Hey everyone, I’m in a tough spot and need some advice.

I started talking to an OnlyFans creator a while back, and over time, we’ve developed what feels like a deeper connection. We’ve had some personal conversations outside of the platform, and she’s said some things that made me feel like she’s interested in something more than just the transactional nature of the platform. She’s also expressed care for me, asking about my well-being and making me feel special, which led me to believe that this could be something real.

However, I can’t help but question whether this is just part of her job—selling intimacy for tips and attention—or if she genuinely feels something for me. I’m feeling conflicted because I can’t shake the feeling that I might be getting too attached to something that’s not truly there. I know I’m not the only person she’s talking to, and I’m unsure how to read her words and actions.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do I know if this is real, or if it’s just a one-sided parasocial relationship? Is there a way to navigate this, or am I just setting myself up for heartbreak?

I appreciate any insight you can provide. I just want to figure out what’s going on here and whether I’m just fooling myself.

>>33353592 (OP)
Try going a while without giving her money and see how friendly she is.

The problem with that type of relationship is that even if she is interested, she can always fall back on it being transactional if she later loses interest. And you'll always question things. If you're not rich enough to be her permapimp, then her heart is probably not yours.

>How do I know if this is real
By asking her out and hearing whether the answer is yes or no.
>or if it’s just a one-sided parasocial relationship?
That is by definition what she sells on OnlyFans. That is her job, pretending to be into men who are paying her. And some of the women don't even write their own messages, they hire Indian guys to chat with the customers on their behalf.

>>33353641
If anything she'd get friendlier. Do you think waiters get rude if they start thinking the customer has become uncertain on tipping?

>>33353817
>Do you think waiters get rude if they start thinking the customer has become uncertain on tipping?

Yes, waiters get rude when they know you don't tip.

>>33353817
>if anything she be friendlier.

How long and vigorously would you try to squeeze juice from a rock?
Shes not gonna maintain that effort long term which was the point of other anon. And hes right, anyway. OP will never feel good or certain in that relationship

>>33353592 (OP)
No it's not real. Not even a 0.00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000001% chance. It has never happened before, and will never happen for the rest of eternity. This is pathetic, stop it right now.

I know it feels good to lie to yourself, like this and pretend you have someone, but the fact is you don't, and you're only wasting valuable time that you could be using to better yourself, or find the person God HAS set aside for you. (Even if you dont believe in God, you have to at least concede that this is your only chance, and youre wasting timeThis chick is for the streets, dude. You're better than her in every way.

>However, I can’t help but question whether this is just part of her job—selling intimacy for tips and attention—or if she genuinely feels something for me.
You've answered your own question. It's part of her job. It's also part of her job to help you forget you're paying her. She must be pretty good at her job or you're very desperate. It's not real either way.

>>33357826
God damn it I just noticed the emdashes. Dead internet fml

Are you paying to talk to her?

>>33357989
No I am not she often just starts talking with me and it keeps going for hours

>>33358322
check out the porn adjacent series Your Worst Friend

>>33358322
You and the other orbiters she uses for emotional support while she shoves things in her holes and is frustrated by other dudes plugging them who are not you irl.
Stop simping for literal paid whores.

>>33354397
I do believe in God. You might have different feeling about someone who works on Onlyfans, but I don´t believe you can find any excuse to call her how you did.

>>33353592 (OP)
i would totally make someone develop feelings over me for fun but im just mean and in need for attention

>>33358336
Sounds like you have some deep knowledge about how everything works in that space

>>33358348
Life is easier for your mind if you stop being mean. Also attention seeking is not something you need, just be happy with yourself and that need goes away.

>>33358341
>but I don´t believe you can find any excuse to call her how you did.

>>33358369
That´s a funny one.

>>33358353
Do you think women don't do that by default?

>>33358404
I´m not sure what is your experience, but I cant say that any women who I have met in real life has been like that.

>>33358441
Do you look unfortunate?

>>33358368
i okey to be a bit evil, like kuromi evil, not american psycho evil

>>33353592 (OP)
>over time, we’ve developed what feels like a deeper connection.
No you haven't. Giving that impression is what she does for a living.

>>33353592 (OP)
You already know the correct answer but you're here seeking validation for the delusion that she's actually in to you.

No she isn't in to you.

>>33353592 (OP)
She sells a fantasy for money

This is her job

Good lord. And I felt like a simp getting a train to a date

>>33353592 (OP)
>words words words im a dumbass that thinks a prostitute likes me words words words

It's not real, dumbass. Get a grip. It's her job to do this, to appeal to lonely men with a seemingly "real" connection. Every day there's a dumbass like you here with the exact same question, and it's always the same shit. Chances are, it's not even "her" on the other end, but rather some pajeet she hired for 2 rupi an hour to talk to retards like you. Don't be a paypig.

>>33353592 (OP)
>How do I know if this is real, or if it’s just a one-sided parasocial relationship?
Ask her. I always find it odd when it never occurs to people to just open their mouths and ask another human being a question about how they're feeling. I don't understand how this isn't your first, second and third ideas. Its truly baffling how many modern adults have no clue how to communicate and have frank conversations with the people around them.

>>33357843
Another zoomer who think the em dash was invented by AI

maybe she's just being nice, I'm 99% sure she doesn't like you man, but if you REALLY like her there's not much you can do

My coworker is playful with me but you should know where the line is between acquiantence and friend is. Too often simps jump too ahead, and it is tempting. However you need to accept the sad truth and hard pill, that unless she truly starts taking real actionable steps towards you, you aren't going anywhere with you. You know how in a waiting room at the DMV there is this ticket with a number and letter with it, to her you are like guy number J78 to her in a line of a ton of guys in front of her. Want proof? Guess why she is on her phone all the time, dealing with guys like you. You got to be beyond number J78 in a waiting room to her. Most of us guys are average, and I am too.

>onlyfans
yeah no

>>33362845
no its certainly ai lol, i could tell before the em dashes

>>33353592 (OP)
>OnlyFans creator
you mean a whore
don't sugarcoat it, you've been talking to a prostitute
using the right words will also help you make the right decisions. do real men build long term relationships with whores?

>>33366032
Honestly if you talk like that you have probably never met a real man in your life

I'm going to be blunt with you: she doesn't care for you and there's a good chance it's not even her writing those messages. Even worse is that your messages might even be being shared around privately and gawked at.

>>33362845
AI models tend to overuse em dashes because they are trained on massive datasets where em dashes are frequently used, mimicking human writing styles that often include them for emphasis or to indicate a pause. Additionally, em dashes are versatile and can replace other punctuation marks like commas, parentheses, or colons, which AI might find convenient in various sentence structures

>>33353592 (OP)
Yeah this happened to me and she would blow up my phone all day and sext me and ask for dick pics from me even tho thats normally something ppl pay for. She seemed to be genuinely interested and then as another anon said over a couple of months it just regressed back to being transactional. Full disclosure: i had spent $800 on her (shes american w a high paying degree, so p much nothing for her) by the time i stopped talking to her but we had been talking constantly for a couple of months. When she "liked" me she wouldnt charge me for a weeks for anything. You might think its all fake and I was talking to some sweaty indian but its pretty obvious when youre talking to a real woman. The rudeness, capriciousness and inconsiderate behavior of a genuinely hot girl cannot be replicated

I also had the sickening feelings youre describing, faded her, and when i talked to her under a new account she chewed me out, got angry and basically stopped messaging me. So that doesn't really track as machiavellian..

Truth is a lot of OF models are emotionally busted people. If you're hot, their age and super into her, yes they can become into you but not in the way you think. Look up histrionic personality disorder. So yeah theyre "into" you but theyre emotionally stunted so they dont really know what that means.

Theres a few types of women who become whores/of models/strippers. And basically you got the disabled women who cant have a normal career, sociopaths who just dont care and want cash, and the histrionic coomer subtype which makes for the best ones but you end up in situations like yours

So tldr. Yeah for sure she could be into you, but in a stunted, broken way and she still wants your cash. Also ask her out OFF platform and see what happens but be warned. Shes probably mentally not alright if she accepts

>>33366862
But also i want to add. If all shes done is act kind and caring - yes absolutely OF models have a routine of doing this. I had one express her love for me eventually and it was so obviously fake. And highly disturbing.

I checked the rules and OF doesnt actually seem to have any concrete rules about love scamming! So as always, you gotta infer. The first one I thought was into me because well, idk, it was just different, and her getting pissed at me seemed to confirm it.

You should probably stay away from OF. I do now, if you really want an unstable romance online, thats pretty easy to get on a penpal site