My boyfriend is acting really weird. I came on here when he broke up with me in April. He took it back after literally one day. I accepted his apology instantly and understood that he only did it because he was stressed out and didn't really understand what he's "supposed to feel".

A few days ago we hung out after me not seeing him for a week (he was on a trip with his friends). The trip didn't go well for multiple reasons so I expected him to be in a kinda bad mood but I was still excited to see him. I knew even if he didn't feel like going anywhere or doing anything we could still just cuddle and get freaky and whatever.

But he's quiet and weird from the start. I'm being affectionate and trying to get him to talk but all I get are one word answers. I finally ask him what's wrong. He says that he's glad I asked and that he doesn't know what he's feeling but he feels weird and kind of apathetic. The warning sirens in my head start going off because that's the way he was talking when he broke up with me. He's recently quit his meds so I know that might be throwing his brain chemistry out of whack. But it's still upsetting. And then he asks if we could stop cuddling and if I could stop touching him. And that makes me feel horrible because we're both insanely physically affectionate so that's really weird of him. But I listen and stop. We hung out for maybe another hour and then he dropped me off at home. (He did have something to do that I already knew about). I asked if we could maybe play video games over discord later. He said yeah. I text him later if he's feeling how he felt when he broke up with me. He says no and apologizes and says he should've just rescheduled.

I ask if he's okay the next day because I have a few things to do before we can play games. He says he's feeling weird. I ask if he wants to talk about it or just wants to be left alone. He asks for space. This is really out of character.

Is he going to break up with me again?

>>33370348 (OP)
Partner selection criteria issue.

>>33370443
I don't know what that means!!!!

>>33370348 (OP)
That's why you should probably avoid people who are on meds.

>>33370348 (OP)
Just break up with him.

>>33370456
I'm on meds.

>>33370471
I don't want to break up with him. That's not what I'm asking for. He's normally an absolutely amazing boyfriend. I'm asking if his behavior seems like he intends to break up with ME.

>>33370348 (OP)
Your a good person femanon. You have a good relationship, dont let go

>>33370637
Thank you. I don't wanna let it go. He gets me and I get him.

I just reached out and texted him. He's been busy all day and didn't mean to not check in. I'm trying to give him space and I'm normally not very clingy but because I know he's not doing good it's really hard :(

>>33370735
Wow. The way you love him is making me fall in love. Haha jk. Hold on to what you got very tightly. There arent many good people left in the world. Wishing you the best femanon.

>>33370800
Thank you so much. He really is my miracle. I was starting to get a little bitter and disillusioned with dating (or my lack of it) but then I met him by coincidence and everything just fell into place. I adore him.

>>33370842
How old are you guys?

>>33370914
Both eighteen. We've been together for a year. He's moving about two hours away for college but there's a bus route there so I can make it work :)

>>33370348 (OP)
Sounds like he has depression. He should see a doctor. This is probably nothing to do with you, just see how you can help him while he's having a rough time.

>>33370973
He does have depression. That's what the meds were for. He actually saw his doctor today, but I didn't ask what for. We both have it, but while my meds work for me, he's had an extremely hard time finding the right ones for him. He doesn't really like talking through his feelings (or not super often or at length) while talking through things is how I process things, so it's hard to accept that sometimes there's nothing I can do for him. My depression mostly presents itself as apathy and exhaustion, and it seems to be that way with him too, but I think he has more trouble differentiating whether those are his genuine feelings or if it's depression distorting stuff.

I know it's not about me but I'm making it about me. I just don't know what to do. Leave him alone? Reach out? Would just sending him an 'I love you' text everyday be annoying? Maybe a good morning and goodnight one? I don't want to be overly involved but I also don't want to just ditch him. I push people away when I'm depressed and that usually just leads to me feeling worse and unloved. But the last time I was that seriously depressed I was 15 and he's obviously not a 15 year old girl. I don't know. sorry for the essay I'm just kinda using this as a platform to process my thoughts.

>>33371037
Sounds like you have some good ideas about what to do. Guys can retreat into their cave when things are difficult, and it's best to not follow them in there. I like your idea of letting him know you're there for him.

>>33370348 (OP)
Is this you? >>33077805

>>33371037
What is this? Is he 5 years old? Quick question does he have a father or was he raised by a single mother? How many guy friends does he have?

>>33371502
I'm very familiar with the cave lmao. My mom and I call it the "depression den". The last time I was seriously depressed (all of April) I forced myself to constantly be around other people. It's weird because I'm just as introverted as him and I normally "recharge" by being on my own. And while I may not like being around people when I'm depressed, being on my own makes it way worse. I think that's why it's hard for me to leave him alone.

>>33374058
He has a friend group of around five other guys and has your standard nuclear family set up. Not sure why you're asking.

>>33373868
Is what me? The initial post? I have my name as just a period rather than anonymous because 4chan likes to pretend that I'm not the op and constantly change my number ID or whatever it's called.

>I accepted his apology instantly and understood that he only did it because he was stressed out
This is wrong. If you're a doormat you should not expect anything from your relationships. It's only going to make him miserable to have a nice guy as a boyfriend.

>>33370348 (OP)
He's on meds. For mental health. And not a woman.
Move the fuck on.

>>33370447
Make better partner choices.

>>33374455
His apology was more than adequate. I made it clear that I didn't agree with him breaking up with me. There wasn't fighting. We didn't break up because we didn't get along. He broke up with me because he panicked and felt that he wasn't enough for me. I told him if he changed his mind I would take him back instantly. He changed his mind. He more than made it up to me. He felt like shit. I just forgave him because I wanted him back and to me him coming back to me was apology enough. Also I'm a girl.

>>33374467
There's no moving on. If we broke up I'd move on. But we're very much still together. And he's not on meds anymore. Wtf do you mean "not a woman"? That he doesn't want to talk about his feelings with me? That he's been trained to push shit down until he's miserable? I get that the way he processes things is different from me. I'm not pushing. I'm just worried and don't know if his behavior is indicative of anything.

he texted me that he's feeling better. He teased me about being worried about him but I couldn't read his tone and thought that he was irritated with me and so I got all weird. Stupid!!!!!! Stupid!!!!!!! Stupid!!!!!!!!! I am such a foolish woman. Such a blubbering buffoon. I'm going to jump off the second level of my local mall. I probably wouldn't die but it would be really dramatic and lots of people would see me. Maybe I'll get free stuff.

>>33374445
I don't get why he behaves like a 5 year old instead of a man. Why are you babying his emotions? He is a man. I get it the nu-man must express his emotions and all otherwise they will kill themselves.

But men usually confide in other men when issues like this occur.

If he is depressed, get him professional help, talk to his mum or tell him to go see his dad. Don't baby him. You're just digging a hole for the two of you.

If he was raised by a single mother then everything would be understandable. He would have never gotten someone stable enough to confide in as a kid hence the childish response to his emotional issues. Despite what people say women really suck at handling emotions.