>gf wants to go vegan
>why: she has rheumatoid arthritis
>basically, you get arthritis early from your body attacking itself; no cure
>studies have shown red meat may aggravate rheumatoid arthritis
>know for a fact placebo effect will always prevail whether it actually works or not

I love her but I don’t know if I can handle being with a fucking vegan. Food is so important to me, including while traveling, that veganism destroys all of that. Any ideas or advice?

>>33351980 (OP)
Can't she just eat a little less red meat? If other non-vegan products don't aggravate it, then there is no reason for such an extreme option.

kys

>>33351980 (OP)
Don't see why that would effect you, besides maybe needing to find restaurants with vegan options, and planning with her to make it realistic. If she's actually partner material she isn't going to force it on you or try to limit you for her own sake, she's going to help you work with her limitations, and if you're a good partner you're going to help her figure it out so that you're both happy. Ultimately what she eats has no effect on you, and what you eat doesn't effect her. If you can collaborate to make it work, that's a good sign of a productive relationship. If either of you tries to restrict the other, or allows resentment to build instead of finding the path forward together, then it's not.

>>33352021
I take it you’ve never been in a relationship

>what you cook
>where you can eat out

Imagine every single meal for the rest of your life being changed. Imagine traveling somewhere and “oh can’t eat there, no vegan option except salad and fries”

>>33352056
I've been in relationships where we have wildly different eating habits and tastes, and we made it work, mostly by not making it a big deal. If we wanted to eat together, we'd pick somewhere that had options we both liked, or we'd get something we want from different places and take it home or to a park and eat together there. If you want it to work, it will. If you want it to be a problem, it will be. I'd bet the issue isn't the practical things like figuring out where you can eat or what to cook, it's that you feel some personal way about the way she eats and are placing judgement on her. That has nothing to do with her and everything to do with you. The practical questions are easy to solve if you want to, but you being judgemental and resentful of her is a death knell for any relationship.

>>33351980 (OP)
>Any ideas or advice?
"Shut the fuck up" springs to mind. Her going vegan for purely medical reasons won't make the slightest difference to you.

>>33351980 (OP)
Aw, gee. keeping her from constant pain might inconvenience you a bit. Obviously you have to dump the bitch

>>33352389
This. Women must never have opinions or complaints, inshallah.

>>33351980 (OP)
You don't love her if you are seriously putting your own inconvenience ahead of her comfort. You don't truly love her and care for her well being, you just want to maintain possession of her. Basically you only love her like someone loves their car. Either dump her and find someone you can love as an equal or reevaluate your own attachment style and grow as a person if you actually want to be a better person.