Last night my girlfriend told me that sex is 'boring' to her. She wasn't specific on whether sex with me is boring, or just in general. In the beginning of our relationship, the sex was good and we had it often. Now it's like once a week. She lives with me, doesn't pay for rent or any bills, she doesn't have a real job outside of occasionally doing uber eats, she doesn't clean, cook, or take care of herself. How the hell do i get rid of her? she has nowhere to go really. we used to live together at her mom's granny flat, but now somebody else lives there. I'm tired of taking care of somebody, doing all of the heavy lifting, and I don't even get regular pussy from it anymore. What am I still holding out for?

>doesn’t pay rent
>shitty Uber job
>sex is boring with me
I think you know the answer man. It’s he sees you as a provider and that’s it

I don't know if my advice is good but that's what I would do:
I am certain if the roles were reversed and you were the leech, she'd have no qualms about throwing you into the streets without any consideration or empathy.
You are also not her family to worry about her wellbeing.
You were fortunate to witness her Freudian slip first hand (so to speak).
The only good choice to take thus is to ditch her. Not your problem she doesn't have options.

>>33354485
>>33354510

when my lease is up for my current place, do i ditch her then, or just try and get her out now? its like abandoning a fucking child, she can't stand on her own two feet. if she had her own place and a real job this would be a much simpler problem. she has a cat too, it's really hard to solve all these logistical problems. do i just get a long term airbnb for her for a month until she figures out where the fuck to go? im a little too kind i get it, i dont want to start throwing her clothes from the balcony, im not vindictive like that.

>>33354533
I am >>33354510
Well. I don't know, use your best judgement to know what decision to take.
I think you should just be upfront, tell her things are over, and that you aren't into her anymore, and that she has a week to move out or something. Or you could just ghost her somehow.
Don't get her a local AirBNB, you are not obligated to support her.
She wouldn't give you that courtesy. Don't be a simp.

>>33354569

i dont think i can give her only a week but since our lease is up pretty soon i think thats enough of a deadline to give her enough time to find a new place to live.

>the sex was good and we had it often
>we used to live together at her mom's granny flat
So she took care of you and let you fuck her like a rabbit even though the sex was never good for her. Now when you're taking care of her (with the exception of giving her good sex) the deal is off.

>>33354479 (OP)
Tell her you're not getting enough snusnu.
Start working out hard, make more money and start going out with other girls and take pictures together and letting your wife see.
Money, Muscles. Manipulation

>>33354601

What do you mean? I paid rent there too, she missed rent all the time because her mom enabled her, i also cooked and cleaned and fixed countless things around the house, fixed her car, I paid thousands of dollars on her dying cat, kys troon, i owe this bitch NOTHING

>>33354593
Definitively wait for it to run out if both your names are on the lease.

>>33354479 (OP)
>How the hell do i get rid of her?
The only way is murder sorry, the gift of life hasn't given us any other instrument to communicate with others of our kind, it is what it is you gotta do what you gotta do there's absolutely no other way to convey a message

>>33354479 (OP)
Have you tried loving her? Instead of only having a girlfriend as a sex dispenser?

>>33354479 (OP)
You are so busy being "manly" and providing that you haven't noticed that sex is all about having (and sharing) fun.

>>33354479 (OP)
>What am I still holding out for?
I've no idea. Kick her out. She's not your responsibility.

>>33354479 (OP)
>I'm tired of taking care of somebody, doing all of the heavy lifting, and I don't even get regular pussy from it anymore.
You see life as transactional - "I do this for you, so you owe me that." Since you don't enjoy the "this" it is hardly surprising that she doesn't enjoy the "that". Maybe if the "that" was more than payment for services rendered it would mean more for both of you

>>33356304
>You see life as transactional - "I do this for you, so you owe me that."
isnt that how humans work?

>>33356375
>isnt that how humans work?
Nta, but yes that is partly how humans work, but only partly. Transactional relationships are okay – if it’s with your boss, teacher, employee, student, colleague, classmate, co-worker.

But with friends, family, and romantic relationships it’s cancerous. There’s a time and a place for transaction. And expecting it in a relationship is the wrong time and wrong place.

Relationships should be about reciprocity, not transaction. Reciprocity & transaction are similar, both mean that both parties are giving to one another. But transaction has no love in it. Transaction is about self interested. Giving only for the aim of getting in return. It’s fuelled by ego.

Reciprocity is about selfless interest. Giving just for the sake of giving, no motive of returns. Doing it because you simply love the other. And the other freely chooses to return the gesture with no pressure or expectation of return. It’s fuelled by love.

When it becomes increasingly obvious that the relationship is running off of transactional fumes, sex usually stops. Because theres no love there. And no love = no security as far as the woman is concerned. No security = higher anxiety or self doubt or doubting the relationship, losing faith in oneself or even losing faith in their partner. Sex runs dry. Because sex is the most vulnerable act a human can be in, naked, skin to skin, pouring out emotions for the other to witness via body gesture and vocals.

And when someone stops feeling secure in the relationship once they learn the love aint there, sex goes bye bye.

>>33354479 (OP)
Somebody has to breed and raise the next generation of goyim nigger cattle. Most normies will happily step up to the plate and wage their life away for a chance to reproduce so get to work buddy. I'm just glad that's not me.

>>33356375
>isnt that how humans work?
No, that's how psychopaths work.

>>33356460
>Reciprocity is about selfless interest
You're not wrong but even selfless acts tends to end one day. Doesnt one get the feeling of being used?

>>33356606
>You're not wrong but even selfless acts tends to end one day. Doesnt one get the feeling of being used?

Selfless acts tend to end, but so do transactional acts. You’ll notice that when OP dumps his GF. Notice how transaction is now on the cusp of ending because he feels he isn’t getting enough out of his investment.

What selfless reciprocal acts have that transactional ones don’t, is when they end, they don’t stay gone. They can come back any time. As certain as summer comes and goes each year. There’s security in that, peace of mind, certainty and mutual trust.

Transactional relationships are low trust by default. They always break down and end the minute they hit the first slump or dryspell or hardship. It’s why OP is already abandoning ship lol

>>33356784
Interesting, thanks for explanation. I do feel like a lot of relationships/friendships have to start as a transaction and only then can move into reciprocal act.

>>33356095
>>33356292
This. He sounds like he has all the tenderness of a barbed wire fence
My bf pays all the bills and still shows up for me emotionally and physically because he's in live with me
Op is just using her as placeholder pussy and is too cowardly to admit it

>>33356836
so then wouldn't it be a good thing if he broke up with her since that would give her the chance to find a man who actually loves her?

>>33356843
He did do some nice groundwork for the next guy
My ex was also a rizzless penny-pincher and made my new bf look amazing in comparison

>>33356812
>I do feel like a lot of relationships/friendships have to start as a transaction and only then can move into reciprocal act.

Absolutely, thats how it usually goes. Thats normal and can be wise. It’s just some people out there suck at transitioning from transactional mode into reciprocal. They get stuck and the relationship usually breaks down.

Reciprocal bonds require emotional maturity. There’s lots of people out there, men and women, who are emotionally stunted. They can surprise you, because cognitively and intellectually they can be super smart. Super witty, and just intellectual and all. But underneath their thoughts, its emotionally twisted and stunted and just not mature enough to practice reciprocal relations. So, they just rely on their cognitive ideal thoughts of love. Not their feelings. And their thoughts always pick idealistic transactional stuff. Cuz it requires little emotion to be transactional. Suits people like that down to the ground

OP sounds like somebody who never talked about his issues with his gf.
He said the "sex is boring" statement happened only last night, and he didn't even ask her to elaborate.... yet he is already here on 4chan, asking retarded shit.

Maybe his gf is a lazy slob, but him seemingly being an unconfrontational pushover clearly taught her it is ok for her to be that way.
So yeah, break up and grow a backbone.

>>33356862
you're not making anyone feel bad but your parents you whore

>>33354823
and yet you keep telling everyone who says you owe her nothing and to let her go that you want to give her some type of severance package?

>>33356375
>>33356460

the only reason men get into relationships is for steady pussy. if i can provide for her and she can lay in bed all day and not lift a finger, the least she can do for me is make me coom. if she doesn't feel secure in our relationship i hope she feels secure living underneath a freeway overpass. i can't wait to fuck 19 year old tinder pussy again

>>33356862
all of her exes are either dead or in jail, she has admitted i am the best boyfriend she has ever had, she will never find anyone as good as me and she knows it. she fucked up for the last time. and thanks for the compliment, i have more money than your bf guaranteed but at least he's making you happy being a good cuck that spends his paychecks on his troon princess

>>33357067
what is there to explain? we clearly aren't sexually compatible and likely never were. im now realizing dont have time for asexual dykes with daddy issues anymore.

>>33357310
no youre right, theres really no obligation on my end to ensure her comfort after we break up. shes an adult