>dad is strongly against me leaving home because he has abandonment issues from his shitty ex-wife (not my mother) and I'm the only person in his life
>keeps making it out like I will fail and become homeless even though I am 30 with a stable income and have lived by myself for several years before

What's my play here? I'm not moving too far just to the other side of a nearby city, so about an hour and a half away. I don't want to cut him out of my life but he hasn't said one positive thing about me moving since I told him I will be doing it soon. I'm going to start looking for my own place at the end of this month once I get my paycheck and I'm hoping to be moved out by October at the very latest. He says I'm abandoning him but I said if I was doing that I would've just gotten a place and left without telling him my plans.

Just try, i would like to explain things personally to you but that is not possible so just leave.

>>33339371 (OP)
talk with him honestly like you did here

>>33339371 (OP)
Go without guilt. But, out of love, you can make a point of phoning him or having a meal with him once a week or so, to help him cope.

who gives a shit what he thinks? like you don't have to be mean or cruel to him but you're an adult and his opinion has no bearing on you

>>33339371 (OP)
I won't read how to fix third party threads. It's hard enough (almost impossible, actually) even to fix OPs.

>>33339371 (OP)
just let him move in with you

>>33339371 (OP)
Your dad should be happy for you, man. He should not be trying to hold you down like a woman. Tell him you need to develop your life and that you’ll still be there to hang out and shoot the shit

>>33341195
>He should not be trying to hold you down like a woman
this board is honestly as bad as AITAH when it comes to setting boundaries with parents

>say I’m thinking of moving out
>dad squints like I just told him I crashed his truck
>“So you’re too good for this place now?”
>says he “guesses” he raised a quitter
>starts listing everything he’s done for me since 2003
>claims I’ll be “dead in a week” without his help
>later finds me packing a box, mutters “don’t worry, I won’t stop you”
>opens and slams kitchen cabinets over and over for 45 minutes straight
>tells the dog I’m leaving because I "don’t love family anymore"
do i need to apologize guys?

>>33341224
Your dad is a strange very man, most dads would be happy that their son is moving out and starting his own life (even if they enjoy your company). The best you can do is just try to explain your feelings, like how you may want a gf but don't want to bring her back to his place