Girlfriend better than me - /adv/ (#33380275) [Archived: 233 hours ago]

Anonymous
7/18/2025, 11:07:06 AM No.33380275
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Been dating a girl for about half a year, things have been going good, but the thing is I never really understood what she sees in me, and I can't help but feel like once the honeymoon phase ends and she really begins to understand she's going to realize I'm a loser and leave me. This has recently really been on my mind because she's gotten into a lot of my interests and hobbies and has quickly surpassed me in all of them. I always thought guys who got bent out of shape about not being better than their girlfriend at things were sad but now I've come to realize it's not about ego, it's about the fact that once a girl realizes she's superior to you, it's only a matter of time until they move on to find someone better than themselves.

I don't even know what I'm asking here but I feel like it's just a matter of time till it blows up in my face. Am I crazy?
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Anonymous
7/18/2025, 11:09:04 AM No.33380280
>>33380275 (OP)
If she's better than you in everything then maybe she's more emotionally mature as well and won't leave over superfluous things
Anonymous
7/18/2025, 11:37:24 AM No.33380308
>>33380275 (OP)
If she's really that clever, I think you can probably let her decide what she wants, rather than treating her like a child and making the decision for her.
Anonymous
7/18/2025, 5:40:58 PM No.33381410
>>33380275 (OP)
When I met my lady she was way out of my league. Gorgeous, kind, educated, smart as hell, confident, comes from money, confident, genuinely the full package. In contrast I had OK looks that I hadn't grown into yet (only 18 at the time), just graduated highschool, I was funny but didn't have any prospects or goals and was kind of burning out dealing with a rough past and weed use to cope.
I like to think she saw potential in me, I came from a dirt poor family and refused to let that become my fate. She was always supportive of me when I wanted to try something new, excited when I wanted to try a new opportunity, patient when I was broke and even helped me with bills during covid even before she moved in.
Eventually I found a career to pursue head first and I'd like to think her investment in me paid off, I'm making more money than I ever have, can fix damn near anything which has been a massive help for us and her family, I've become pretty attractive and we still love as deeply and fiercely as the day we met after all these years.

TLDR; If you don't feel like you're enough for her, be better bit by bit until you are. Potential can be enticing for women.