Several years ago, my drug addicted sister abandoned her three children at my mothers house and left to pursue a life of hard drugs and alcoholic binges. She doesn't come around, once in a great while when she gets kicked out of wherever she's at. She doesn't call her kids or visit at all and the state still allows her full parents rights.

So I made the choice to move back home, so I could help out and give financial support to both my mother and the three children. I'm not really a father figure, but I'm here for them and make sure they don't have to go hungry or without clothes. My mother wouldn't be able to do it all on her own, so my support is needed. And I want to be here for the kids who've been rejected by both their mother and their fathers.

Now I'm 35 and I've pretty much traded my own personal life for their sakes and because my sister is a stupid whore who can't be a human being. I have no friends and I'm reluctant to put myself out there for dating because of my living situation. Its a small community, there's no apartment down the street for me to live in just to stay close and keep offering support, I feel like im kind of stuck here.

I feel obligated to stay here, and I can't bring myself to abandon my sisters children again. I guess I'm not really sure how people would look at somebody like me in my situation. Am I a pathetic live at home loser? I feel like there's no way I could find a date with anybody with my life the way it is. I don't even think I could find a friend or somebody who understands my situation.

Am I the same as a neet manchild? Is my life an embarrassment to others? Honestly, I don't feel like I have a chance at having any kind of a social life, as soon as I tell somebody I live with my mother they're going to know everything about me that they need to. Do I have any chance of making a connection with somebody, or am I just too late and have too sad of a life?

You are doing a very noble thing, not even remotely a loser. Doing something because it's right even though it's not what you want is a sign of a real man.

Can't help you on the social aspect unfortunately.

>>33366281 (OP)
>Am I a pathetic live at home loser?
Yes. Also no one wants to date someone with baggage. You have a fucked up toxic family. Why would you want to be apart of that?

>>33366393
Because I love my toxic family

>>33366281 (OP)
>claim custody
>enlist / comission in the military
>get allowances for them
>get adventure
>get daycares for them (at some locations)
Its what i did with a dependent mother. Uncle sam pays me 5600 net whilst paying for all of my own shit, meaning i have zero cost of living. Comissioned itd be even more, but tldr to see in your text if you have a bachelors

>>33366453
State denied custody already. The kids have lived here for almost a decade and the state still won't give custodial rights. They're also closer to being 18 now, so we just kind of gave up on that after the denial. If need be, mom pretends to be my sister over the phone.

My sister doesn't even know where their birth certs or socials are.

>>33366493
Well idk much about the custody process but on the military side of things you can claim any relative as a dependent as long as you can prove you have been supplying atleast 51% of their income (to include social security etc, against what you provide) for a year

Also really sorry to hear that man

>>33366281 (OP)
You could have done what you did (and real salute for doing it!) AND had a life as well. And you still can. You are not "on duty" 24/7. Begin by taking an evening off to join a club or singles group, or take a dandom class in something just to meet people.

As the "sort-of" parental figure, do you go to parent nights at the kids' school or play with them in the park? I'm sure you could meet many single mothers who would empathise with your situation and respect you all the more for it.

>>33366453
The odds of dying in a desert are awfully high nowadays

>>33367129
Thanks, it makes me feel a little less self conscious over the circumstances. I avoid going out or doing anything local, it's a small community and pretty much everybody knows me as the guy who lives with his mother without the context behind it. I really just wanted to know how strangers would view me and my living situation, and it does give me some hope for being more socially active. Thank you