Should i start a fwb relathionship with an older guy, or should i wait till i find a boyfriend and lose my virginity to him? I am 18f, i am lonely and never go out really. I dont go to school and dont have any hobbies where i could meet people, So the chances of me finding a boyfriend my own age are really low right now. Will i be useless once i lose my virginity, do guys in this age care about it much? Should i feel shame about having sex?

>>33378791 (OP)
Gentlemen, this is what a LARP looks like. Don't respond.

we are in the exact same boat holy freak. i feel like you understand me. i've been thinking of going on tinder but idk ...

if u like older men anon i say go for it. u have that option at least ... i'm not into older men so i'm putting it off as long as i can x_x

>>33378800
Its not, i dont know if im affected by purity culture. But i feel like losing my virginity is a big thing, should i keep on saving it for a boyfriend im not sure i will even have in the next years. or just lose it now. Also what would i get out of making a fake post like this

>>33378802
I dont know if this is larp but if its not then hello soulsister

>>33378810
not larp either!!
i got into my first relationship a few months ago (though he broke up with me) and when i told him i was a virgin he seemed really put off, though said that he was too (he lied to me abt this) and wanted to do it when we were together longer and make it special. i think boys our age feel weird about taking virginities, i dont think an old man would care too much though. might even like the "corruption" aspect

>>33378828
Im just scared that i will feel used after im no longer virgin. Maybe i will just give him a blowjob and save my virginity for my boyfriend, if i ever get one. I really dont know what to do, is virginity really even a real thing? Will not being a virgin ruin my future relathionships.

>>33378791 (OP)
Bait.

>>33378844
How is it bait, i just want to know what men think about non virgin women. Am i too retarted to lose my virginity if i think so much about this

>>33378841
i have this thought too, it's really scary for us femcels out there. just know that sexual encounters can be surprisingly exhausting - learned that from being unable to do hand stuff for longer than 10 minutes v_v;;

>>33378860
ppl on here think anyone claiming to be a girl is bait, dw about it

>>33378841
You will feel used. If this isnt bait, then all the anons calling bait should give you a clue of how massively retarded you are being.

>>33378908
Please do, there is a reason why im asking 4chan this and not my friends. (I dont have any)

>>33378791 (OP)
assuming it's not bait: it's extremely important to men. do not give your virginity to a guy that you aren't 100% sure you want to marry and have his babies. period

I'm a dude and I have had sex with many girls but I would have not married my wife if she had not been a virgin. It's unfair and selfish but it's also unfair how much easier it is to have sex as a woman so it evens out.

There are dudes who don't care, that's true. However I wanted a traditional marriage where she stays at home and raises my kids, and many men who want that will absolutely care about it.

>>33378791 (OP)
>Will i be useless once i lose my virginity, do guys in this age care about it much?
On 4chan it's the most important thing in the world; anywhere else, no one cares even the tiniest bit.
>Should i feel shame about having sex?
Men on 4chan want you to; no one else cares.

Whether you get involved with a particular guy should depend on whether you want to, whether he wants to, whether either of you is seeing someone else, and whether seeing him makes you happy - not just when you're with him, but in general.

>>33378791 (OP)
my only advice, make the dude wait if you get in a relationship, don't get pressured into having sex EVER, it should be with someone you love because the wrong guy can damage your sexuality. Just be aware and take your time, there is no rush

>>33380172
I mean its not really a real relathionship as it would be friends with benefits. He is 45 and i am 18, im thinking i should maybe back out but i dont currently see any other way i could be intimate with someone, and i want to be. But should i grow up a little before i sleep with somebody older?

Yes, start a fwb relationship with an older guy. It's called having a sugar daddy.

>>33380332
(NTA) If you want to get involved with the guy because you find him very attractive, and he is pleasant, and fun and he treats you well, and because being with him makes you happy, then go for it. But the way you're talking about it is weird. You make it sound as if you're desperate to have sex with literally anyone, and you don't particularly want it to be him, but no one else is available.

If that's actually how you feel then that's a crazy reason to get involved with someone. 18 is a perfectly good age to be having sex, but you should never have sex with anyone unless you really want to have sex WITH THEM. If you just want to have sex with SOMEONE then you should wait until the right person comes along.

>>33380506
I kind of am, i have no friends and no connections . And recently i have been really horny. Im autistic so i dont feel like i can connect with another human right now, i am too weird to be somebodys girlfriend