Has anyone been able to course correct a codependent relationship? My girlfriend is prone to episodes of heavy neediness, jealously towards any friends of mine that is a woman, angry outbursts if I'm 'slacking' on romance, or sex. We live together (I thought it would help haha) & I'm genuinely excited to spend time with my girlfriend when I have a chance & it often turns in to me arguing "why are you complaining when we can just make plans & enjoy our time together now?"

As if I'm supposed to quit my job & pour 40 hours a week into making her feel good. I definitely fed into this codependency at the beginning of our relationship, we have been going to couples therapy talking about the matter, but at this point it feels like all talk no change. I don't want to sit down & talk about our childhood for the actual 40th or 50th time I want to have a healthy sustainable relationship.

I'm sick of hearing that she will be less clingy or less demanding. I'm a cheesy lovey dovey guy & I'm not shy about that, I'll take her out & make her feel special every chance I get but it I feel like I NEED to do it or else she'll blow up on me it just destroys my enthusiasm.

>>33377718 (OP)
I won't read how to fix third party threads. Not only is it hard enough to fix OPs but, in this case, it's also a partner selection criteria issue.

>>33377718 (OP)
Codependency is horse shit. What I'm saying is it doesn't exist and/or isn't a problem if it does. I used to believe it existed, I bought into the psychobabble too. Then years later I realized it's total horse shit. You're paying that therapist for nothing. All they are going to do is harp on and on about being an individual in a relationship and how you shouldn't let relationships define you and everything you do etc etc. Sounds cool.

Except the stupid Freudian fuckheads forget one thing: That is exactly what happens naturally when you get married. Big 'bad' codependency. The woman even takes your name for God's sake. You both legally become one family, one household. Oh no looks like the therapist is telling you how to live as though you are unmarried. Big fucking oops. Enjoy fighting the conflicting information when you think fo engaging to marry. You just paid to get gaslit, lol.

>we live together (I thought it would help haha)

Haha yeah you wonder why your GF treats the relationship as a marriage when you chose to live as though you were by living together.