I'm very used to irl approaches but the opportunities to do so keep dwindling. thinking about dating apps but the thought of it is honestly more troubling to me than irl approaching.
i do pretty good with irl (main problem is finding someone compatible long-term), but that all has to do with my 'vibe' rather than my looks (i'm pretty sociable and i guess i dress well so i dont have to rely entirely on my mid looks (29yo just for reference)).
i'm just worried that the 'vibe' aspect gets completely lost in the apps, and I also generally speaking don't like taking pictures of myself...feels extremely narcissistic and peacock-y.
i also can't shake the feeling that apps are for desperate simps and only exist to give women dopamine rushes. what do?
>>33369740 (OP)Imagine a bucket of snot and liquid feces. Imagine said bucket was poured into a blowup doll. Now imagine fucking the doll.
Going on the apps for "women" is like doing that. Like fucking a glip glop gloop sex doll. Save your dignity and find a woman offline.
>>33369740 (OP)>feels extremely narcissistic and peacock-y."dressing well" as one of your main attributes isn't peacocky?
Bro if you wanna get a girl then you have to show off those feathers a little bit.
It also doesn't have to be just apps or even apps at all, you can meet girls through social media and youtube and whatever other online venues
>>33369877dressing well is just something that I (apparently) do well based on the compliments i get, otherwise it's not anything fancy or something i do specifically for attention. i just wear what i think is cool and i guess it helps me stand out in that regard.
compare this to 'advertising' yourself for the sole purpose of impressing a girl and iunno, i just can't shake that feeling weird somehow, but
>Bro if you wanna get a girl then you have to show off those feathers a little bit.does ring true.
maybe i'm just so used to physical interaction that texting/online approaching is the unknown to me so i'm put off by it.
>>33369740 (OP)Women "IRL" use dating apps as well. Anyway I enjoy them because I am extremely introverted and mentally ill so I have no other way to meet people - all of my friends are males (mostly virgins), I have no family, and I go to a small shitty university and job.
Let's trade advices man. I've never been able to cold approach, and have always had to rely on other people being around to talk to a girl. I do have plenty of experience with app culture though.
Yeah, your vibes will be immediately lost on apps. Gotta establish that shit with pics (see below) and first messages. Ask thought-provoking questions about her profile pics/prompts, make jokes about them if you can, and if you're really tactful you can try negging her a little.
>don't like taking pictures of myself
It IS a little narcissistic and peacocky. I only have one actual selfie on my Hinge, and that's because it requires one pic of just your face. You should put as many pictures of you and your friends, you and your pet, or even just pics of your pet as possible. Selfies as a man are awful.
>only exist to give women dopamine rushes
This has become mostly true. If you want it to go anywhere, you go one-for-one on messages and NEVER double-text unless you're communicating two separate ideas.
Finally, a lot of them have awful baggage from exes and basically use their dating profile as some kind of weird indirect attack against their exes. The like to establish weird rules that they have decided will validate the way they feel about their ex or prevent bad things their ex did from happening. My ex immediately got on Hinge and included "NO conservatives, NO Christians, and NO gun owners" because I'm not a member of the Tiktok party, went to church one time in the four years we were together, and owned a Glock. Some of the app girls wind up being diamonds in the rough though. Not too different from IRL honestly.
>>33369740 (OP)I won't read app-addled threads. They are delusional, but the idiot OP will never see it that way.
