I guess it's assumed people are happier in a relationship than alone since humans are social creatures. I thought so about myself as well but after having experienced one relationship I'm starting to think I'd be better off by myself.
What I appreciate the most is the freedom. I can do whatever I want whenever I want without having to think about what the other person will think about it. There is no stress from arguing and having fights, there is no one to complain about anything.
When I had a girlfriend I had to adjust my timetable based on what she wanted, it was super annoying.
Also most of women seem to want kids. I have no desire to have them. Kids to me are noisy smelly annoying brats. I can't imagine myself waking up at 3 am because the little shit decided it would be a good time to cry his lungs out. It just seems like extra stress.

So now I'm thinking whether it'd be a good thing for me to never pursue any relationship again. I'm in my 20s so I don't know what I will think in 20 years. Do you think I will regret it? Or can some people truly be happy when they're alone?

>>33362646 (OP)
Regrets come into play for people who've never had a relationship at all. It doesn't matter as much once you've had some experience and figured out what you want.

>>33362646 (OP)
I think about this pretty often. When I had a girlfriend it was amazing at first but the honeymoon phase quickly ends. Then it just got tedious and boring. We argued and annoyed eachother. We still loved eachother but neither of us were happy. When the relationship ended I was extra unhappy because at least I had someone. I eventually learned to be somewhat happy alone. Not really though.

I’m rambling. I guess the issue is that as a society somewhere along the line we all decided that we are *supposed* to be happy 24/7. We are supposed to be satisfied with every aspect of our lives all the time. Our relationship, job, family, friends.

Social media turns up the volume on this tenfold. I open insta and see at least 3 friends on vacation any given day. Someone is having dinner somewhere nice tonight. Someone is throwing a party right now. Everyone is having fun. Everyone is fufilled but me. So it seems. But that’s not the case. Because all my friends think my life is amazing when I post my moments of “happiness”. It becomes a huge toilet bowl of everyone trying to be happier than everyone.

Nobody is truly happy. Nobody loves their life 24/7. Alone, in a relationship, kids, no kids, rich, poor. We are all just living on earth for the first and last time.

As stupid as it may be to say I believe the most happy people are the professional religious. Monks, preists, pastors. The people who devote their lives to the well being of others. They don’t have time to worry about if they are happy or not because they are too busy feeding the homeless or visiting the dying or imprisoned or drug addicted. Perhaps true happiness comes from selflessness. A tall order for anyone in our modern society.

>>33362646 (OP)
I won't read how to get used to being alone threads, because, obviously, you just get used to it, and if you're not used to it by now you never will be. Obviously. You're welcome!

>>33362646 (OP)
Im starting to feel this way OP. I've had two long term relationships, the first one crashed out after 3 years because it felt like I was losing control of my life, and my gf was calling all the shots and I didnt have my happiness like I used to.
I was single for almost 3 years after that, wavering between content with lonliness and being frustrated with it
I started dating a new girl 8 months ago, the honeymoon phase ended after 2 months, partly because of me, I put up so much resistance to changing my life the way it was. we fought often, she wanted to spend more time with me I wanted more time by myself. we fought again.
she wanted me to let her into my life, but I was losing my indivuality. weekends that I used to spend by myself reading or woodcrafting or learning topics now were replaced with "dinner nights, movie nights and who weekends where I had to focus on my gf" i did NOT adjust well.
long story short we are still together despite the fact we're both feeling miserable. maybe because we think there's a resolution at the end of this tunnel. but neither of us knows when that will be.