She's cute, fun, and we have a great time in person. She's also said good things to a mutual friend. However:

>I'm always the one to ask her out
>I pay for almost everything
>She takes forever to reply to texts
>She is a 'receiver' in bed. She said she "doesn't give head to just anyone" after she gave me a bj for the first time, as if I was lucky to get what should be basic reciprocation in bed. It was good but she sucked me for like 3/4 mins, gave up and just wanted to get fucked after I'd spent a good 30 mins on foreplay and teasing her. She mentioned some past abuse so I dunno if it's due to that or if she's just selfish in bed, which I can't put up with much longer.

It feels like the whole thing revolves around her and my needs are secondary. She said other guys are 'clingy' and that she's happy to 'take my lead', which is nice but ultimately it feels like she's making 0 effort and I don't like that.

Should I just end it due to incompatibility, or is it worth bringing this up? If I do bring it up, where and when is appropriate? I've never initiated this sort of talk with someone I'm dating.

>>33338103 (OP)
Just slowly back off and see if she reaches out or accepts it.

It's annoying as fuck but yeah, back off. Her stupid woman brain has to activate and feel shit to be excited to make her own choice about it. Which might not happen for you on 2025. Most women just fuck out of obligation and if you push too hard they just get offended and feel "objectified" and never tell you until they break things off bc they just "aren't feeling it" anymore. Slay queen

>>33338103 (OP)
Bro been literally in the same exact shit after my breakup. This girl I met online - super cute and nice, somebody that also actually cared about how I feel emotionally and shit.

Sex was good and all but it never really got to me. I know I’m good in bed and not just all talk. 30-60min foreplay + she received treatment first until she’s finished all the time. She basically got 2-3 rounds out of me every time whilst she didn’t want to suck me off or take the lead once.

„I don’t suck it if I can’t confirm you don’t have any stds“ yeah tell your +13 others mannnn.

Just let her be. No contact just straight up. I’m not the type to contact first anyways so if you’re like this you won. If she doesn’t care neither then fuck her. There‘ll be another woman soon anyways lol. Who knows, maybe it’ll be the coworker next? Shot my shot yesterday to mine and it seems to work. Flirted with me and had some risky texts too.

Good luck bro

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Thanks guys. On the fence about whether to a) fuck her brains out next date and then back off or b) just be direct and talk about what we're doing

Will think about it. I fucking hate dating. She claims to want "emotional maturity" but then makes zero effort to reciprocate lol

>>33338482

Relatable and understandable. Had a few talks about that too. Usually I came through in the night after working. Most of the times slept over there as well and left in the morning after sex. She was pissed about it cause it made her feel like I was only using her for sex and then just dipping. Tbh at the end I didn’t feel like explaining myself too much cause after all the drama with my recent girl I felt like not having to explain myself to anyone. Yeah it may be that I came just to fuck and then leave, but to be honest, why be the first to make all this effort just to be broken again?

Payed for all the dates and even took her out occasionally. Talked about her feelings and helped her get their car back after it being towed.

Long story short I had one serious talk about her feeling like she was just being used. After dumping out everything I felt and being respectful with it, I slowly started disappearing. We follow each other on socials too so it may be that she’ll come back just to take some more and leave it as it is.

You’ll have to chose for yourself if you want something serious, just friends with benefits, or JUST friends. Unfortunately not everything works and harmonizes together. But at least you had fun I guess, right?

Woman come and go, I learned that too one day. You don’t ever have to explain yourself to any stranger. That’s the good part about life.