21 year old khv femanon
I've never been in a relationship. I want to have one, I want to love somebody and feel loved, and eventually marry and raise a family. I've been asked out a handful of times throughout the years and I've turned down every offer. At first the excuses were "I'm too young", "my father will hurt me", "I'm too busy with college" but now they've become "I'm not interested in this guy" and now "I'm not interested in relationships". Yet I still want to marry and have kids with a husband eventually. But I haven't felt anything for anybody in years now. My father still doesn't approve of relationships, let alone me having friends and he most likely will cut me out of his life if I got a boyfriend. I always make an excuse to get out of any potential relationships. I can't tell if I'm just disinterested or scared of relationships as whole. Any anons feel like this? How do I move past this? Have I just not met the right person yet?

I’m in the same boat in terms of wanting a companionship, but feeling sort of apathetic about relationships, so take what I say with a grain of salt. Firstly, you’re 21, not daddy’s little girl anymore; you’re an adult need to tell him that you want and will have a relationship. Second, if you’re making excuses, it could be you don’t think you’re fit for/deserve a relationship? If so, you need to become someone you think can handle/deserves one. Lastly, I think you need to just try being in a relationship to know if you’re really disinterested or not, instead of being vaguely uncertain about it. Best of luck femanon.

>>33345204 (OP)
I’m in the same boat in terms of wanting a companionship, but feeling sort of apathetic about relationships, so take what I say with a grain of salt. Firstly, you’re 21, not daddy’s little girl anymore; you’re an adult need to tell him that you want and will have a relationship. Second, if you’re making excuses, it could be you don’t think you’re fit for/deserve a relationship? If so, you need to become someone you think can handle/deserves one. Lastly, I think you need to just try being in a relationship to know if you’re really disinterested or not, instead of being vaguely uncertain about it. Best of luck femanon.

>>33345204 (OP)
I’m in the same boat in terms of wanting
companionship, but feeling sort of apathetic about relationships, so take what I say with a grain of salt. Firstly, you’re 21, not daddy’s little girl anymore; you’re an adult need to tell him that you want and will have a relationship. Second, if you’re making excuses, it could be you don’t think you’re fit for/deserve a relationship? If so, you need to become someone you think can handle/deserves one. Lastly, I think you need to just try being in a relationship to know if you’re really disinterested or not, instead of being vaguely uncertain about it. Best of luck femanon.

what does your mom say?
to me it sounds like your father is too restricitve/overcaring/protective of you, but probably only because he loves you and, if you are gone, who will your father have?

>21 year old khv femanon
that is very hot and respectable, you are a prized jewel, anonette. i hope you manage to settle for a good, caring soul.

>scared of relationships
yeah same, but im in a different boat. women lie at my feet, but 90% of them are uninteresting, uninspired and have the wrong vibration, astrological sign. and im scared to hurt them, if you know what i mean, because that is for life. also, lets say "electric" entanglement is fateful.
maybe talk to a professional psychologist (if you have free healthcare). make a list of the problems and be truthful. they are specially trained to help people and remain discreet (by law). you are going to see that simply talking from one human to another in persona, will be a massive help.
good luck

Get a master's degree and try to go to more (social) clubs or sports. Just meet a larger volume of people.
If that doesn't work, try dating apps (not hookup apps/tinder).

>>33345404
I'm afraid for my father because it'll mean that I'll be homeless outside of the academic year. I think the idea that I feel I don't deserve a relationship probably does play a part in this. I don't see myself as somebody worth admiration or excessive care.
>>33346041
Thank you anon. Regarding my mother, she's not really involved in my life, my parents separated when I was a toddler and frankly she is not a good source for relationship advice.
>>33346074
Any recommendations on dating apps? I don't use social media aside from this place so I'm not familiar with the apps.

Thank you anons, I really appreciate it. I wish you all the best of luck as well and I hope you find true everlasting love.

>>33345204 (OP)
Your dad's a cuck. Did he molest you?

>>33347638
No

let's have a date