What is a Relationship? - /adv/ (#33354204) [Archived: 453 hours ago]

Anonymous
7/13/2025, 1:35:09 AM No.33354204
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24KHHV. Obviously i would like a woman I can split rent with and fuck on a regular basis, but the other aspects of a relationship just seem weird and confusing? Laying out what I did for the whole day, everyday, it sounds exhausting as fuck. Even the people I like most in this world (and i consider myself blessed with good friends and family), if I have to interact with them more often than 1-2 times a week, start to get on my nerves. Spending my whole life with someone elses needs in mind, it sounds like so much effort. And I think someone doing the same for me would make me feel uncomfortable and waited upon in a gross way.

The only way all of this makes sense in my mind is if that thing the normies call "love" makes you not give a shit about the above, but if thats true, than it would entail such a paradigm shift in how i see the world around me that I can't believe its actually a thing. In fact even sex is beginning to seem like a complete abstraction, just 2 shapes moving in a certain way, all completely theoretical as far as my personal experience is concerned. The longer I am khhv for, the less human I feel, it's insane to me that people just interface with eachother in this way so naturally, I feel like an alien.

how do I get over this feeling of dissociation/disgust with the sexual and romantic aspects of being a human?

ps dont ask me to get a hooker i know for a fact i wont get hard with some revolting bitch that had to be paid to tolerate my presence
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Anonymous
7/13/2025, 1:50:21 AM No.33354266
Adapt description of a lack of pair bonding potential. Are you sure you haven't been sleeping around?
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Anonymous
7/13/2025, 1:53:17 AM No.33354282
>>33354204 (OP)
>how do I get over this feeling of dissociation/disgust with the sexual and romantic aspects of being a human?
Do you really have to? You can be a person without love interest and still be a functioning member of society, unless you make a big deal out of it.
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Anonymous
7/13/2025, 1:59:22 AM No.33354307
>>33354266
No, I've actually turned down a couple women before, I really don't like the idea having sex with someone just on physical attraction.
>>33354282
1. I'm afraid I've just been broken in some hard-to-trace way by my life experiences, and that I'm missing out on basic human experience
2. Spending the rest of my agonizingly long human lifespan with people that I CAN'T fuck sounds even more miserable (and I will never be rich enough to live alone)
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Anonymous
7/13/2025, 2:11:34 AM No.33354370
There was a philosopher that promoted living separately as couples. Although I'm not sure that was only permissible for him because he had status or it's actually something a subset of people wouldn't be against. I also heard stories where one person was just someone who needed a lot of alone time and their partner didn't mind it.

Point is, there are probably less traditional setups that can work in this regard. And to be honest, coming from someone somewhat similar to you it's my suspicion people don't really think for themselves when it comes to these things. They've basically internalized movies and what society told them pairing up looks like. Although I think if there are children in the picture you'd need something more intensive and solid for their sake.
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Anonymous
7/13/2025, 3:18:14 AM No.33354665
>>33354370
Its funny you mention this, i lived with my dad most of my life, and he has this relationship with his long term partner (theyve been together since i was like 4) maybe thats why im like this
Anonymous
7/13/2025, 3:35:55 AM No.33354733
cheeky bump b4 bed
Anonymous
7/13/2025, 3:50:26 AM No.33354798
>>33354204 (OP)
Most relationships have one person who cares about the needs of the other and it's not mutual. Many relationships have power imbalances and the tension that arises from that is also what keeps it going, because tension is good for sex. I'm not saying that's how it should be, but normies are retarded and that's what they've landed on.

There are no real rules to shit like this, only norms. You can do whatever you want if you find a willing partner.
Anonymous
7/13/2025, 4:30:35 AM No.33354928
>>33354307
I'll be serious then. If not physical attraction, what do you want?
>split rent with
Getting into a relationship is expensive. There's hidden costs like dressing in nice clothes to go out and impress people you might want to strangle.
>fuck on a regular basis
Easier ways of doing that
>that thing the normies call "love"
It's not going to change the way you feel about things in general, just the person in question. You can be madly in love and still fail at being together