What is self-respect and how do I get it?

I let girls string me along, I let friends dictate plans, I hate my job (despite high pay) and do nothing about it, and I moved home a year ago and a failed relationship and I'm still here.

My life is shit and I don't even trust myself to come up with a half decent plan to fix it.

I think I need therapy anons. Is it a meme? I ALWAYS prioritise others needs over my own.

I feel like a neglected child, except I'm an adult and I'm just neglecting myself. I don't ever show up for myself or prioritise my own needs. And nobody else does either. And yet I'll do it without asking - because I want to treat others how I'd like to be treated.

But it doesn't fucking work. I'm 30 and feel like time is running out.

>>33360031 (OP)
It means to do the opposite of what you're doing.

>>33360037
But making people laugh is about all that brings me joy

I'm fucked

>>33360031 (OP)
Well, what are you doing?

>I let girls string me along
Don't. Be more direct, and be more willing to break shit off. I dated some Hinge broad last year and she "wanted a break," so I just said we're broken up. She kept talking to me and we banged a few more times, but I stopped talking to her once the pussy dried up. They want your attention, and if they're not willing to pay for it then give it to someone else.
>I let friends dictate plans
This isn't awful unless they're making plans you don't like or stepping on your plans. If that's the case, then stop doing the things they want. If their plans contradict yours, do yours and just explain that you want to do your thing instead. If they get upset, ignore them. Ask yourself what you gain from your relationship with that person, and determine what you'll tolerate from there.
>I hate my job (despite high pay) and do nothing about it
Is it the industry/career field, or your position specifically? If it's the first, use your current job to pay for new career training. If it's the second, leave lol.
>I moved home a year ago and a failed relationship
I feel this. Been there. Suck it up as much as you can and don't stop trying to move out. Maybe a change of cities is in the cards for you.
>My life is shit and I don't even trust myself to come up with a half decent plan to fix it.
Any plan is better than none. Action is always better than inaction because at least action builds momentum.
>I think I need therapy anons. Is it a meme?
If you're a girl, no. Most therapy is gynocentric. If you're a man, find a professional mentor, preferably older than yourself. It's the same reason girlfriends prefer to vent without hearing solutions, and guys always want to offer solutions. A mentor will help you with a practical way to fix shit.
>I ALWAYS prioritise others needs over my own.
Stop. They obviously aren't making it worth your while.

>>33360771
Goated. Thanks anon

>>33360046
Being a people-pleaser is a very feminine trait.
It sounds like you don't love yourself. You need to be able to think of yourself objectively and get a warm, prideful feeling.

>>33360031 (OP)
Increase your vocabulary by one word...