Hi anons,

how to stop being loser average guy who has nothing in life? The only thing I want in life is to win - to have a roster of baddies, to have money and status, and to have a lot of social options. I feel like it's impossible and even if I'll go through all the grindset my ceiling is a couple of average gfs who will see me only as a save boyfriend material, some well paying job which will provide comfortable life but nothing else and few frens that will be average as me. Ngl but it kills my motivation because that's not winning at all, I would stay still at the same socioeconomic and romantic hierarchy I'm currently in. Don't get me wrong it would still be better than current situation of course but I find it hard to care to get it. It's like not winning at all, not being desired and wanted, not being somebody, not being rich, not being popular.

I feel like like no matter what I do, I’ll always be stuck. Either grinding for a life I don’t even want, or doing nothing and watching time eat me alive.

Is it even possible to escape it? Is it possible to become someone else? I need help, Im stuck seeing no way out in this life for me.

>I don't get rewarded with way above and beyond what most people get or what I'm willing and capable of working for and this is just WRONG!!
>uh, for some reason
Christ, /adv/ is worse than usual today.

>>33353771 (OP)
I would say get a college degree and pick a lane and go 100% in your lane. Then you’ll have confidence to get the things you want.

The things you want are entirely meaningless and empty as the life you have now though. You just think the grass is greener on the other side.

I think deep down you know it’s meaningless, which is why you don’t have it. You’re focused on the wrong things.

>>33353800
I get what youre saying but Im not sure if its about confidence. I may be wrong ofc but again I feel that even when I maxx out my stats it won't take me far. Besides that picking a lane and going into it seems fine.

Also Im not looking for happiness or to feel better, its more like life or death kinda thing for me because I dont want anything else. Even though I know it's empty, shallow and may not make sense to anyone here.

>>33353839
You don’t know what you’re capable of until you try. And I guarantee any results are better than the feeling of accomplishing nothing.

You want the cart before the horse. You want all the fruits of success but not the success itself. I empathize with that a lot.

But I think the reason you haven’t tried is because the things you list that you want like a harem of women and tons of success and money are spiritually empty. I think it’s just your insecurity talking. You don’t have those things because deep down you know intuitively know that having them won’t make your life any more meaningful and you’ll just be as empty.

>>33353859
I mean I dont know the future and cant be sure 100% of everything but my brain still compares myself to guys who have it versus me and I see that to get certain things I need predispositions I dont have and which seems like you either born with them or nah. It doesn't release me from responsibility for my life still.

>You want the cart before the horse. You want all the fruits of success but not the success itself.
Im not sure if I got it right (english is not my first language) but its not like I wouldnt grind more if I would have a slight chance of hope of getting things I want. But right now it seems that the only thing I have is only this grind or path, the building process which seems pretty useless pointless without any rewards in the end. Im not the type person who enjoys the process, I have totally goal oriented mind. Not sure if I can cope myself out into changing the way of thinking, I feel like I would be inauthentic in some way if I would start saying that I care about the process.

>I think it’s just your insecurity talking
I cant deny that. Like I said its life or death thing for me. Either Ill succeed and be worthy, have interesting life or Ill forever see myself as a loser with meaningless life which is the only thing I have and then Im gone. Even if I would go around this problem (those insecurities) in my mind I would still find myself desiring the things I listed with no means of achieving them.

>You don’t have those things because deep down you know intuitively know that having them won’t make your life any more meaningful and you’ll just be as empty.
Yea, its like I accepted that Ill be empty but in the perfect scenario I could at least have those meaningless joys of life

>>33353931
My therapist used to always tell me “we never win the comparison game” nobody has it all. someone is always better than you in some area.

but your need to be better than others is limiting. because you won’t even try if you aren’t. it’s lame and cliche, but you have to be the best YOU can be. and i guarantee that’s better than NOT trying. there is no shame in trying and failing, it’s a very noble thing.

>>33353950
and what if Ill never achieve anything great and I will get only the ceiling I mentioned? I would literally kms. Maybe not literally but I would die mentally within myself. Like Im scared as fuck of being average in the end.
>you have to be the best YOU can be
Im scared that that version won't be enough and Ill be forever failure.

>The only thing I want in life is to win - to have a roster of baddies, to have money and status, and to have a lot of social options
Not even trolling but having spent a lot of time in crypto this is the mindset of a lot of the people there. Most of them aren't white if that matters at all

But I have to say they never really came from a place of desperation even starting out from nothing. If you are wanting it so badly that your life is ruined every day you aren't having it it's probably not going to work out

>>33354690
where it should come from? how to get rid of desperation?

also bump
what are the ways to win in life? what can i specifically do?

bump

>>33353771 (OP)
>The only thing I want in life is to win - to have a roster of baddies, to have money and status, and to have a lot of social options.

This is not your dream.

>>33353771 (OP)
>The only thing I want in life is to win
I don't want to help someone like you.

>>33358138
why? what is my dream?

>>33358251
what is wrong with it? I get I may sound douchy, but Im curious

>>33353771 (OP)
>not being desired and wanted
Mother nature is cruel like that, it's a sign she rejects you. However keep in mind that everything the divine whore births eventually dies, as they all line up beneath the cross in cemeteries. So don't feel too bad, if the creator wanted you have a great experience here on earth it would have happened by now a long long time ago. The good news is you now have, after thousands of years, the knowledge to recognize the nature of this reality and take a big fat shit on ITS creation and his divine whore with it. Before you gracefully expire, like all HER creations do, make sure to leave your mark on it and give HER a big fuck you parting gift from you.

>>33358323
Dark shit, hard to disagree with that, but anyway I don't want to die without trying, fighting back.

nice captha btw

>>33356444
>where it should come from?
Not sure, seems like some people just aren't desperate despite wanting things. It's more like a natural spark or something like that