I met a 36 year old woman from facebook dating(I'm 33). As a date we took a hike in a park, I fingered her and we made out. We talked about BDSM stuff, she said she hasn't been in a relationship for 4 years as no men measure up(in retrospect an obvious sign the relationship was doomed to go nowhere).

While we were doing sexual stuff said she didn't want to have sex as she was raised christian and I just met her but later during the walk she said she went to BDSM clubs(lol).

Anyway after the date was over she told me she wanted to think about if she wanted to date or not and today she messaged me saying she wasn't interested in pursing a relationship further.

I'm completely dumbfounded by the whole experience since in pretty much every way it would have made sense for her to try dating me(similar kinks, both professionals though I make more money, similar life goals). I'm also 100% certain I could have fucked her in the park had I pushed for it a little more but I didn't go into it thinking I would do sexual stuff.

On a practical level at 36 she was starting to show her age and while she had a decent body, she's probably not a huge loss in the context of a longterm partner but I'm still bothered not being able to get a repeat date.

Are women not likely to date a guy they do sexual stuff with on the first date again? I honestly have no idea what I'm doing wrong, it feels like all the women are fucking crazy.

>>33332475 (OP)
You both sound like losers, this is not shit that grown adults do. Stop defiling public spaces you cretin. She probably has some mental problems that led to to accept being fingered in a public park on the first date, so you dodged a bullet in that sense.

>>33332515

In retrospect she was clearly a bit crazy but still I don't get why she wouldn't have pursued it further if she enjoyed it at the time?

>>33332475 (OP)
> a 36 year old woman from facebook dating
So, she's crazy.
> writes a wall of hyperverbose text explaining she's crazy.
OP you're not allowed to be surprised if you meet an alcoholic at an AA meeting, likewise, look where you met this chick, now stop acting surprised.
For the last 18 years every chick she grew up with who's marriage material has gotten paired off and popped out a kid or three. And you're surprised this leftover empty egg carton is not quite relationship material. Uh huh.

>>33332475 (OP)
She just doesn't find you particularly attractive, anon. Don't overthink it.

>>33332475 (OP)
>As a date we took a hike in a park
Mid 30's and the best you come up with is a hike in a park? You got to do better than this. A hike is a hike and not a date.

>>33335542

I'm not spending money on a woman I am just meeting.

>>33335600
Thats why you aren't getting a second date. Since you don't want to even try you expect too much.