I'm a quiet guy who usually doesn't talk much. When I'm with my friends they usually do most of the talking. I have two experiences with girls, I was in one short relationship and went to one date with another girl. Both of these girls were very talkative so I basically didn't have to do anything and mainly just listened to them talk about all kinds of stuff.
However, now I'm interested in one girl who is not as talkative and is also quieter. We are classmates in college, we have communicated a few times, mostly about school related stuff though.
I'd like to get to know her more on a personal level but I'm not sure how. It feels way different than with my ex and with the other girl because they talked a lot right when I met them so basically I learned a lot of stuff about them right away so I knew what to talk about if I wanted to initiate a future conversation.

>>33360409 (OP)
Women usually don't like guys who are shy but maybe she's the right for you. Next time you are talking about school related stuff change the topic and ask her how she's doing and do the Solid Snake Method of Conversation.
If it doesn't work go find an autistic girl she will be more empathic

Do you sit next to this girl in class? How have the conversations with her usually happened? If you sit next to her, try to make a joke about something in class. This works especially well if your teacher is goofy or weird. If you don't try to come up with a joke of some kind every class, and the next time you have a NATURAL interaction with this girl, tell your joke after a few sentences are exchanged.

What do you know about this girl, other than her looks?

>>33360409 (OP)
If you don't talk the relationship feels one sided. You know all about them but they know nothing about you.

>>33360828
I sit next to a group of girls, one of them is her. So sometimes I'm right next to her, sometimes next to one of the others. This semester though she and I took one class the others didn't so we did sit next to each other and always had a short conversation, mostly about the class or other class before the start. One time also she texted me asking for help with an assignment for the class.
>What do you know about this girl, other than her looks?
From what I've noticed she's very responsible and hard working which are qualities I appreciate. She said she enjoys what she's studying and that she has been interested in the subject for a long time. Which is something I relate to because I enjoy my studies as well. She also wants to be a teacher and likes to travel.

>>33360949
Is this group of girls just several women with no relation to each other? Or are they buddies? If they're friends, that makes things easier; you can start talking to the group and create more excuses to talk to your girl. Deploy those jokes, and then if one of the girls says something stupid or funny you can bring it up to your girl in the class where you're alone with her.

>>33360977
Yes, they're friends and I do talk to them before our classes start (though I don't exactly "talk" a lot since like I said I'm kind of quiet). Well, I'll think of something funny to say next time I see them. Thanks for the suggestion.

>>33360409 (OP)
How did you get a relationship as a quiet guy?
Were you carried by friends? Are you tall or considered handsome?

>>33360409 (OP)
>I'd like to get to know her more on a personal level but I'm not sure how.
You could tell her that you would like to get to know her more, and wondered if she cared to join you at location x at time y for that purpose.

>>33360409 (OP)
You should ask them questions. They will like it

>>33363299
Well, she did most of the talking and it was enough for her I guess. We met through a school club.

>>33366391
Okay but are you tall or considered handsome?
How else would you do it?

bump

>>33368437
I'm tall. Idk about handsome.

>>33372401
>tall
easy mode. u dont need advice, they come to u. thread hidden

I've been there, man, for all of those different situations.

Oddly, you need to communicate what you are telling us. Not all at once, obviously. But they are topics to fuel conversation in the future.
>I suck at talking. [say this one early on. she will likely say 'me too']
>I've noticed you're very responsible and hard working which are qualities I admire.
>You enjoy your studies, and you've been into that subject for a while. I enjoy my studies as well. What do you like about your subject?

>>33363305
This is on the right track. Ask her what she's into. But then what? Dig in to each topic, talk about it, ask questions, relate it to other things you are reminded of, figure her out. But don't focus on your own experience entirely - strike a balance and keep throwing the conversation ball back to her. You should try to understand her interests and perspectives, and be empathetic to her emotions.
Also, asking questions can become overwhelming. Don't only ask questions but never actually converse - that sucks. You can ask multiple questions for clarity to fuel an upcoming (verbal paragraph of yours), but not as a sole strategy.

When you answer questions of hers, or want to say something: Give reasons and examples instead of broad final statements. These are the fuel that light up the imagination and propel conversations forward.

>>33363303
This is great advice. You need to do this asap, OP. Being in a group is a huge obstacle for quiets like us. One-on-one is still nerve-wracking, but easier. In my imagination, the invitation would go as follows:
>As I said, I'm usually pretty quiet. It's harder for me to talk here in class, but I'd like to talk with you more - Would be be interested in getting together some time?