I never had problems getting gates, matches and/or conversations (even without matches). It's just that I get friendzoned or ghosted after majority of first dates.
Now I approach new dates with tenseness, anxiety and I constantly have negative, self-defeating thoughts.
How do I change this? How do I approach these dates more like I don't give a fuck and I do what I want to do.
It's like I'm on a crossroads where I know I have value, but I have this feeling that I need to prove it but I'm unable to and the other person will never see it.

Also btw. it demotivated me. I'd still like to be in a relationship, but I kinda don't want to fight for getting it.
Also I kinda made a point in my head, that if we're not kissing on the first date, I'm not pursuing it further.

Agreed.
Who wants to fight for a relationship? Personally, I don't think I want to date anyone ever. If I met someone in person and we really mesh and desire to see each other again, I would still want to be friends for a while before taking it further. I want someone to like me for who I am before they decide they want a relationship with me.

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It kinda never worked like that for me. For me it was either me and them together knowing we want to be with each other even on the first date.
I never got into a relationship with someone I knew for some time IRL, it was all online and once from a cold approach.

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