I don't socialize with men very much, and I'm kind of like as much of a "guy friend" as we have in my friend group. I'm also kinda asexual in a 60/40 kind of way so I feel like I handle guys better than they do most of the time since I don't fall for their stuff as easy.

I try to look out for my friends since they're all more delicate and used to people looking out for them than I am. Which is why when I went home with a guy last night and they freaked out when I didn't call back the next day was so weird.

They acted like they thought I'd been murdered and I was just supposed to know to call them first thing as intuition. They're mad at me now because they said I wasn't being "safe" but it doesn't feel fair that I have to abide what they say is safe or I end up with everyone I know calling me to make sure I'm ok when I'm only doing the most mundane shit ever.

They said I'm not careful enough. I feel like I'm supposed to be the one looking out for them so the fact they think I can't look after myself in this kind of thing really hurts.

I want to let them know I'm more capable than they've given me credit for. I'm hoping somebody with good ideas comes along to help me with that

They're right, you're wrong change your behavior.

>>33330972
That's not the advice I was hoping for. I was more hoping for something to prove they don't need to worry about me, because I'm the one who looks out for them.

>>33331252
it's not like that it's just regular degular possessiveness

>>33331312
I don't understand?

>>33331321
i know lel

>>33330954 (OP)
Sounds like they're just being caring friends. It might be hard to do, but try accepting their concerns. Let the people you care for, care for you. It makes people feel good about themselves.

>>33330954 (OP)
Alastor is so hot.

>>33331542
I feel bad having people worry about me. It makes me feel like they think I can't handle stuff myself, and it hurts my pride since I want them to think I'm tough.

And I know you'll probably say something like "tough nuggets" or like "just deal with it" but I've tried and it's infuriating to feel like people don't believe in me enough to let me handle things myself. I really try not to let it get to me but it does, so I just try to show them I'm tough enough that they don't need to worry.

>>33330954 (OP)
It sounds like this guy was raised to report back when he gets home safely. When I left my cousin's house the 1st time I visited them, they asked me to text them when I got home. I didn't understand why, none of my family or friends had ever asked this of me. Just to make sure that I got home safe even though there isn't anything they can really do if I got into a car crash. If you walk home alone, this is an indicator that you weren't kidnapped or mugged. So they can call the police to look for you ASAP if you don't text that you made it home safe. There is nothing wrong with them looking out for you when you usually look out for them. We should all try to look out for each other more. But yeah, if I didn't text my cousin that I got home home they would've have been worried all night that I got into a car crash.

>>33332010
In case it matters, I am male and my cousin is female. So the opposite of OP being female with her guy friend asking her to text that she was safely home.

>>33332010
>home home
home safe*

>>33330954 (OP)
Oh and it is not about them thinking you cannot look after yourself, it is just that they want to look after you as well.

>>33332010
I get what you're saying, but I just feel like this kind of thing is them saying they don't trust me to take care of myself on my own. I'm probably wrong for that, I know. I get that it only takes one mistake for something bad to happen, but it just rubs me the wrong way.

female POV:
Just because you "handle them better" doesn't mean you can protect yourself if something happens.
Going home with a guy is always risky from a females perspective.
I would love it if my friends cared about me that much and I have friends that send me their location just in case something happens.

We just care about each other and that's it.
It's not about you being capable or not if you are with another person at night it's risky get over it.

>>33334749
>but it just rubs me the wrong way.

Can you pin point, why?

Like take some time and self-reflect.

Recognize friends look out for other friends and they have good intentions.