Should only people who can honestly say they want nothing more than to be together forever get married? If there is any doubt as to whether you really want that, should they answer be "no"? Or will that mindset create unnecessary loneliness/unhappiness down the line?

Im with someone I enjoy being around, I enjoy the companionship, I enjoy the sex, but if you ask if I want to be with only them for the rest of my life no matter what? Ehh...

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>>33381568 (OP)
You can't say with certainty what will happen down the line. The only thing you can do is make sure that you give it your honest shot. You're gonna hit points with anyone where you don't get the same thrills that you once did. Is that person worth it to you to push through that rut and get back to feeling good again? You focus on that, and time will do what it does best while you're distracted

>>33381948
if I've been in a rut for a few years how do I figure out whether it's them or something else? I wanna take a few weeks break to be on my own and try to figure things out but every relationship advice place screeches that just means things are over, usually with the context of "if you ever don't want to be around your significant other, it means you don't really love them and should break up"

which I think is dumb advice but it seems really common

>>33382266
It can mean anything. I'll tell you to be careful how you appoach things. Understand that it might not be your relationship that is the ultimate problem but something inside of yourself that's searching for purpose or control. Look at other things in your life and pick apart things that wear down on you. Evaluate if you need something regarding personal growth to make you feel fulfilled. Now look at all of those things in measure alongside your partner and how things change in positive or negative ways because of them. When you're not feeling this particular way, how are you usually feeling about them, etc. Are you communicating problems, etc.