hours each. Instead of just explaining everything she does, maybe you guys could ask and I’ll answer? This is surreal. Like a 1/500 dynamic here

>>33327999 (OP)
>girl
>she

>>33328028
We verified dude. There’s been zero attempts at anything sketchy on her end

>>33328056
Verified as in tits with timestamp?

>>33328066
Nope

>>33328083
uh oh

>>33328120
Nah, selfies and voice calls are good enough. This is bigger than nudes. It’s a connection, with how much we have in common with music, humour, etc

>>33327999 (OP)
How old are you and how old is she?

>>33328224
Lmfao.

>>33327999 (OP) (checked)
have you made it clear you want more? someone has to go first

>>33328843
Not sure how I should. I showed interest when we first talked a while ago; but I think it was too quick. Think she likes getting to know people more cause since then we talked a lot, and went on falls for hours where she’s a bit shy; but down to do them anytime and listen to me talk

>>33328888 (checked again, nice)
you gotta steer it back to a flirty place then, test the water, see if there's any reciprocation of if the responses are still platonic af. and that's probably gonna be your answer.

(expect the platonic responses, then it won't be so disappointing when it happens. if she's seen pics of you and isnt flirting, that's a sign of romantic disinterest)

>>33327999 (OP)
As the best book on this subject states a woman normally figures out if they are attracted to you within the first interaction with you. Barring some major change, she will never see you in a romantic light again. Sorry dude.

>>33328904
The flirting seems so subtle. You gotta remember this is an admittedly reserved, socially anxious girl. I did send her a pic of myself recently and she did as well. The fact we have calls for hours and she laughs at the dumb shit I say makes me wonder

>>33328930
Not sure if she’s just shy though. While, that’s true much of the time, many relationships start as friendships. Denying this is incel cope

>>33328954
>many relationships start as friendships.
Huh?
Most relationships start out as acquaintances in a friend group or as a friend of a friend introducing you. Not as staying friends. Most woman once they put you in the friend zone will never move you out.

>she’s just shy though
Then you have to do a technique called polarizing her. Tell her you like her as more then a friend. She'll let you know real quick.

>Denying this is incel cope
Ahh, the good old Nice Guy quip. Good luck buddy I'm sure she'll see you for the wonderful man you are after she's done getting railed by Chad.

>>33328980
I get this feeling she doesn’t do anything with anyone online in general, which fucking blows cause I’d be potentially willing to meet her, best case scenario

>>33328931
then as i said, you gotta press the issue. then you'll know for sure.

>>33328999
Wonder if I should on call or text. She’s better at text, but might respect the phone call more

>>33329010
keep it to text, a call might make her feel ambushed. pressing the issue doesnt always mean directly asking if she likes you, that could be cringe. it could just be chatting and finding your opportunity to flirt (or make it clear you're into her and want some reciprocation).

>>33329027
True. Given its long distance I’m considering going

You know, I think we would have already went on a date or two had we lived in the same area. What do you think about that?”

>>33329034
not bad. it would certainly get your answer. anything other than "yeah that would be cool" is a negative. any wishy-washy answer if her avoiding letting you down harshly

if you're going in that direct though, you have to be potentially prepared to weird her out and harm the friendzone. but if you dont want eternal friendzone then thats fine

>>33329042
What’s a softer pitch to tweak that? I’m considering the friendship for sure. Not sure if I can handle it though

>>33329058
dude you dont wanna be friends with her, that's just your dick thinking.

a way to soften it would be to slip it into conversation, as opposed to starting a conversation with it. so then it seems casual. you dont need to change it, it's a decent question

>>33328759
this

OP here. It worked out. She likes me too.
Even clarified that she didn’t have to feel pressured by the call to go along with it. She assured that she feels the same way. Guess I’ll wait and see how the dust settles on this one. Whatever happens, happens

>>33327999 (OP)
there are no women on /tv/ tho lol you're getting catfished
I never met more of a sausage fest of a board than /tv/ with the obvious exceptions like r9k

>>33332045
you're getting catfished by a dude tho

>>33332079
Nah, trust me

>>33332309
NTA, but real woman or troon?

>>33332356
Real woman. Really the “cute, shy femanon” Quite possibly every single dude on this site would strive for

>>33332045
that's good news man and fuck the haters. hope it all goes well for you