i have been with my lover for over a year and a half now but there are a few things that have made me feel worthless or not special to him, even if i know that is not true...

>he likes loli
>he likes furry porn a lot and has like a thousand files of that stuff
>does drugs, he says he can have a healthy relationship with drugs
>has a lot of sex toys
>usually doesn't talk or is sleeping because he is unemployed and stays in his room all day
>he's been this way since he was 15 and since i recently came to his life, i gave up and realized i will never be able to fix him

i don't want to leave him but it does pain me to see him doing this to himself, it feels like he is "winning" and making me feel like i'm seething everytime i think about him, because i think that he's watching or doing that sort of stuff and i can't help but get upset.

mostly because i am still a virgin and he is so experienced, but i try my best. i love him so much and really need help. thank you.

>>33379344 (OP)
It doesn't sound like he is going to change. You either accept that you will be married to a druggie neet or you leave him

>>33379354
i accept him fully, but i really want him to change, at least somewhat, even if it's just one little thing that he changes, that will make me the happiest person ever

>>33379375
>i accept him fully
>i really want him to change
which is it?

>>33379384
well... i'm not really sure, i do want him to change just a bit though, that would mean he does have interest in committing in being better for himself and for me and his family, etc

>>33379391
He doesn't seem to be interested in changing, so, yeah, you should leave him

> He likes loli
> He likes furry porn
> He is unemployed

You literally can’t do worse than him. Dump his ass and you won’t have to look hard to find someone worthwhile.

You can still date a loser too, just maybe a loser who makes you feel worthwhile?

>>33379642
well, maybe he is a loser, but i need him, and he needs me too, i think. i won't dump him because he promised me we are a team and we can figure out how to work things out, and the only reason i feel hurt is because i'm still processing the things he enjoys.

i really want to grow old with him, he is almost 31 and i think he needs me more than ever now

>>33379344 (OP)
>he likes loli
Unfixable. If you are not a child, you must find someone else.

>>33379775
Is this a ldr?

>>33379781
i actually asked him one time if he would have liked me when i was an 11 y.o since he likes porn of lana from pokemon, he said, "well, you're a person, not a fictional character"

>>33379820
>well, you're a person, not a fictional character
How in fuck's name are EITHER of you in this relationship, neither of you has a motive.
Just be friends who share porn of Faputa with each other

>>33379829
nah man, i hate porn, i know, ironic

He doesn’t need you if he’s a 31 year old NEET. You aren’t good for him. You’re enabling scum and you don’t have the self respect to move on.

He’s busted more nuts to underage cartoons and gaping wolf assholes than he’s busted on or in you when you’ve been “together” for almost two years?

It takes effort to be a team, and he hasn’t kept up his end of the bargain. You’ll never find happiness with a man like that.

>>33379344 (OP)
How poor is your opinion of yourself to have such low standards you'd date someone like this?

>>33379344 (OP)
>mostly because i am still a virgin and he is so experienced, but i try my best. i love him so much and really need help. thank you.

Never understood this female mentality. Seeking out experienced males sexually. I get the logic, I do. Women think experienced man = he will have experienced women = he will know to be gentle in his speech and his actions with you and won't hammer you around like a fuck doll or take out tantrums on you.

Makes sense. Except it stops making sense the minute you refuse to consider what type of experience does the man have? Is it experience in being a deadbeat degenerate who only treats women like holes and housemaids, stabd-ins for his mom? Or experience in being a functional man who has male efficiency and has strength as well as kindness?

That's the part you failed to consider and what most young women today fail to consider. A man's Experience does not always guarantee a good mate. Sometimes it guarantees the opposite. Someone who has a history of being a user and leech will often remain that way.

>>33380192
i am a guy. i also never had any idea he enjoyed that sort of thing and was expecting he would also be a virgin until he told me he isn't, honestly it's fine by me that he is not a virgin

>>33380578
Oh, you're another retarded internet-chronic homo probably groomed on discord or whatever degen community you met this guy. Should have led with that. Is this shit fucking real? I can't believe people invite these things to happen to them. You're pathetic dude. Seek Christ. Or just off yourself. What is wrong with you AND him

>>33380687
no, man, i am not internet-chronic, i didn't even know he liked porn

>>33379344 (OP)
>i don't want to leave him
Why the hell not?

>>33380712
You're still a fucking moron. You don't "love" someone like that. You are naive and probably young, and clearly don't have standards. You're probably just desperate and have something painfully inbalanced and codependant with this person. How little self respect must you have to think you love what you described. I can't imagine putting up with that for a man who not only wastes his time and lets himself go, but is also well past his years of ever changing that. What the fuck are you on to call this guu your "lover" if you're a virgin?? Whatever the nature of this situation is, it is not love. It can't be