>>33358238I'm just using it as an example. Do you mean substance in your personality? Like the things that make people believe you've got all sorts of profound thoughts roiling around in your mind all the time?
I meant the dog vs the people from there. The dog is drooly, but looks incredibly comfy. The island looks miserable and cold, so I assume anyone living there will probably be either that or very warm and welcoming.
I usually look for something in conversation that makes me realize a person has a soul, or at least has some degree of creative thought process. They like learning new things, talk about things that they feel strongly about, or are willing to just shoot the shit and ramble about whatever.