The girls I usually want to date, don't want to date me and the girls I don't want to date, usually want to date me.

>>33342024 (OP)
Give an honest description of both types of women and then give me an honest description of yourself. It is in your best interest to be truthful since otherwise people will not be able to give you the best advice.

This is not accusatory or anything, but some people tend to up play themselves and downplay others, and if you do that then we can not help you.

I'm trying my best.

I'm a bit superficial and maybe too honest, so the first thing I look at is the face and if I don't like the face, it's no. I have no preference for chubby or thin women, both is ok for me. I like tattoos and just a little bit piercing or no piercing. I have a preference for big boobs though.

Personality wise I like women that go with flow idk how to explain. If I have a conversation with her, there's no silence in between sentences, we chat... I can carry a conversation no problem. But a conversation should be like a Tennis game, both give input/output...

Actually to be honest I haven't analyzed the women I have met or texted. I just analyzed what can this person do the best, is she creative, more analytic, etc. This is what I notice in people first. I like a mixture of creative and analytical. If she's too analytical, there's no fun/jokes. If she's too creative, she might be hyperactive idk. So a mixture of both or balanced is what I'm looking for. I'd love it though if she understood what I'm interested in and what I'm doing.

The women usually interested in me are sometimes far too old (like 40 something) or don't share the interests or I don't like the looks. Sometimes I catch myself texting with women I am not really interested in romantically because I'm just bored and want to text and other times just because I like them as a "normal" friend but they don't know that I'm not into them.

I am personally more introverted I'd say but that can change any moment when there's a vibe. I am open to new things and I like to learn a lot by reading or watching videos. I am a very dedicated person if I have a goal that is burned into my mind. I like to build things or provide solutions to problems, more generally speaking. I would say by looks I am a decent 5/10, completely average. I have tattoos. I dress myself casual in dark colors, I wear perfume and glasses. I like fashion honestly but I don't want to spend the money on very expensive brands

Sounds like you’re cougar bait. The problem is that you aren’t leaning into it.
If some 44 year old chick with tats and fat tits is interested in you and you turn her down it’s a you problem.

>Sounds like you’re cougar bait.
If I can see her age on the skin, it's an instant turn off.

>>33342355
yeah not him but you're problem sounds simply like you are simply not hot enough to get what you want. PLEASE understand that this is not strictly a physical thing. I am NOT a woman and I say this. Basically you are not carrying yourself in a way that gets the woman you want.

Also your type is hyper specific, and any woman with big boobs (that are actually nice) is rare and gonna be harder to get.

Also what you think you like and what you like when its in front of you can be very different. I find chubby women attractive on screens and regularly ffap to them, but IRL I'm kind of disgusted by them. Similarly skinny women do nothing for me in images, but when one is in front of me I want to slam them on a bed and rail them.

online dating is a cancer. I'm not gonna rant about how you can level up your sex appeal, its not even the entire game, but basically, confidence and style play a way bigger role than men understand. we tend to think hitting the gym is end all be all, its important but not nearly everything

but realy you're type is just too specific and you're a coomer. I'm also like this. I just want to rail a bimbo proportioned woman several times a day, and my curse is that I actually attained one for a while but still that lasted too short and am forever seeking it, but I'd be better off just cooming less and engaging more with women IRL, that seems to reset the hyper specific sexual wants.

>yeah not him but you're problem sounds simply like you are simply not hot enough to get what you want.

That is quite possible.

>Basically you are not carrying yourself in a way that gets the woman you want.

Usually, I wear what I feel most comfortable with. Adapting to the situation of course. But here's the thing imagine you "dress up" for a while to get the woman you like but you don't feel comfortable with the close you're in. That doesn't work out well, for a longer time span. At some point you will go back and she will ditch you?

>Also your type is hyper specific
If that's hyper specific... I saw some IG tech girls that would be my type (not onlyfans!) but the issue is we don't know each other, sliding in her dms naw, a thousands miles away...

>online dating is a cancer.
Agree.

>but realy you're type is just too specific
Ok. Well idk man. I "dated" a few girls that were absolutely not my type, I don't want to get back to this stage.

>and you're a coomer
At least I don't pay.

>engaging more with women IRL
True. But have you thought about it when it's appropriate or not? For me it's absolutely most uncomfortable to just speak to some random girl I met somewhere, unless she initiates. And even if she initiates and ask me about some advice or anything, I would not hit on her even if she was really hot. If she asks for my IG, ok I give her my IG but other than that naw. If you're not in school, in university or any place where you stay a very long time together, it's basically awkward to initiate randomly conversations with women. Workplace absolutely no, unless you want trouble later on.

>>33342512
you can literally talk to women anywhere if you want to. but best results (by far) are going to places where they will be and inherently receptive. so through friends, at a salsa dancing thing, some kind of co ed volleyball tournament etc.

Idk, thats all the advice i wanna spare, just touch grass and get out there

Well, I'll see I guess. A new life chapter begins... with all the hot girls I'll get to know, rock'n'roll baby!! :D

>>33342024 (OP)
Your standards are too high, simple as. If the girls you wanted reciprocated then you'd have no trouble. I learned the hard way, 33m, 6'4", 240, never struggled with woman in uni up until 26yo when my receding hairline became a NW 3 vertex. Shaved my head but terrible head shape genetics and now reciprocation exclusively comes from single mothers 35+ and morbidly obese women.

>from single mothers 35+ and morbidly obese women
How do you cope with this?

>>33342267
>The women usually interested in me are sometimes far too old (like 40 something) or don't share the interests or I don't like the looks. Sometimes I catch myself texting with women I am not really interested in romantically because I'm just bored and want to text and other times just because I like them as a "normal" friend but they don't know that I'm not into them.
You have to treat the women you want like women you don't want.

Doing better than me
>three years since I last dated someone
>no one wants me
>get a new crush like every two months

life is suffering

>>33342024 (OP)
>The girls I usually want to date, don't want to date me and the girls I don't want to date, usually want to date me.

You need to become the man that the women you like actually want. You need to step back and imagine two things:

1. "What is it about me that attracts the women that I don't care for." You need to build a profile of this type of woman because this is your "tribe" or what you attract naturally. What do they like, dislike and what do they find / not find in you.

2. "What do the women I like actually want?" You then need to build a profile of this type of woman and what they like / dislike and compare that to the first group of woman. This will show you where you're lacking.

After this, you need to imagine what it would look like if you took on the requirements of being the man that the second group you like actually wants. And you have a big question to answer "Is becoming that man in line with who I am and what I believe, or would I be faking it to become that man because that's not who I want to be."

Then you have two paths:

If becoming that man is in line with your beliefs and who you truly are, then do it. You aren't getting that type of woman because you aren't operating at your highest level. Stop fucking around and act like the man you're supposed to be.

If becoming that man is NOT in line with your beliefs and who you truly are, you are attracted to the wrong type of woman for the wrong reasons. You need to work on becoming the best version of yourself and see what women you attract at that point. Then reassess there. This is a light framework but it'll put you in the right direction.

>>33344010
What do you truly enjoy doing that takes no effort and you could do all day? Find a way to turn that into a business and create your own job. Sometimes you have to do things yourself, anon.