Should i meet up with an older man around the age 40, and probably lose my virginity? I like older men, but should i just date guys my age? I have no experience with relathionships or being intimate with someone. I am 18, a loner and i have no social life, but i really want to have sex.

.... and risk being murdered?

>>33357387 (OP)
No you shouldn’t. You’re obviously mentally ill and will regret it. Best case scenario the guy isn’t a complete scumbag and he just uses you. Worst case scenario you get your life ruined. Just stop being stupid and fix whatever issues you have and date some guy who’s like 25 or something who will still fulfill what you want but will actually not treat you like something to throw away

>>33357387 (OP)
You've not specified if you're a fag or a woman.
Which one of these are you?

>>33357412
I dont know how i could fix myself, yes i have tried therapy and it has not made me normal. I have autism, i feel like i cant connect with any person, im wasting away my best years so im thinking i should probably just go and do the stuff i dream about.

>>33357417
I am a woman

>>33357433
>i don't know how i could fix myself
>i have tried therapy
>it has not made me normal
>i'm wasting away my best years so im thinking i should probably just go and do the stuff i dream about
One of your dreams is fucking older men?
I mean that's your fantasy so what do I care?
It takes time, you're 18. You're not going to "get fixed" in a few months. Are you depressed? Are you on meds? Get your hormones or chemicals checked out. You might have a chemical imbalance that has you feeling depressed.
Real talk OP, when you're 18 you don't see the long term consequences of your actions until it is too late. Living too fast is a recipe to crash and burn, except when you make it out you'll have that regret that'll linger. You'll be in a different headspace 5 years from now but that dumb shit you did and thought at 18 will or might possibly still be fucking you up years later.
What are you such in a rush for? You'll have 10, 20, 30, 40 years to suck, fuck, and do dumb shit. You don't need to live it all up right now from 18 to 20. You'll have an entire lifetime to live things and experience things.

No. Old men do not date younger women unless it is to use them, whether to lead them on for a short-term affair or to use the power and experience gap to make a relationship that's beneficial for them at the cost of your freedom and wellbeing.

And consider the long-term: a gap of only 10 years already means that you'll spend your best retirement decades looking after a decaying grandpa. You'll look after him in his ill health, out of love, and then he will be gone and you'll be alone when you're old, sick and fragile. Men already decay faster and die younger than women, you do not want to make this even worse by dating someone a lot older.

+ if you get a man your age he'll be 40 eventually anyway.

>>33357387 (OP)
why not an 18 year old guy?

>>33357433
You’ll fix yourself by working towards things in a productive manner. That might be a job, gym, hobby etc. You’re going after an older guy because it fills some emotional flaw and because you don’t understand yourself, people, and consequences. It’s normal for people with issues to seek out dysfunctional relationships but it will end badly. Now that said, meeting halfway is probably fine. If you’re 18 you can find a guy in his mid 20s who might fill that need you have in some way but he can see potential in you. A 40yo guy who’s willing to mess with you is bad news, and I say that as someone with a 7yr gap. You’re young, relax a cool it. Go on dates with some guys around your age or a bit older and you’ll start to make sense of what you truly want. Do not rush into sex, you’ll regret giving into your immature impulses.

>>33357387 (OP)
NO. For fuck’s sake no.

>>33357462
Okay thanks. And yeah i have depression, adhd and autism. Im not currently on any meds, i have tried multiple ones from when i was 16 years old to this point. im currently wasting away in my room because i cant get into any schools. But i wont meet anybody right now if many people think its a bad idea, i will have to start gooning it seems

>>33357485
I find older men better looking

>>33357565
You don't have to run it by us or justify your life choices to us. Life isn't always one big high, where you are in pure bliss all the time. Life can be meh, it can be great, it can be crap, there might be moments where you are on top of the world and other moments where you couldn't feel lower, you're at rock bottom. If you have depression then I imagine you don't need it to be explained to you. When you get to where you want to be, what do you do when that sensation or feeling creeps back in? "i'm wasting away, but i'm where I thought the solution would be" Take what we say with a grain of salt, nobody is going to live your life but you. You define and live your life as you see fit, but as your own person you also assume the risk for what you gamble. You wager 10 bucks on red? If you win, there is no issue. But if you lose then you're down 10 bucks and if all you had was 10 bucks then that is all on you to figure out. What anons are saying is that a 40 year old might just use you. If you want to be used and tossed aside then go for it. You can find a medium and bang a dude who is mid 20s or early 20s. Older, but not someone with a huge age gap that'll leave you open to getting manipulated and used.

>>33357565
can't you go to a party or a club and see what happens

>>33357387 (OP)
wtf no. teenage brain be like give worst advice in history to you.

don’t have sex with anyone over 25 (and 25 is already pushing it)

did anyone watched bojack even?