How can you tell the difference when a girl fetishizes you vs having appreciation for your culture?
Im asking this question in good faith cause im really attracted to middle eastern men and love arabic influenced music.

I've heard men of color complain online about being fetishized and how that's a turn off, so i want ot make sure to avoid doing that.
There's a woman on tiktok that brags about her relationship and always says "im married to a big arab man" and thought yeah id definitely not say something like that outloud lol I thought it looked like she was lowkey flirting with another mena guy on a live cause she asked him "what are you mixed with, what's your ethnicity" , after he told he, she said "wow that's so exotic".
I thought she was out of line because she's married.

This might be where a bit of my objectification comes in, but... i've had a fantasy of sleeping with an arab guy, while wearing a headwrap. I can't help having this fantasy.

>>33357786 (OP)
I think it's whether you care about the individual more than their race, or if you care about their race more than the individual. It's fine if you find the culture interesting or you find the physical features attractive, but if you have certain expectations of the individual because of their racial or ethnic background, then it might come off as you fetishizing the race.

>>33357798
Figure out why you have this fantasy.

>>33357786 (OP)
The only thing that I've learned is that women are given a pass when it comes to race fetishizing but not the reverse

>>33357786 (OP)
>I've heard men of color complain online about being fetishized and how that's a turn off, so i want ot make sure to avoid doing that.

No man actually cares about this.

>>33357786 (OP)
Maybe just make it clear that you really like that guy specifically. Don't make your complements about his race like you mentioned. He's not your "Arab man," he's your man who happens to be Arab. It becomes more fetish-like if you're expecting him to be a certain way, just like how it's weird when guys expect all Asian women to be submissive. He's an individual so he'll definitely appreciate knowing if you think he's smart or funny or if he has really nice arms or is a good cook, etc.

>>33357786 (OP)
Bro just date within your own ethnicity wtf

>>33357786 (OP)
It's the diffeerence between being "attracted to middle eastern men" and being attracted to a particular man who happens to eb middle eastern

>>33358027
I've heard white girls talk to their black bfs about their B.N.C. {no initials when they say it though! they say the actual word} and they don't even get beat up for it