Thread 33340922 - /adv/ [Archived: 970 hours ago]

Anonymous
7/9/2025, 11:30:48 PM No.33340922
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How do I get over victim complex?
Everything feels bad right now. If I focus on being productive, invasive thoughts creep in and I lose concentration. I know there is nobody to blame, so I guess the blame becomes self-guilt. If someone tells me my strengths I don't believe them. I'm hypervigilant on people's social performance and I get envy of them.

I feel way too alien to be liked by anyone. It feels deserving and justified that people should not approach me when I'm feeling like this. I wish I could rely on anyone to help me but it's nobody's responsibility to help me, yet I don't feel in the right state of mind to pull myself by the bootstraps somehow. Just doing a routine is a routine, it's not pleasurable.
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Anonymous
7/10/2025, 1:11:38 AM No.33341288
>>33340922 (OP)
I just did what you guys say, cold approach. I saw a woman with big tits, faie skin, 10/10 to md, I resolved to talk to her because if she's 10/10 then I absolutely lose from not talking to her. I went to her, i fumbled all my words for over a minute all the way to spaghetti land. Her look was that of horror. I had no fucking words so the only thing that came out was that "I was nervous because I liked her", she didn't say anything but flinched ashamed. I asked her age, and she said she was a minor. I told her thankyou and I went away.

I don't know what to think. It felt slightly good, like an adrenaline hit for a couple of minutes, now all the shit i've lived is running on repeat.

It's tempting to blame my parents for not guiding me through teenage years. Guide me through this storm guys.
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Anonymous
7/10/2025, 1:14:29 AM No.33341301
I'm feeling down. I don't feel energized at all. I have no idea how to turn this into a motivator.
Anonymous
7/10/2025, 1:19:02 AM No.33341318
>>33341288
i'm just like you but it feels so good when you have friends and gf. If you keep reaching out like you just did you'll get there
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Anonymous
7/10/2025, 2:12:19 AM No.33341520
>>33341318
Thanks. It's so fucked that it feels you have to bear the weight of the world to get the bare minimum, but that must be the way it is. I'll keep trying.
Anonymous
7/10/2025, 7:39:32 PM No.33344134
>>33340922 (OP)
I have had this issue. How old are you anon?
Anonymous
7/10/2025, 7:42:25 PM No.33344144
>>33340922 (OP)
You don't because you are the victim. You have been wronged and you want justice. You either get what's owed and justified to you or you let it go and move on.
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Anonymous
7/10/2025, 9:07:33 PM No.33344430
>>33344144
>You don't because you are the victim.
NTA but I've felt this way. I wasn't able to articulate this thought and/or mental block for myself but it gets to a point where not taking responsibility for your own life takes a serious toll.
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Anonymous
7/10/2025, 10:16:10 PM No.33344654
>>33344430
And how are you responsible again? What did you do to get this outcome? Last time I checked you did nothing or what you where told was the right thing to do only for someone else to fuck you in the ass. You're not some god who has full control over everything and last I check just about everything hinges on others.

You are upset because you keep trying to reach out and do things and someone else keeps you from getting it.
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Anonymous
7/10/2025, 10:18:26 PM No.33344660
>>33344654
>You are upset because you keep trying to reach out and do things and someone else keeps you from getting it.

Yea but at a certain point you have to brush yourself off and move on. My situation became so shitty but my own victim complex and past experiences prevented me from doing something about it.