I just want a girl that looks like picrel with similar interests too, is it possible or are they all damaged as a result of social media?

>>33376422 (OP)
Bro that's just a teenage boy from the early 2000s dressed as a goth girl.

>>33376422 (OP)
Date a millenial that never grew up, or like >>33376425 date a tranny that aped the millenial style as part of her tiktok aurafarm nostalgiacore wojakthrowback femcel rizz aesthetic.

>>33376422 (OP)
They're more likely damaged from shit parenting. Most people are raised by either two working parents (i.e. absent parents) or in a broken home.

This includes guys and girls, btw. I think we're nearly all fucked in the head and relationships are a mess because of it.

>>33376552
>They're more likely damaged from shit parenting
Why were our parents so shit? It seems like we are more fucked up than the previous generation

>>33376422 (OP)
Theyre always damaged OP. They’re people who didnt have a good sense of self identity, so they gravitated towards trends and made up shit, constantly trying to reinvent themselves to feel comfy in their own skin. Its a sign of emotional or mental issues. Cuz what they are doing is trying to raise themselves, cuz one or both of their parents didn’t bother with that.

And when you date them, you get to see that up close. It aint pretty.

All I experienced from 2008 was getting treated like a threat and isolated like I was damn King Kong as an exhibit for the world to see. I'll tell you what a real good time was, 2002.

>>33376603
I won't lie, I know you are talking about them but I 100% relate to everything that you have stated, it's as if you were talking about me. What can I do in order to find my own sense of identity? I genuinely like spooky stuff and the paranormal I think, or at least that's what I remember when I was a kid but it's true that I don't have a strong sense of identity

>>33376592
Letting the TV babysit was how gen X was raised by boomers, and then they raised millenials that way but with the internet in it's wild west stage, then the millenials did the same with gen Z but the internet had morphed into an algorithmic hellscape disinfo machine and MLM styled social media echo chamber of pure hatred (and also porn) that poisons the mental health of even adults who come in contact with it.

>>33376610
Depends on how you look at it.

>>33376610
I wonder what impact is going to have on the newer generations as technology progresses and access to more degenerate content becomes more accessible.

>>33376607
>I won't lie, I know you are talking about them but I 100% relate to everything that you have stated, it's as if you were talking about me. What can I do in order to find my own sense of identity? I genuinely like spooky stuff and the paranormal I think, or at least that's what I remember when I was a kid but it's true that I don't have a strong sense of identity.

Bad news is: There is nothing (you) can do.

Good news is: That's okay. Because you don't need to do anything. Self-identity is something that, despite its name 'self', develops without the self needing to do shit internally. Because it's something that grows, slowly, over time and experience. Over as much pain as joy, bad shit, fuck ups, tragedies as well as good stuff, successes and moments of peace.

If you are young, 18 - 25, you won't have the full picture of who you are and that's normal. Life is a whole ass process, and if you try to cling to an identity, it will constantly skip through your fingers like sand. That's supposed to happen. Some few grains of what you tried to be will stick. Then you try something else, same result, it slips away, but more grains stick. Do that more and more and more without intending it, eventually you get that solid sense of self. You eventually realise that everything you are >not< makes you everything that you >are<. Then the view becomes clearer.

And even then you'll still always have blind spots, everyone has them. We can only know who we are 100% on the day we are on the death bed and count up the sum of our lives after all is said and done.

In other words, just let yourself be. Even if you don't know who that self is, just exist and live and you're on the right track. It's as easy as breathing, literally, cuz that's all you gotta do.

>>33376635
Thank you so much for your response Anon. I think our sense of self has been tainted also by social media, especially nowadays since we are bombarded with it every single day. I have made many stupid choices my trying to mimic what some famous people on the internet did and it makes me feel ashamed as I find it very embarrassing. I have another question if you don't mind, is the concept of a "true self" real? Does the true self exist?

>>33376422 (OP)
>Is this too much to ask?
I won't read threads whose beginning is a giant neon sign telling you that it is a whining, resentful vent.

>>33376648
>think our sense of self has been tainted also by social media, especially nowadays since we are bombarded with it every single day. I have made many stupid choices my trying to mimic what some famous people on the internet did and it makes me feel ashamed as I find it very embarrassing.

No problem. And yeah we have been bombarded by influences. Thing about it though is, we choose our influences. Though without a solid sense of self, we never feel we choose them. We always feel they choose us, right? Like life and all it's noise just 'happens' to us, like a sickness we had no control over? That's one of the hardships if trying to navigate the ship of your life without a captain at the wheel. The winds take over the direction instead. Winds change on a dime. Those winds are the influences. They're unreliable. By the time you emulate them, those same influences have moved on. Meaning you will constantly feel underdeveloped and playing catch-up.

I wouldn't feel embarrassed by it. You're just following what felt logical to survive and keep yourself afloat. There's logic in that, bro. All you were doing was trying to seek role models so you can grow. That's perfectly fine and exactly is needed. You made no mistake there.

The only way it becomes a bad thing is when we fail to acknowledge that is what we are doing. So the trick is to keep doing it, but this time, choose it and know it is (you) who is choosing. Then that way you are enough longer letting influences take full control of the ship. You, as captain, are calling the shots for your life. That's how you develop a sense of self.

>Is the concept of a "true self" real?
Yes. What makes it feel false or only vaguely half-real is brainfog and inexperience, and feelings. The self is not a feeling, it's an acknowledgement. Same as you acknowledge the grass is green. For those who cannot know, the trick is to remember it. Most try to find, it's not something to find, but remember.

>>33376667
That was beautifully written Anon, thank you. I guess in my childhood I did try to be funny in order to be accepted but deep down I knew it wasn't me. I chose to unsub from the channels I followed because I thought made me funny and right now I'm trying to make sense of my feelings. I'm a bit depressed so I pretty much lost my sense of humor but I also don't want to rely on influencers in order to be funny because that would be nothing but a mask, I would be trying to be someone else but it's time to let go. It sucks though because I can tell I'm not as funny without their influence but I guess that's the price to pay for authenticity

Oh, and out of curiosity, do you believe in God? I have been reading a bunch of /x/ stuff lately and sometimes I think that maybe we were made for a purpose

>>33376693
That's nice of you to say, I do try to write what I know and know what I write. In glad it resonates bro. As for masking and being funny, keep a hold of those masks bro. Masks are fun, for play, for games. So long as you know it's a mask, and can comfortably take them off any time, no issues. Masks are only a problem when worn too long. Wear the mask long enough and it starts to wear (you) and all that. So keep em in your pocket for when you need them. They are relics of your past experiences, so keep what good they brought you, discard what didn't help you. Chew the meat, spit out the bones.

>Do you believe in God?
Yes, I do. He is, after all, the true self we just discussed. That is who He is. That's why it's said we are made in His image, why it's said that God had become man, so that man can become like God. We are not God, but His true self is what we are called to grow and develop within by following His example as ultimate role model. That's the purpose.

>>33376712
>That's nice of you to say, I do try to write what I know and know what I write. In glad it resonates bro
Oh totally, if you haven't already I would encourage you to write a book one day if you want. I think people, especially young people, would benefit a lot from these kind of insights. 4chan can be many things but you can find good pieces of wisdom here and many people won't find them so maybe writing a book could be a good idea

And with the masks I don't know... Right now I will try to meditate upon who I am, I never really decided to sit down and face my despair, me feeling ugly, worthless etc... My hair is thinning too so it's something I just kept ignoring and using humor as a coping mechanism but I never allowed myself to feel the pain underneath

I do believe in God too, I hope I can be strong enough to walk the path, I fail a lot but I think I see things more clearly now and I don't want to give in to my own internal darkness

>>33376729
>if you haven't already I would encourage you to write a book one day if you want. I think people, especially young people, would benefit a lot from these kind of insights. 4chan can be many things but you can find good pieces of wisdom here and many people won't find them so maybe writing a book could be a good idea

Heh maybe. Book's already been written though, the Bible. And it's a living book, meaning all of us are currently being writ into it. In truth, I don't do much if the insights or the work. I just read back the chapters of people's lives to them, pointing out the insights they already have inside but had forgotten or cannot see because they're currently in some darkness. Reading in the dark is hard, eh? All I do is try to bring some light. Ain't my light either. Was given to me for free, by God. So I just give it out for free. What was given for free I try to give for free. That's the divine instruction, I'm just following it best I can. I can fail at it too same as anyone.

Internal darkness is something we will always have. Same as we will always cast a shadow. All that we can do is make sure the shadow is cast behind us, so that it's not leading us. If it's cast forward, it's leading us. Means we walk away, with the source of light behind us.

If the shadow is cast back, it means we are at least walking towards the source of light. Means we are on the right track. We still have the shadows the darkness, but it's not leading us. We are leading it. That way you can at least know you imperfectly walk the right path. It's all any of us can do.

>>33376739
That's true Anon, I can see that you are a really good person so keep walking that path. I hope I can become strong enough to talk it too. It's true that I'm bitter over my looks but it's also something that I probably brought upon myself by acting like a degenerate, maybe it took a toll on my body. It sucks because I used to be reasonably okay looking but those days are gone now. It's very likely due to my own fault but all I can do is face the consequences of my actions

>>33376760
Well, looks are looks. You probably heard the whole spiel about how you shouldn't be focusing on skin-deep stuff and all that stuff. You probably know it very well, cognitively, intellectually. Feeling is another matter. We can pretend to be OK with balding (I am thinning too) and wax so many intellectual reasons why it's not a big deal, but it'll still feel like a big deal. That's normal. It's cuz feelings and thoughts rarely, if ever, see eye-to-eye.

I could talk all day about thoughtful reasons not to care about hair loss, but it won't matter cuz I'll also do that thing when no one is looking, yknow? Lifting my hair and checking in on the hairline, like I'm licking my wounds lol.

That's normal. No man enjoys losing hair. So, let yourself feel bad for it. Just try not to identify as being bad for feeling bad. You can feel like absolute crap and are allowed to. Doesn't mean you are crap for feeling crap, yeah? I don't think you are vain for feeling bitter about your looks. You're just someone who is honest about it. Some guys are good at bottling up the sore feelings for hair loss, some are better at just being blunt about it. You're the latter.

>>33376774
I'm sorry that you are going through that too but I guess many men have to endure it at some point. Good thing is that from what I can gather here you have many positive qualities to make up for it, even though hair loss is not necessarily that bad as there are ways to pull it off. I guess I need to find a way to feel good about myself regardless of the way that I look, let's see how that one goes lol

Oh and thank you so much for replying to me, I think it was really insightful. I need to meditate upon it further but it did make me think

>>33376791
>guess I need to find a way to feel good about myself regardless of the way that I look, let's see how that one goes lol

Might I suggest honesty? That's most likely your strength. Probably something that you got punished for by others too. Honesty is a mercurial gift. It means being honest enough to verbalise both the good and the bad. You seem to have no issues voicing both. That's honesty, and it's something to be respected.

And no problem, brother. God bless you and take care

>>33376794
Oh yeah, most people don't like honesty, I even have a hard time dealing with it myself but running from it only makes the problem worse, learned that the hard way

Thank you brother, God bless you, have a lovely day

>>33376422 (OP)
I've known several girls like that. One of them lived with me for a while, because she was my gf's friend and broke up with her bf so she invited her to stay with us.

I'll tell you what, living sith someone like this removes any and all allure they would have. I viewed this girl like my retarded little sister. She said and did the dumbest shit. They're all mentally ill and retarded. She showed me her boobs a few times which was nice but other than that nah. Would never ever date someone like this.