I'm good friends with a guy I did my degree with and have gotten to know his gf as a friend over the years, but most recently we are talking every day for hours on end, and my friend is definitely starting to notice the disparity in my relationship with her compared to how he gets along with her.

The other day I confessed my feelings to her while sleep deprived and in a moment of weakness, but she said she couldn't say what she felt over text, making me think she feels the same way for sure. While I am definitely ADHD and socially disabled somewhat I am sure she feels about it potentially in a romantic way. She gets super possessive about me even talking to other women, always wants to talk to me and is making flirty comments often. The issue is I would never want to betray one of my closest friends by doing anything or making any moves, but its becoming clear whenever we hang out together that her and I are very close and get along very well and I think I do love her. Our personalities are very similar, we are people pleasing and utterly lacking in any self esteem, massive nerds, and many shared interests and hobbies.

To me it seems like she barely has anything in common with my friend who is dating her, and whenever I ask about him to her in any context it seems like she has zero interest in him despite being with him for years. Despite this it is obviously not my place to put myself in their relationship or ruin it, and ultimately he would probably never speak to me again if I cucked him which is something I would want to avoid entirely. I consider myself pretty loyal to my friends and the idea of homebreaking is pretty foul to me.

Basically i'm not sure what to do, I guess doing just nothing is the rational thing. But I could definitely see myself with this girl, and something stupid feels likely to happen as we often get drunk as a group. Any advice here would be super appreciated.

>>33359431 (OP)
You're actively making moves to backstab your homie and now trying to rationalize it. No one here can stop you from what you're obviously going to attempt to do, but it says a lot about your character. FWIW, I hope you attempt to get at her and fail in the most humiliating way possible then your homie beats your ass.

You're a shitty friend and this girl doesn't like you anyway, she's just collecting men, which is typical behavior.

>>33359431 (OP)
>confessed my feelings
>never want to betray one of my closest friends
bit late

>>33359431 (OP)
Apologize for telling her that and pretend like it never happened. Even if you like her more than you care about your friendship, this isn't going to end well and I think you know it.

>>33359485
>bit late
He's ADHD. It's what ADHDs are famous for, being a bit late lol

>>33359431 (OP)
People-pleasers are assholes OP. Which is fine, if that's what you wanna be, your choice. But what makes people-pleasers the most insufferable of all assholes, is they are not honest assholes.

They're so dishonest they even lie to themselves. They're cowardly assholes. And cowardly assholes are the most dangerous ones. Because they're the equivalent of a monkey with a gun. They got no idea what the limits are or where to stop or how to effectively manage their assholery.

I should know, I used to be one. What you fail to think about is yourself. Which is ironic because your actions show you are selfish. But on the inside you can't follow through, you don't even finish the self-centeredness to it's final destination.

If you did, you would paradoxically not be an asshole in your actions. You'd be in control of yourself. You'd realize that:

1) You don't give a fuck about your friend. You think you do, you like to think you do, but deep down really, you don't.

2) You would realize that if you were to have the balls to be self interested, you'd know dating this chick works against your self interests.

Fact is, she's like you. A people pleaser. Look what you do as a people pleaser, you go behind people's backs and covet or try to cover what they have. You try to undermine the things they built. The memories they created with someone.

She's apparently just like you. Guess what she's gonna do when you date her? People please you. But act like a different person behind your back.

You play stupid games, you game stupid prizes. Your prize is a girl who can be talked out of loyalty. That's your big W. Enjoy it while it lasts, because it'll only be a matter of time before she people pleases someone else and fucks you over, just as you fucked the friend over.

>>33359431 (OP)
Don't do stupid shit. You're doing stupid shit. Knock it off.

>>33359431 (OP)
You've declared yourself. The ball is now in her court. Let what she says next determine what happens.

>>33359485
this wtf op

>>33359431 (OP)
>The other day I confessed my feelings to her while sleep deprived and in a moment of weakness, but she said she couldn't say what she felt over text, making me think she feels the same way for sure.
That is not a safe conclusion. More likely she was horrified and couldn't think of anything to say that wouldn't hurt your feelings.

>>33360324
>just be selfish then you are no asshole
what the fuck is this gibberish. i swear to god /adv/ is the board that makes you realize that 4chan really is populated by mentally ill retards.
this place is pure misery.

>>33360324
you are clearly projecting your own trauma on others.

>>33359431 (OP)
>Any advice here would be super appreciated.
You should invite her and just her on a road trip, then you drive to the highest cliff and drive off of it. You're both shitty people and neither of you should be alive.

>i got drunk and fucked your wife, but remember brother, i would never fuck your wife...
Modern man level accountability