Recently my coworker (32F Married, kids) and myself (30M Married) have been crushing on each other pretty bad, we work in different departments but still work with each other every day. It's becoming glaringly obvious when we talk to each other on the phone, in-person and over Teams, the thing is I don't really have an urge to cheat on my spouse and see this as nothing more than a little work crush that I don't really want to pursue much further.

We have a conference in six weeks this coworker is very excited for and I'm nervous things could get out of control or that I let her down there potentially may be some drama. One part of me hates that I've let it go this far but the other part of me finds it exciting and I just want to fuck the absolute shit out of her because she's smoking and the excitement makes me feel like I'm 21 again.

>>33371684 (OP)
I'm sure you'll also be really excited when your wife finds out and divorces you. Think in the long term, don't let your monkey brain sacrifice everything you have for momentarily excitement.

>>33371821
This. Just imagine how you'd feel if your wife had just a "little work crush" - you'd feel heart broken and cheated right ? Imagine her looking into your eyes and telling you it was "only a little work crush". No matter what she says you'd never be able to trust her fully again , to the same extent you were able to before - the deep subconscious barrier to love will always be there.

If reading this doesn't turn your stomach in a knot , then just get a divorce and cut your losses- because that outcome is inevitable.

>>33371863
>>33371684 (OP)

>>33371863
thank you for the wise words.

>>33371684 (OP)
>thing is I don't really have an urge to cheat on my spouse

>part of me finds it exciting and I just want to fuck the absolute shit out of her

Are you mentally well, OP? You lied to yourself within a paragraph

you only live once and will most likely get away with it

OP, both of you are married, and your coworker has kids, whatever satisfaction you'll gain from this will end up ruining your life in the long term, and ruining your coworkers life, too.
Her kids will feel cheated, your wife will feel cheated and so will her husband, amd you'll end up feeling guilty about everything. Whatever drama you're worried about would be a tiny pale shadow of the apocalyptic fallout of a divorce.

If you've gone far enough with your coworker, I think you two need to sit down and have a private conversation about this, you both got the hots for each other, but you both need to acknowledge you're both married and it'd be incredibly selfish to turn your backs on your family, how would they feel? Hell, how would you feel if this were do to you? You'd feel like shit, anyone would.

Also, how's your relationship with your wife? You're still only 30, unmarried with kids, you're not in a bad spot from that perspective, assuming she's around your age, you still got plenty of time to have fun together, you might just have to communicate more.

>>33371684 (OP)
If you're looking to sacrifice however many years of marriage for 10 minutes of sex, you deserve whatever is coming to you.

You can't think clearly because your caveman brain that doesn't get sex is going "ooga ooga new puss"

>>33371684 (OP)
One sign of being a grown-up is that you can look but simply decide not to touch.

Ignore the moralfags, OP, they all take the case where your wife finds out


Just Make Sure your Wife doesn't find out. It's that simple. YOLO.

>>33371684 (OP)
Marriage is an obsoilte institution form the agrarian age, humans aren't meant to be monogamous.
Maybe have a talk with your wife about opening the relationship. I advise against cheating due to the inhgerent dishonesty, but there is nothing wrong with fucking more than one woman at a time.
In fact I could never wrap my head around the idea of contractually obligating yourself to banging only a single person for the rest of your life. What an utterly absurd and pointless way to artificially limit ones enjoyment of life.

>>33371684 (OP)
Where do you feel the feelings you feel? Do they have a shape? A color? Do you feel lust? How does lust feel? Does it cause butterflies? Where does it cause butterflies?

Do you WANT to cheat on your spouse? No?

Don't do this. Sit with the emotions. Next time you see her, act logically from the standpoint of those feelings.
Suppress nothing, lie about nothing. Accept that you feel this way, and express what you want to express.
"I think you're gorgeous. If I were 15 years younger, I would crawl through a mile of broken glass just to get to you, but I am taken, I can not do it. You are hot and make me horny as fuck, but I am married and I am my wife's."
>"Do I feel lust? Where do I feel it? Man, she is beautiful. What do I feel right now? I'm going to call my wife and tell her how much I love her."

This is how you should approach this. Learn to observe your emotions without acting on them. ALWAYS act logically, based on what you want to do. Do not suppress emotions, analyze them, feel them, and then do what you WANT to do.
You know thinking with your dick is wrong, so think with your brain. Do not deny your dick, accept your dick, and while accepting your dick, think with your head.

>>33374223
Can you answer, OP? Where do you feel the feelings? Answer OP

>>33374334
i feel it in my cock

>>33376413
I can feel your not op