I pretty much look like a Chud but worse, I'm pale, skinny and my hair is thinning a lot which makes everything worse because it makes me look sickly

I had girls interested in me, not that many but it did happen, even in my current balding state even though it's pretty noticable

So, how can I do it? What's the secret?

Bump

>>33342781 (OP)
>How can I get a titcow gf?
As a 4chan user?
You don't

>>33342781 (OP)
Think about what your optimal titcow gf would want in a man and strive to be that. I'm not sure why men have all these varied preferences and requirements but don't think women do either.

You can get one, but it will require work, anon.

>>33344749
>You can get one, but it will require work, anon.
I'm willing to do that; what kind of man would they want in your opinion?

>>33344799
Bro. I can't answer that for you. I don't want a huge titcow and I know nothing about them. YOU do. YOU have to create this image of a man and be it, or else it's fake. YOU get to create this reality in the way you see fit. This is about what makes *your* dick happy, not mine.

YOU have to imagine what it is they want. Then look at what it takes for you to become that. Next you have to decide if that aligns with who you truly are and what you believe. If yes, then buck up and start working. If not, you're not attracted to the right type of woman for the right reasons, and while you might get the bitch, you won't be fulfilled because you had to fake your way into it and it becomes tiring being something you're not. She'd eventually find out you were lying and aren't what you said you were and leave.

So in the case that it doesn't align, you strive to be the best version of yourself and see what type of women like you. True attraction comes from within you and isn't based on what you have. If you don't like those women, you gotta keep moving forward and doing better until you reach a level where you do like what you attract.

>>33345064
Thank you Anon, I needed that

>>33345075
No problem bro. I wish you well! The secret to getting women is this: a man's mind is usually the biggest thing in the way of getting them. Women like all kinds of men: fat, skinny, short, tall, nerdy, dangerous, etc. Just like we as men like different types of women.

If *you* think she's out of your league, you subconsciously project that in all of your actions. Bitches are way more social than we are, and can read that without even trying. But if you believe *yeah, I have a shot. Might be difficult, but I can get that* then it'll work out. You will fail. It's part of the game. But the key is continuing to move forward. Each try is a learning opportunity. "oh, she didn't like x...not gonna do that next time." "Oh, I could've seen this coming if I paid more attention to Y. I'll remember that".

You have to fail to win. Honestly, it's pretty fun fine tuning your approach and working on yourself. And seeing how you progress. If you are fully serious and run with the advice I've given you, you'll have the huge titcow if it truly aligns with who you are inside. If it doesn't, you'll find the type of bitch that truly does align with you and you'll be happier than you would've been with the titcow. You're a winner either way bro.

>>33345092
Thank you so much Anon, my biggest fear is that when I date someone, I think they will leave me for someone better, it has happened to me many times and it destroyed my self esteem honestly. I'm losing my hair, I'm not attractive etc so when a better looking man appears in her life (a friend, a coworker or so) I think they will leave me and they normally do and it's really demoralizing

>>33345120
That's called a self fulfilling prophecy. You projected some false ideas onto reality and that affected how you acted around these women. And acting that way is....exactly the shit they don't find attractive anon.

These women didn't leave you because they found someone better. They left because you degraded yourself down to such a low level that the other guy *seemed* better. In a way, he was, but *only* because you acted that way. Had you not...you'd have been at your best. And that wouldn't have happened.

I don't intend to be mean by saying this but it's the truth you need to hear: YOU caused that to happen bro. YOUR actions made her feel like she could do better. Women are built to sense weaknesses like this. This is part of why they'll make arguments out of nothing or do stuff like "Oh I'm hungry choose something" but reject every suggestion you have. It's about seeing if you can be easily swayed off course. They don't consciously do it, and they couldn't even explain what the fuck they're doing to you. But it's important that you know this and act accordingly.

If you think you're a bitch, you might not say it, but they can feel it. And not want to be with a bitch. If you know you're the shit, you don't have to say it, but they'll feel that too, even when you do make a mistake and fail. Genuine self confidence is very attractive anon. And that shit will trump all else when dealing with women.

>>33345145
That's very eye opening, you are right. It's true that when I was talking about feeling like I was less than those men I felt pathetic when I heard myself out loud. I need to feel more secure about myself but how can I find out my true self? I have been trying to be someone else for so long that I have lost connection to my genuine self and I think I'm nothing but a mask sometimes and I'm doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over again until I find my authentic self but... How?

>>33342781 (OP)
You go to places bitches be, you locate one with massive honkers and then you go and pick them up the same way you would any girl.

>>33345187
You've actually explained exactly what most people do. You typically don't see real people. Only a mask that they project onto the world. This mask is built on insecurities, previous experiences, etc. but are usually tied to childhood.
>I have been trying to be someone else for so long that I have lost connection to my genuine self
That's the problem. You are not at a point where you can or should be with anyone else. You have to be with yourself for a while and focus on that.
>I'm doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over again until I find my authentic self
This is exactly why you must focus on yourself. You'd do the same thing over and over. And it would hit you harder and faster (or you wouldn't even progress very far with finding someone) *because* you're cognizant of this fact. You know too much to be successful in doing the same thing you know nets you nothing you want.
>but... How?
Take a step beck from finding anyone else entirely. You mentioned you *lost* the connection to your genuine self, right? So there was a point where you *were* connected. What were you doing at that time? Go back to your interests. Go back to what drives you. Remember the things that brought you joy and you loved to do. Start doing those things again and expand on them. Maybe there's something you always wanted to do but never did. For me, one of those things was photography. Or I really enjoy music, so I bought old iPods that I never had as a child and put my music collection on that and started listening again.

You've got to learn to be happy by yourself. That builds the self confidence you need, because you discover you only *want* another person to be with. You don't *need* them. So if things go bad...so what? You learned something new and you still have yourself to be happy with. And in that you become your most attractive. Women don't want you to *need* them. They need you to *want* them. And carry yourself accordingly.

>>33345202
>>33345226
At the same time you do this, you have to strive to be the best version of yourself that you can be. You know where you're slacking off and could be doing better. Fix that. It's not even hard things, because it's stuff you see with your own mind. One of mine is I know the type of woman I like wants a man who keeps fit. Not bulky and brawny huge. But exercises consistently. So I have do to that. Not because it gets bitches. I did it for that reason in the past and I always stopped when it didn't work out. You have to do it because you know it's what you have to do to be who you truly were meant to be. Fuck a bitch. The only bitch that matters is your anima (your inner feminine). She's the only bitch who's opinion matters. She'll never betray you. She's always on your side. And she'll even help you keep your bitch girlfriend in line too. She's stronger than your girlfriend. And that's the woman who needs to come first in everything. Never put a woman outside of you above your inner feminine.

>>33345243
Can the anima evolve overtime? I remember when I was younger I had this dream of an gothicish girl taunting me for being so quick to following orders, I remember she implied I was like a little dog, playfully making fun of me but it was pretty accurate. However, at some other moments when I try to go to a peaceful place in my mind like in a rural area there's like a tomboyish girl but more rural looking, shoulder length blonde hair, brown eyes etc and she still taunts me but she is more gently in nature

I don't know which one is my anima really, of maybe it's the same in a different stage? Oh and btw is it possible to integrate your anima in the same way one could do with the shadow self?

>>33345267
Yes it can evolve. What usually happens to men, to go off on a slight tangent, is they never fully develop. They have a mask and they never truly *observe* the women they deal with. They simply project their anima ONTO their counterpart and women, being social adepts, catch the hint and act just like her. Like the man wants her to. This is why you hear that common trope about "Everything was great before marriage, then she just changed." No bro. She just took off the mask and stopped pretending because she didn't have to anymore. You (the man) were too busy in fantasy land *imagining* the girl instead of looking at what was actually there the whole time. This is another reason you must go through this process. You'll never be taken advantage of because you always see the woman for what she truly is and decide based on that.
>I don't know which one is my anima really, of maybe it's the same in a different stage?
You can make her however you want her to be. Optimally, though, she's the feminine version of you at your best. So strive to develop her into that. And you do that by working on your masculine self. It goes hand in hand and is kinda automatic.
>Oh and btw is it possible to integrate your anima in the same way one could do with the shadow self?
I would say that the anima is already integrated as much as it needs to be. It's just whether or not your cognizance of her and ability to tap into her is strong or not. It's literally like the Yin and Yang symbol. Yang is masculine and is the white side with the black dot. Yin is Feminine and the black side with the white dot. You don't ever fully mix Yang and the anima (or Yin and the animus).

And integrating the shadow self is another way of getting down to the genuine you to the point where you no longer have the mask, which is the goal of all the other things I've mentioned. That's completely different and does need to be fully integrated.

>>33345302
Thank you so much Anon, I'm really grateful. I never thought I would acquire esoteric knowledge on a thread talking about titcows but I'm glad it happened. Right now I'm going through a lot of turmoil so I think it's better to focus on God and myself and heal from my childhood wounds so I can try to be while again, it's going to be hard because many things in the world are rough right now but using a mask hasn't done me any favours, quite the opposite really, and again, thank you so much for taking the time to help a stranger

>>33345333
The trips of truth don't lie. I'm glad I could be of assistance. One last thing. You said to focus on yourself and god right? That's a very weird way of saying yourself twice bro. The closest place you can find god is within your own heart. Just like you can find all the answers to your problems by delving within...god is also there as well. We were created in the image and after the likeness of father God. His essence is within us so we need not search outward for him. He is infinite consciousness, the entirety of the universe, experiencing everything possible all at once. Your mind is a direct connection to that infinite consciousness. I can tell you are the type of person who can execute on the things discussed here so I know your success is already done.

Peace, anon.

>>33345358
>I can tell you are the type of person who can execute on the things discussed here so I know your success is already done.
Out of curiosity? What type of person is that? I had people who told me there was something different about me but I couldn't be too sure what was it but I do agree that I feel different

And I agree Anon, I am a Christian but if I'm not mistaken the Gnostics thought God was within us and we could reach that connection. I know I need to become more humble, and I shouldn't sexualize women the way I do, like calling them titcows and all, that's another step I should fix, I shouldn't be treating them like objects

>>33345381
>Out of curiosity? What type of person is that?
The type of person who genuinely considers what I have to say, after reading paragraphs of text that most anons are way too lazy to even glance over, who responds with good questions to further their understanding of the subject matter.
>I know I need to become more humble, and I shouldn't sexualize women the way I do, like calling them titcows and all, that's another step I should fix, I shouldn't be treating them like objects
It probably comes from porn consumption. You have to cut it out. It completely throws off your aura, your motivation, and even mental and physical strength. It's something I'm working on too and there's a reason they've made porn so easily accessible. You can barely scroll instagram without thirst traps being suggested.
>And I agree Anon, I am a Christian but if I'm not mistaken the Gnostics thought God was within us and we could reach that connection.
I'm not familiar with this but it sounds right to me, lol. I have one thing you should do, and I know it's gonna sound weird. Before you go to sleep. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. In through the nose and out of your mouth. Take some time to thank your brain itself for all it does. Say it out loud. A whisper is fine, but it has to be out loud. It's so weird when you think about what you're doing: using your mind to talk to your physical brain. But do it anyway. Thank it for the literal years of constant, non-stop work. Ask it for help if you want. Be genuine. And see what happens. It took me a few minutes to work up the courage because I was shy and it seemed so weird...but do it anyway. Tonight.

>>33342781 (OP)
By being a titcow bf

>>33345421
That doesn't sound weird to me, I think it's a great gratitude practice actually, thank you Anon, will do. As for the porn thing you are completely right and it's going to get worse, with AI, sex robots and all it's going to be completely insane. I deleted all my porn and I'm avoiding places places like /b/ or /r9k/ because they are full of porn and degenerate stuff. I'm trying to do semen retention because I want to harness my lust because if I fall for virtual reality porn I think it will be impossible for me to crawl my way back so complete abstinence is the best option in my opinion

Thank you so much for all your advice, I'm happy that I bumped the thread because this is valuable information, I'm going to save it

>>33345441
>I think it will be impossible for me to crawl my way back so complete abstinence is the best option in my opinion
One thing I came across recently that helped my own perspective on this is: Don't stop watching porn. Become the man who doesn't need to watch it in the first place. Because when you just stop, you're operating at the same level you were at before. That's why it's still so tempting to grab your dick.

Alternatively, we have an idea of what successful men do. They fill their time with moving their goals forward instead of laying back, relaxing like there's not shit to do, getting bored and beating off. It's about replacing the action with other actions. Not just stopping an action and that being it.
>Thank you so much for all your advice, I'm happy that I bumped the thread because this is valuable information, I'm going to save it
I'm glad I decided to come through today. Thanks to some reddit post about a thread here I felt like giving my input on. Looks like this conversation was the reason I saw that haha.

>>33345465
That's true, I will use the soul searching as a way to fill the time in a way where I don't have to rely on porn anymore, it damaged me in ways I can't express really. It completely distorted my psyche and I developed a lot of weird fetishes as a result since I kept reinforcing the fantasy each time I masturbated, dangerous stuff Anon, I think everyone should quit

I feel sorry for all the kids who will have to grow up with porn, it's going to be so difficult to build normal relationships and it's going to be more normalized as time goes on

eh i always picked up titcows by being into literature but being attractive helps too

>>33345496
It just comes down to good parenting or a lack thereof, honestly. That's part of why I have to become my best: so I can afford to have my children homeschooled. That's really the only way now.

>>33345513
That's true, I'm sure you will be a great father one day Anon

>>33345501
I'm trying to read more but I cannot comprehend what I read lmao, any advice on that? I feel like I am low IQ sometimes

>>33345521
Same to you, haha. We're much too aware for anything else to be true.

>>33342781 (OP)
>be me
>titcow lover
>exclusively have dated c-cup breastlets

I wouldnt trade my gf for the world but i wish she had honkers on her. Maybe i should get her knocked up so they start producing milk

>>33345526
try reading simpler stuff, i was heavily into sci-fi and fantasy before i moved to classics and real lit

>>33345893
Do you always comprehend what you read or do you, sometimes, stumble upon a paragraph that you just can't understand?

this looks grotesque, like those skeletons that are reimagined of previous men who were over 7ft tall

>>33345981
>Do you always comprehend what you read
absolutely not, but it gets easier to understand stuff when you become familiar with literary themes, writing styles, tropes, dialogue... also each story is like entering an author's mind, if you're reading attentively you kind of form your expectations around how it was written, you get into a groove or a rhythm, you remember stuff they mentioned before, you start to understand the characters and the flow of the story, the way they use language.

>>33342781 (OP)
As a woman, with large breasts, I would never want someone that wants a 'titcow gf'. Stop watching porn, read some books and you one day might have a chance with a woman.

You don't seem very attuned to women but even though you fetishize women, you seem decently sincere in improving. I'm a woman (not trans) and I'm telling you the best thing you can possibly do is read. Read old lit and most importantly, stop watching porn. We can tell what you do with all your spare time.

>>33348985
I see someone else mentioned literature, as well. It's not so much about reading old lit, it's about becoming aware/becoming a man. Improving your character, being AWARE of how you express and being free enough to choose the best expression. Watching porn and beating off, is ape behavior.

>>33342781 (OP)
You really don’t. Women like that get scooped up quick as shit because the demand for them is greater than the supply. Sure there are plenty of girls with tits that big but they have massive guts and no ass or hips. That kind of fat distribution is rare.

>>33348985
Thank you for the sincere advice, I really appreciate. I'm sorry if the way I chose to phrase the thread came across as disrespectful. I am trying to read more books primarily because I want to stay away from the internet as it's very easy for me to relapse into porn

The problem is that whenever I try to read I have a really hard time understanding what I read and it makes me feel really stupid, like low IQ so it makes me feel hopeless which makes me more prone to relapse into porn, it's really demoralizing, what can I do in this case?

>>33348985
Nice larp, but Tits or gtfo

>>33349624
You might have dyslexia or ADHD. Try ebooks instead. Audible has a free trial with Prime today.

>>33349632
kys incel

>>33349689
audio* books

>>33349689
Do you think I can work my way up to reading physical book? Because I really don't want to rely on technology since it could be very easy for me to fall into bad habits again

I don't know, I'm in this negative mindset of me being too stupid to do anything edifying and me being doomed to be a filthy stupid coomer due to my intellectual inability

>>33349383
You gotta just love these ugly losers judging women's bodies. You know what they look like.

>>33349705
You're respectful which means you're smarter than 99% of these guys on here. Disabilities aren't anything to be ashamed of, bad behavior is. I'd start with something you're interested in, with simple words, maybe try the Old Man and the Sea. Take frequent breaks.

Just open the app and listen to books, maybe start drawing or painting, repair stuff as you listen. Whatever you like to do.

>>33349723
Thank you for the kind words. By disability do you mean things such as dislexia or ADHD? Or are you talking about me being not intelligent enough to grasp the concepts properly? Because I think I would have to change my approach depending on the one I fall into

>>33349740
You really don't sound stupid to me. Yes, I mean dyslexia or ADHD, if that's your problem. I read a lot and likely have dyslexia.

>>33349754
Oh, that's impressive, one of my friends has dislexia and he has a hard time sitting down with a book, it's pretty challenging. I have a book that I was thinking about picking up again, I will do it today, thank you

Oh, and one more thing, you mentioned I should read more and quit porn (I do agree with it) but do you have any other suggestion or advice that could also be beneficial?

>>33349754
>>33349771
Anonnete?

>>33349754
What do you read?

>>33349771
>>33350225
>>33350232

Yeah, I'm female. I read a lot online, legit history, not conspiracy theories. I read my published friend's books (historical figures). My minor is in English lit so I was always reading in university... some of the best times of my life, really.

Additional suggestions? Women are wary of perverts and can see through men easily there. I can't speak for all women but, in general, be real. Be genuine. Instead of porn, watch romcoms to see what some women want. Some girls are kinda outspoken about hating romcoms but there is a good reason they are so popular, with women. Be observant. Do NOT compliment on her on her body, instead, when you see her say she looks nice... you like her style, etc. Maaaaybe after you know her a bit you could ask her if she works out since she looks very fit. The thing a lot of men aren't good at is being subtle, they just dig in with a fork and knife. It's the back and forth flirting, the build up, the chase that is the most important and ultimately satisfying. If she showed you some tattoo or scar or bite (whatever) on her body, you could joke and say you need a cold shower but DO NOT be disgusting about it. That's the end for you if you give her the ick by being creepy.

>>33350444
Thank you so much for the advice and patience. I will focus on quitting porn because it's true that it made me objectify women and I guess it did make me feel guilty deep down because I knew it was wrong even though I kept doing it, I will use this as a wake up call. And realistically speaking, do you think I could improve my reading comprehension in a significant way even if I stumble upon paragraphs that I cannot understand even though I'm not reading particularly complicated books?

>>33350444
Interesting advice. So do most women still like getting chased? If yes, why? Doesn't this also say something about how stronger the male sex drive is compared to the female sex drive.

>>33350480
When you read, you pick up new words, and infer the meaning from the context. No one knows everything, don't be hyper fixated on what you don't know. The heaviest reading I've ever came across was a Buddhist sutra. I'm not new to religion, or philosophy, but I can empathize. It's good you feel guilty, you're not a psychopath.

>>33350635
I've always thought that would be something impossible to prove, that men have a higher sex drive, than women. You can't isolate men from the culture, how society makes excuses for them. Women have much more responsibility in having sex, than men do. That makes us more picky as we have to deal with the possible consequences. Women don't like controlling men but mildly persistent is of course nice, if we're into him.

>>33350790
>I'm not new to religion, or philosophy, but I can empathize.
Out of curiosity, are you religious? Or do you believe in God or Higher Power?

>>33350815
I'm not religious but I believe in a higher power, God... I love Jesus, I don't love Christians and I don't think most Christians are moral, although some are.

>>33350883
I agree, thank you for your kindness and patience, you made me reflect a lot today.

>>33350790
I'm sure that culture has plays a big role in men and women's sex drive, but I think there's quite a bit of scientific and anecdotal evidence to prove that men want sex more than women do.

>>33350790
I'm sure that culture plays a big role in men and women's sex drive, but I think there's quite a bit of scientific and anecdotal evidence to prove that men want sex more than women do. Anyways, the way women flirt is odd to me. One woman's flirting is another woman's friendly gesture. Makes things confusing.

>>33342781 (OP)
Name???

>>33345243
She has an Animus though and will beat you just the same

>>33348985
>>33349624
Do not listen to the fuckin tranny. It’s not “sincere advice”, it’s drivel from a mentally ill MAN.

>>33342781 (OP)
you don't. they know how desirable they are and they won't settle for less than the best.

>>33342781 (OP)
I've wondered about this too. I desperately want to experience huge tiddies but there's literally no way to approach a titcow without making it immediately obvious that you're only talking to her because of her ginormous jimblies. it's just not fair. you just have to hope she likes you enough to give you a chance at hitting on her.

If you guys wanna date women solely on physical traits then you're gonna have a bad time. You'll get bored of them eventually and the red flags you ignored because of the boobs will start to pop up.

>>33353235
Well if you see her as a pair of tits you're going to treat her like a pair of tits. Just think of her as a beautiful woman.

>>33349689
kys tranny faggot. You are a man

>>33353253
You're right, but looks do matter to a certain extent and being attracted to your partner matters.

I love boobs so much bros