>decide to follow reddits advice on how to make friends
>invite my handball teammates to watch a pro handball match over whatsapp
>nobody answers
My fate is being a fucking loner, it seems

>>33353438 (OP)
Why are you following r*ddit's advice on making friends in the first place?

>>33353438 (OP)
Following R*ddit's advice on making friends is like following a Discord mod's weight loss advice

>>33353532
>>33353553
Not OP but how do you make close connections after college?

>>33353438 (OP)
There’s a saying. Don’t shit where you eat. Your teammates shit during the handball match. They eat by socialising outside of handball.

They dont want to hang out to discuss handball. They would rather hangout to talk about shit besides handball. You already talk handball as a team. Doing it as a social group is overkill. Its boring.

Offer something entirely different, something novel and fun. Go offer urban exploring, or hiking, or a cookout, or fishing + some beers.

>>33353576
Nah, my invite was totally appropriate. I was just inviting my colleagues to hang-out. We are on vacation from handball as well.

>>33353438 (OP)
That is like the boomer version of firm handshake. Also, listening to millennial normies/NPCs give advice? Come on bro... On a positive you did join a sports team and invited people to watch a handball game with you. I say that r*ddit appears to be very disingenuous about giving advice despite the "niceties" and "candor" they rave about.

Its probably better to watch r*ddit stories from people on yt about friends that were not friends to them.

Aside from that, keep trying. Yes, it sucks. I had tried before and I was scolded by the only chick in the pick up game group about fun posting on the whatsapp group years ago. She was scolded in return by others over the next month or so. I thought about returning to that pickup game group so I may try again soon, I already checked out the new location they play as well so its all right.

>>33354889
It might be important to mention that I'm 18 and I'm talking about this handball: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Handball

>>33353438 (OP)
Do you know if they watch pro handball or not? How much have you gotten to know each other before you invited them? Would the gathering be at your place or in public somewhere?

It's not a bad idea to invite them out, but I'm assuming you haven't tested the waters yet. "hey we should like hang out and watch the playoffs guys wouldn't that be fun" Also, asking in-person is much more likely to succeed if this is your first time doing something together outside of practice.

Best of luck handballanon

>>33353575
Don't know. I meet people online and through get togethers. True, it must be hard if you didn't already have a friend group before finishing up with secondary school. I got lucky.

>>33353438 (OP)
https://youtu.be/lqZehFAwoTM?t=32

It's over as soon as you turn 18 and leave the school system without a well established social circle. You go to work, but you won't make any friends, just coworkers. You join a sports club, same deal. It's over, because everyone already has their social circles locked in since childhood. You'll be nothing more than a coworker, destined to be alone for life. Social life and relationships are like trains you have to catch at the quay, a race against time that takes place during adolescence. And by extension, logically of course, no social life and no women.
But normies don't understand this because they are clueless normies who think you can walk into a bar full of strangers and magically form a social life like in The Sims. Only women can start from scratch and create a social life and get a boyfriend from scratch because of their status as women.

Whether you're 30 or not it doesn't change anything, maybe for the normies, but for you and me Chud, a year is like any other, the sands of time flowing towards nothingness, nothing more.. nothing less.

>>33355845
I invited them to watch a live match at the ginmnasium where the match will take place. It's very close to the club where we practice the sport ourselves. There's at least one guy who does watches pro matches, but he is in Yoorup from Brazil to play some international amateur club with a team of friends.

We are currently in vacations from handball practice until August

>>33353438 (OP)
If you invite a group of people you've never interacted casually with before, none of them are gonna come. It's ambiguous enough to give them an out, and none of them want to be the only person to show up.
You have to invite people individually and in-person. Make them answer directly and make a commitment or don't. They will also feel more respected by being personal with them rather than treating them as part of a blob.
Some of them will still say no even directly, but your odds of getting some to say yes is much higher.
This >>33353576 is also fairly true. Should consider doing something else.

>>33355845
There shouldn't be this many obstacles to what comes naturally to normies
This is exactly what reddit would come back with. "Well, um have you TRIED harder?"

You should try to establish connections with people in your group before organizing a group activity. If you just jump straight to bonding with them all you're ignoring that some of them might not get along, are already friends, etc. Granted you know the situation best. When you establish connections don't try to become friends with everyone at once; try to aim for more bite sized private moments where you can be a bit more candid at a 1 to 1 level. I cannot stress enough that the biggest mistake you can make is trying to force everyone to get along at the same time. I also agree with the anon who said pro handball for your handball group is a bit overkill, unless they all REALLY like handball.

>>33353438 (OP)
I remember when a coworker of mine invited all of us to his wedding and nobody went at all.
He was a cool enough guy, no one disliked him, but no one had that relationship with him. He was just a casual work bud.

You have to build the rapport. Also Reddit is dumb. This place is too. Sorry you got set up to fail by those fucking Tumblr kids.

Just know it isnt necessarily something wrong with you that no one came.

>>33358755
Some of us went to watch a match at the same place after our practice last year. The difference was that our coach invited us.
>>33358762
I guess that's my situation. I'm too shy around them, so I'm always having a kind of involuntary thousand-yard stare when talking to them. I'm just that guy that nobody dislikes, but nobody likes. A mere teammate to them even though we've been training together for 1,5 year.