How do you deal with the fact that you can't share what you love and care about with other people?

I have a gf but despite being together for many years I still feel like she doesn't get me, same with everyone I talk with. I have no problem talking to people, but it just feels so insincere I no longer enjoy it.

This has made me reach the conclusion I should just further isolate from the world, do you guys ever feel like this?

>>33367454 (OP)
Yes, all the time. But then I realize I don't care about other people's interests either. I think there's an art to balancing between your own inner world and navigating the external one. It's hard to do in this cold world devoid of empathy and human connection

>>33367454 (OP)
You can, but don't expect others to love what you love. Because other people haven't experienced the things you experienced. You can only love or hate that which you have experienced. And if who you are dealing with hasn't experienced what you have, they won't get it.

And that goes both ways too. Maybe you haven't given it thought yet, but if you don't love what they love or experienced what they experienced, you won't get them either.

Moreover, and this might be a shocker, but when you feel disconnected from others, even if you try to mask it and perform otherwise, other people know. They can feel it. They can't verbalise it or put their finger on it, but they can sense it.

What that means is whatever feeling of isolated disconnect you feel from others, they feel it when interacting with you too. Because that's how you indirectly and unintentionally make them feel too.

This is because of how socialisation works. What you feel inside is automatically projected, no matter what. If you feel all happy and act the part, others feel it too. If you feel all cold and detached and disconnected, others feel it too.

And because they feel it, they will act cold and detached. Which then creates a feedback loop, where you are further convinced of being detached and cold.

So what do you do? Look after yourself. Take care of your needs. See to it that you can control how you feel for yourself by making actions to invoke that in you. Then it will show on your character. And as if by magic, you'll notice people reflect it back to you.