Anonymous
7/15/2025, 2:36:45 AM No.33364215
how can i stop acting jealous towards my bf?
i think i have some sort of inferiority complex since i see myself as inherently less attractive and less feminine than other girls (i am a cis woman, i just grew up with no mom). when we're just at home this doesn't present itself, but when we're in public i constantly feel like i'm "on guard" and in a very defensive headspace basically. every time we pass another girl i get nervous thinking seeing this random girl might make my bf notice how i'm not feminine or attractive, every time. and in that situation it's 100% just the idea of getting compared and losing out that scares me somehow. and every time my bf looks at another girl it feels like a betrayal to my brain, and i get very nervous and in some cases might start to think ok i need to change myself to look like her.
it sounds very neurotic but in those moments i feel that i'd rather be the girl my bf looks at while he's with someone else, instead of being the someone else he's with while he looks at another girl. and i know i'm the one in the wrong here because he doesn't even stare, i get this feeling even just from simple glances. and he wants me to work on this too because he notices me getting angry in these situations and me getting into a bad mood even if often i try not to show it, and it makes him feel like he's being guilt-tripped all the time for no reason because of it.
and to all the chad obsessors i see on this site, my bf is quite overweight (i'm not) so don't tell me this is a symptom from dating a mythical chad or something. and to all the normies, yes he is very attractive to me.
pic rel is how i see myself, although whenever i look into a mirror i think i look decent. average or a bit above average. the issue is that the instant i stop looking into a mirror, i start feel like a weird creature who doesn't deserve to be a woman.
i think i have some sort of inferiority complex since i see myself as inherently less attractive and less feminine than other girls (i am a cis woman, i just grew up with no mom). when we're just at home this doesn't present itself, but when we're in public i constantly feel like i'm "on guard" and in a very defensive headspace basically. every time we pass another girl i get nervous thinking seeing this random girl might make my bf notice how i'm not feminine or attractive, every time. and in that situation it's 100% just the idea of getting compared and losing out that scares me somehow. and every time my bf looks at another girl it feels like a betrayal to my brain, and i get very nervous and in some cases might start to think ok i need to change myself to look like her.
it sounds very neurotic but in those moments i feel that i'd rather be the girl my bf looks at while he's with someone else, instead of being the someone else he's with while he looks at another girl. and i know i'm the one in the wrong here because he doesn't even stare, i get this feeling even just from simple glances. and he wants me to work on this too because he notices me getting angry in these situations and me getting into a bad mood even if often i try not to show it, and it makes him feel like he's being guilt-tripped all the time for no reason because of it.
and to all the chad obsessors i see on this site, my bf is quite overweight (i'm not) so don't tell me this is a symptom from dating a mythical chad or something. and to all the normies, yes he is very attractive to me.
pic rel is how i see myself, although whenever i look into a mirror i think i look decent. average or a bit above average. the issue is that the instant i stop looking into a mirror, i start feel like a weird creature who doesn't deserve to be a woman.
