How do I explain to this guy that he's wasting his life? - /adv/ (#33367816) [Archived: 406 hours ago]

Anonymous
7/15/2025, 7:17:28 PM No.33367816
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So I have this guy in my phone contacts. We know each other, we talk sometimes, we're not friends, but I do see his status updates.
From what I've seen in his status updates, which he makes sure to update A LOT:
>He's unemployed
>He spends all his time gooning over femboys or playing Genshin Impact and gooning over the characters in the game
>He's overweight as fuck but claims it's just his body type and that he can't control it
>He drinks Monster Energy nonstop
>He always complains about how he's such a poor thing and a victim over nothing
>He generally just doesn't stop complaining about every single thing, no matter how small
>He makes his mental issues and obsession over femboys his whole personality
>He's terminally online
>He makes really shitty drawings of young-looking femboy furries with sexual tones (not to mention his drawing skills don't improve even a bit, not sure how that's possible)
And honestly it's kind of hard to watch. I sometimes try to call him out on things he does that are harmful to him (like drinking 8 cans of energy drinks one after the other or blaming everyone but himself for his problems) but he very obviously doesn't care. Like, you're an adult, you're unemployed, and you spend all your time gooning over Genshin Impact and femboys and drinking shit.
How should I phrase my advice? should I give him advice at all? Maybe it's none of my business but again this is really sad to watch, and I feel like I need to do something.
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Anonymous
7/15/2025, 7:22:04 PM No.33367827
>>33367816 (OP)
Why should you care? Encourage him to continue exactly like that.
Less competition for you.
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Anonymous
7/15/2025, 7:23:22 PM No.33367830
>>33367827
I'm not competing with him on anything though. I honestly just feel bad for him.
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Anonymous
7/15/2025, 7:26:58 PM No.33367838
>>33367830
>I feel bad for him
Then you are even weaker than he is.
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Anonymous
7/15/2025, 7:28:31 PM No.33367840
>>33367816 (OP)
Take him to a brothel.
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Anonymous
7/15/2025, 7:29:50 PM No.33367843
>>33367838
Is sympathy weakness?
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Anonymous
7/15/2025, 7:30:51 PM No.33367847
>>33367840
No way. Also he's only interested in furry femboy fucks or genshin impact twinks
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Anonymous
7/15/2025, 7:31:32 PM No.33367851
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>>33367816 (OP)
This is you
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Anonymous
7/15/2025, 7:32:03 PM No.33367852
>>33367843
Yes.
Anonymous
7/15/2025, 7:33:41 PM No.33367854
>>33367847
>No way
Is he your boyfriend? You want to save him from a life he chose himself, what do you care what happens to him?

Take him to a brothel, it's the only solution to cure his furry bullshit, if that doesn't work then there's no solution.
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Anonymous
7/15/2025, 7:34:48 PM No.33367856
>>33367851
Ok lol you've got a point there
Anonymous
7/15/2025, 7:35:51 PM No.33367859
>>33367854
Again I'm not that close to him so that'd be really weird
Anonymous
7/15/2025, 8:27:12 PM No.33368048
>>33367816 (OP)
Does your "friend" live with his parents? How does your "friend" support his lifestyle?
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Anonymous
7/15/2025, 8:33:23 PM No.33368077
>>33367816 (OP)
Bitch who gives a flying fuck. Let the dude live his life and mind your own fucking business. Only he can decide to change.
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Anonymous
7/15/2025, 8:47:48 PM No.33368144
>>33368048
Again, we're not friends. And yeah he lives with his parents.
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Anonymous
7/15/2025, 8:51:13 PM No.33368167
>>33367816 (OP)
Sounds like he's living the dream
Anonymous
7/15/2025, 9:25:25 PM No.33368278
>>33368077
Don't know if that is the totally correct strategy - as sometimes people just need somone to wake them up. Not that its OP's responsibility or anything , having just one person who cares however might shake him free form his mental limtiations.
Anonymous
7/15/2025, 10:46:14 PM No.33368661
>>33368144
If you have that much capacity to care don't waste it.
Your lack of power will eventually burn you out.
Channel all your efforts into people that show the potential of being helped instead.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 2:08:44 AM No.33369554
>>33367816 (OP)
Dude it sounds like he has really bad ADHD and needs to get evaluated, and also he will need help setting up an appointment.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 7:25:18 AM No.33370779
>>33368661
I guess you have a point. It just sucks...
>>33369554
ADHD? What makes you say that?
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 7:27:05 AM No.33370791
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>>33367816 (OP)
I guess if his existence is embarrassing enough you could send his socials to some big streamer to expose him for laughs
If he had any sense of shame

Honestly, the best way to get him to change is to get his family to intervene and ban him from internet use before he ends up with some shit on his PC that makes the courts do that for him

Or hire 12-20 middle eastern men to beat him with sticks on a regular basis until he shapes up

>>33367827
>>33367854
>>33368661
True nigger cattle low IQ mindset
Short term, small scale thinking this is correct, I suppose
However 1 or 10 million people in the same society as you living the same way is more damaging than the benefit of having them remove themselves from the gene pool
He's probably going to be on welfare, using yours and everyone elses' resources after his parents are dead or they boot him out
Do you want this fucker living within 500 feet of a school?
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 7:38:18 AM No.33370862
>>33367816 (OP)
I won't read how to fix third party threads. It's hard enough trying to fix OPs.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 7:39:38 AM No.33370871
>>33370791
>muh society
Literally not my problem.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 8:03:58 AM No.33370981
>>33367816 (OP)
Part of looking after your own mental wellbeing is to be around people who are good for you and remove people from your life who are bad for you.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 2:42:19 PM No.33371960
>>33370779
>ADHD? What makes you say that?
Untreated ADHD looks like that
>mashing the dopamine button all day (food, videogames, "gooning", being terminally online)
>self-medicating caffeine use tier (treatment for ADHD is stimulants). People with ADHD LOVE Monster
>crying that they can't do anything and is a victim as a result (executive dysfunction)
>NEET
He's clearly dysfunctional and needs help, but why didn't his parents or the people around him help him out?
Maybe the person to help him out is... you?
That said, I wouldn't get too attached, but try to get him to an ADHD eval. somehow.