>>33376597Hm. I might regret weighing in here, buuut it might help ya, OP.
She was dick-drunk. Or dopamine-drunk, whatever term you prefer.
Do you realize how much of a chemical high sex actually is? Especially when it’s with someone new and you’re still in that mind bending crush/infatuation phase? Romeo and Juliet, man.
This chick sounds like me. Funny.
Let’s break it down line by line.
>sex after 3 dates, fucked for hours moved too quickly.
>she told me about her bad childhood. ouch, red flag! also another reason sex happening that soon is moving too quick.
>she felt happy, content and also felt calmed by youthat’s what sex does. It forces women into a hormone flooded state to encourage emotional bonding/the possibility of a pregnancy and a relationship that will facilitate that pregnancy surviving. (men also have an emotional attachment, they just might find it easier to detach from it.)
She’s got emotional wounds from that bad childhood that she likely hasn’t dealt with fully, especially if she’s jumping in bed with a guy that quick. Doesn’t sound like y’all were friends for a while first or knew each other beforehand. She’s jumping into shit based on her feelings — and her feelings aren’t worth a puddle of water. She barely knows you. Trauma dumping her life shit on you isn’t being emotionally mature or healthy. She’s just seeking reassurance for being a fuck-up/slut by pinning her bad choices on her sad, sad life. Being a slut is honestly a cope for a lot of abused women (and some men) — but there’s a reason it’s not socially acceptable. You truly lose any sense of loyalty and commitment. You lose respect and dignity.
(Man or woman — show me a truly “happy” slut.)
Trust me, I’ve been right where she is. You can’t save her OP, and it’s not your fault she left. The drugs wore off, and she wants a new fix (dick). She jumped into fucking you too quickly and feels ashamed of it.
