I'm a very introverted, yet passionate guy, 21 years old.
I'm asking advice on how to get in touch with/progress with reaching out to a guy?

I have had various (cute) schoolmates (who i thought might be gay, i did not ask them outright tho). With my study i only am in a certain setup with specific classmates for about 3 to 4 months total so after having warmed up to them a bit and all it feels like youre already not classmates anymore.

So i actually asked 2 guys for their discord and have them on there, however i have absolutely no idea how to socialize further with them? I send random things from time to time, a song i find dope as hell, or a random funny image or vid i found really funny, but they rarely ever respond and truly never just send something to me first at all. It kinda feels like i am putting in the effort in people that do not care at all which is saddening? Do i need to str8 up tell people "i intend on becoming friends/ friendly, that is why i am talking to you and sharing interesting things with you" + potentially "are you gay, bc i am, and i think you are cute?".

Am i autistic or just bad at socializing and communicating? wtf? I do have a (very small) (really great) social circle so its not like i am friendless. However i kinda feel like i might be too unappealing to socialize with beyond humoring me for a short bit with these people, OR maybe too afraid to get rejected and need to be more daring towards these people?

It's not just the cute (gay?) guys tho, it's kinda every classmate i thought would be cool to befriend over the last 3/4 years.

Any advice would be appreciated.

(image is coast in the netherlands)

>>33350464 (OP)
I genuinely want you to kill yourself

>>33350464 (OP)
LGTBWXYZ clubs and events
Gay bars
Judy Garland film festivals

>>33350464 (OP)
You just overthink, socializing come naturally unless you are autistic. The usual issue is anxiety of saying something wrong, or the feel you have to entertain the other person. Another thing that's needed is motivation to put effort into talking. With discord it's harder. For those guys there isn't much motivation to talk to you, as they aren't gay. There needs to be a motivation, simple things are having common interests, that could be hating on a teacher together, or liking the same music, playing same instrument, playing online games etc. Then once you talk about that stuff, you became more trusting and talk about other things.

But if you want them to talk to you more without having common interests, you would need to be more entertaining yourself, which is just for extroverted people. Most are bystander and can't socialize on their own.