We got along pretty well initially due to similar personalities and life stories. But over time I noticed that he embodies many character traits that I started to despise in myself, being the worst one the overindulgence in self-pity. Otherwise, he's a pretty chill and suportive guy, but my gut is telling that I'll not move away from my depressed loser phase and "man up" in life until I cut off all contact with him.

>>33380445 (OP)
if you think "manning up" means you cut off friends who might need you, you're far from being a man.

You're projecting your own insecurities on to your friend then blaming him for them, removing him from your won't fix yourself.

>>33380445 (OP)
It sounds to me like you know what you want to do, you just want us to give you permission.

>>33380460
What do you suggest instead
>>33380463
Yeah, it really looks so

>>33380460
Avoid people who "need" you

>>33380445 (OP)
My best friends are content with being NEETS or not pursuing higher education for a better job than entry level. I still care about them a lot but I've had to distance myself a lot while I bust my ass to build a better life.

Don't cut them out, just don't be as available.